A Little Vent
@just4him (323168)
Green Bay, Wisconsin
November 12, 2019 4:54pm CST
Some of you know the trouble I've had with my oldest. Getting along has never been our strong suit. He called a few weeks ago and told me what not to give his daughter for her birthday. You might recall that post. I couldn't bring myself to be happy, going to the birthday party, but I did my best.
I called him a couple of days ago to let him know I had a phone and wanted to know when we could get together for the dinner with Mom I want to have with my children. He said he would get back to me.
He did. Today, a little while ago. He went off on me about the birthday party and how he thought I was a B and told me to stay out of his life. So, that's it. All I can do now is pray for him. Nothing ever works with him. I've tried so hard to treat him the same as my other children even when he treats me like yesterday's trash. I guess a relationship wasn't meant to be. I'll need to be content with the pictures I have of my granddaughter because with the way it looks, I'll never see her again.
I have the notifications for the 6th done now and it's time to work on my book. I need to get at least the quota and hopefully more with the limited time, I'll have working on it this week.
I still have one more post to write for today - the thankful post. I do have things to be thankful for and will share those before I go to bed. Time to write. I hope you had a good day. Thanks for reading.
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@Alexandoy (65302)
• Cainta, Philippines
13 Nov 19
That's a nasty statement to tell a mother. I'm sorry to hear that. You son is lucky that I am not his brother for I don't know what would happen to him when we meet.
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@Alexandoy (65302)
• Cainta, Philippines
13 Nov 19
@just4him just like my 2 sisters who are both indifferent to their brothers.
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@Juliaacv (56195)
• Canada
13 Nov 19
I am sorry that you are going thru this.
I have a brother that is mean to everyone and pushes them away.
He is a lonely man, people do not rust him and keep him at arm's length.
Hopefully your son finds a clear head and comes to you to mend fences and move on.
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I feel like there is 1 in every family.
@responsiveme (22923)
• India
13 Nov 19
Sorry about this... It hurts when people we love behave this way. I know this.
Glad you are writing a thankful post ,that's what Zi have learnt too ...To be thankful about the little things
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@Happy2BeMe (99353)
• Canada
12 Nov 19
So sorry to hear that. I know how heartbreaking it is.
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@Happy2BeMe (99353)
• Canada
13 Nov 19
@just4him I hope so too for your granddaughter too 
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@porwest (112717)
• United States
13 Nov 19
Very sad situation indeed. I feel for you. I really do. Not sure how things go sour, but they do. All you can do is what you can do. Maybe he will come around one day. Who knows? I know I had some rough times with my dad, but he was a cheater and ran off with a younger woman when I was in my teens, so there was a lot of animosity for a long time. He and I now have a good relationship. So, maybe there is hope. I wish the best for you, and you should NOT have to lose a relationship with your grandaughter over any of this. If he allows that to happen, sorry...but he's a loser.
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@hereandthere (45628)
• Philippines
13 Nov 19
what about his wife? will she also restrict access to you granddaughter?
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@hereandthere (45628)
• Philippines
13 Nov 19
@just4him it's disappointing if she would side with him in keeping your granddaughter away.
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@just4him (323168)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
13 Nov 19
@hereandthere I think she influenced him.
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@Letranknight2015 (52665)
• Philippines
13 Nov 19
He will regret that in the end, we all regret decision we make specially when the mother was the one patching things up. Which makes me happy that I have a mother that is loving and caring.
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@wolfgirl569 (135583)
• Marion, Ohio
13 Nov 19
So sorry about your son. Hopefully he changes soon.
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@wolfgirl569 (135583)
• Marion, Ohio
13 Nov 19
@just4him Thats so sad. Hopefully sooner. Thinking of you
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@just4him (323168)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
13 Nov 19
@wolfgirl569 Thank you. Overall, it was still a good day yesterday.
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@thelme55 (79311)
• Germany
13 Nov 19
I am so sorry Valerie of what your son told you. It hurts so much. I have put myself in your situation and it is indeed very painful. I hope and pray that he will change his attitude towards you. I am thankful to God that I have a son who looks up and very respectful to me.
I have put myself in your situation and it is indeed very painful. I hope and pray that he will change his attitude towards you. I am thankful to God that I have a son who looks up and very respectful to me.1 person likes this
@arunima25 (93194)
• Bangalore, India
13 Nov 19
I think that is the most terrible thing to happen with any parent child relationship. But then you are not at fault. You have given your best to make it work. Relationships are two way thing. It's his shortsighted attitude that's ruining the whole thing.
I am sorry for that. But I loved your attitude. To move on and be thankful to what you have. 
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@snowy22315 (208746)
• United States
13 Nov 19
I think some people just enjoy being difficult. Maybe one of your other kids will talk to him. I guess that is all you can hope for, and that he thinks better of his decisions.
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@just4him (323168)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
13 Nov 19
They want nothing to do with him or he with them.
He's been difficult all his life.
@crazyhorseladycx (39503)
• United States
14 Nov 19
sounds like yerself'n i need to join al-anon asap, hon. if'n i thought 't would do any good, i'd come visit'n flatten that fella out. sadly such'd not be 'ffective'n then i'd be'n jail.
i read where ya wrote 'f his troubles 'n his refusal to get the help needed. i dunno how he managed a gal 'n now a babe?? she needs to run screamin' like her hair's afire. then 'gain, they might jest be 2 peas'n a pod, 'r she's co-dependent.... i feel fer ya'n yer grand, hon. 1 person likes this
@Elizaby (6902)
• Pensacola, Florida
13 Nov 19
He will come back around at some point as he has done before when he "so call kicked " you outof his life but he does come back. Just keep him in prayer and hopefully one day he will totally set free from the bi-polarism that he suffers from. I will be praying that one day he will be in a place where he is delivered. In the meantime love him and remember him and the family in the upcoming holiday season.
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