It wasn't there a minute ago
By Judy Evans
@JudyEv (381837)
Rockingham, Australia
December 6, 2019 6:59am CST
The photo is of a dessert I had in France. It doesn't really relate to the discussion.
If you’re a male, do you have trouble finding things? Is your wife/partner better at finding things than you are? And if you’re female, do you find that your husband/partner misses items even when they’re right in from of him?
That happens all the time in our house. If Vince can’ find something, I go and get it for him. It’s easier than trying to explain where he should be looking. If I do try to explain, he says he’s looked and it’s not there. Time and again, I find it right in front of his nose but for some reason, he misses it.
Tonight he said we needed to put cooking oil on the order. I said there should be a full bottle as we bought two last time we went shopping. He said he couldn’t find it. I found it where he had just been looking. He said 'it wasn't there a minute ago'.
Then he said we were out of Dijon mustard. I said look in the pantry. We both stood there looking and it was right in front of him but he couldn’t see it.
I’ve given up telling him to have a ‘proper’ look or have a ‘woman’s look’. Although we joke about it, it p*sses him off as it happens time and time again. I think it is just a man thing. What's your opinion?
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@JudyEv (381837)
• Rockingham, Australia
7 Dec 19
That's what Vince always said. So then he took to asking me then attaching himself like a leech one step behind me and watching while I found it. He was looking over my shoulder when I found a knife he wanted and he said 'well, b*gger me!' He sounded so surprised. 
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@cperry2 (5608)
• Newport, Oregon
6 Dec 19
I sometimes set things down in places and forget where I put them. Usually I am good until my wife comes along and cleans. Often, even she doesn't know where she puts things when she is cleaning. She sticks things in places where they are out of sight. That is the key to her cleaning. I've tried to suggest to her if it something of mine, put it on my desk, I'll take care of it, but she doesn't remember when cleaning. It's like something kinda takes over her mind and only God knows what she does with things.
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@crazyhorseladycx (39503)
• United States
6 Dec 19
i'd giggle but this's been me 'f late. i'm constantly loosin' schtuff that aint really lost. i've torn this place 'part lookin' fer documents 'fter not findin' 'em where they belonged. guess what? when i'd given'p with the madness, i flipped the folder open'n there 't 'twas. 'nless the cat'n pup 're playin' tricks, i'm purty certain i'm jest losin' my mind.
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@crazyhorseladycx (39503)
• United States
7 Dec 19
@JudyEv i feel ya! i'm hopin' that this fergetfulness 'n sometimes 'blindness' leaves me soon. 'tis most maddenin'!
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@DocAndersen (54399)
• United States
6 Dec 19
I am on vince's side, the known ability to teleport cooking oil has been well documented!!!! :-)
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@DocAndersen (54399)
• United States
7 Dec 19
@JudyEv please do! my wife teleports things all the time!
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@Alexandoy (65302)
• Cainta, Philippines
6 Dec 19
It used to happen in our home but not too often. Now when something is misplaced we have the magic words.
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@Alexandoy (65302)
• Cainta, Philippines
7 Dec 19
@JudyEv oh it's related to religion and I guess it is only for Catholics.
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@JudyEv (381837)
• Rockingham, Australia
8 Dec 19
@Alexandoy Do you pray to St Anthony? He has found a lot of things for us from time to time - but his skills don't extend to finding the cooking oil. 
@moffittjc (128831)
• Gainesville, Florida
7 Dec 19
It's definitely a man thing.
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@moffittjc (128831)
• Gainesville, Florida
7 Dec 19
@JudyEv We're just too lazy to look, even when it's right there in front of us! haha
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@teamfreak16 (43571)
• Denver, Colorado
6 Dec 19
No, I totally do this all the time.
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@sunrisefan (28524)
• Philippines
8 Dec 19
I’m sure Vince was also asking where his glasses were and you told him they are on his forehead hehehe!
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@dgobucks226 (37621)
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8 Dec 19
Speaking from personal experience growing up I often could not find an item my Mom asked me to look for. I always thought it was the person providing the directions but it probably was as much my fault. So, I guess a man-Mars Women-Venus scenario. But if you asked me to locate that tasty dessert, I bet I find it
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@1creekgirl (44560)
• United States
6 Dec 19
Yeah, they can be clueless. We have a running joke that whenever he can't find something, I tell him it's behind the milk. That came from a video of Rita Rudner when her husband was standing in front of the fridge and couldn't find something.
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@JudyEv (381837)
• Rockingham, Australia
7 Dec 19
Sometimes he's lucky whatever it is doesn't bite him!
@arunima25 (93194)
• Bangalore, India
7 Dec 19
Well, it is an universal male syndrome and the symptoms are more severe when there is a female help aroundGo through several times a day
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@Butterfingers (66603)
• India
6 Dec 19
Am good at remembering things so it's not a man's thing
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