Three Days without an Answer at my Uncle's
By CarolDM
@CarolDM (203396)
Nashville, Tennessee
January 1, 2020 1:29pm CST
Have been trying to call my uncle for three days with no answer. Finally called his caretaker. She said, oh I thought you knew.
He was admitted to a hospice facility for an evaluation on Sunday evening. Nobody cared to let me know. So upset. I call him every day and something goes wrong, nobody calls. Frustrated does not even begin to explain how I feel.
All I know is an incident occurred on Sunday evening. He was admitted to hospice. And now I am being told he cannot be left alone. His regular caretaker will work Monday - Friday. He will stay in the facility on weekends. He will be home Friday.
I will take a step back and gather my thoughts. Just wanted to update those who so graciously asked about my uncle.
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@thislittlepennyearns (68162)
• Defuniak Springs, Florida
1 Jan 20
Are you able to see him right now? Or whatever happened does that get in the way of visits?
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@thislittlepennyearns (68162)
• Defuniak Springs, Florida
1 Jan 20
@CarolDM thats unfortunate. maybe you can call him?
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@ScribbledAdNauseum (104615)
• United States
1 Jan 20
Oh wow! I am sorry that you had to find out like this. That isn't right that you weren't informed already. So he will only stay at the hospice over the weekends?
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@LadyDuck (502148)
• Italy
2 Jan 20
I know how you feel and I am sorry. I called my mom every day and when she had a stroke nobody informed me, I called during two days and finally I asked my niece who said "I though my father had called you". This is rude, very rude. I hope your uncle will be well.
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@crazyhorseladycx (39503)
• United States
2 Jan 20
aw, hon. i'm so saddened by this news. i reckon yer not down's someone to call'n case 'f emergency? i'd be seein' 'bout gettin' that fixed. can sure 'nderstand yer bein' 'pset. no doubt y'ave been most stressed by the silence. not fer certain how that works? him bein' home durin' the week 'n there'n the weekends/holidays? does she stay with him 24/7?
thanks fer the 'pdate though, will keep y'all close 't heart. 
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@crazyhorseladycx (39503)
• United States
2 Jan 20
@CarolDM do ya reckon his 'nough faculties that he could designate ya fer such? if'n not, i'd be speakin' with his closer kin to see if'n such could be 'rranged. how horrible fer ya to sit 'n wonder, fearin' the worst.
yer welcome, hon. 'lways got'n ear'n heart fer ya.
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@CarolDM (203396)
• Nashville, Tennessee
2 Jan 20
@crazyhorseladycx Unfortunately his late wife left two daughters and they are in charge.
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@moffittjc (128824)
• Gainesville, Florida
1 Jan 20
When Hospice is involved, doesn't that mean you check in but don't check out? Sorry, not trying to be funny in this situation, but it just struck me as odd that he stays at Hospice on weekends and goes home during the week. I've never heard of that before. But then again, I don't know too much about Hospice other than the experience I had with my own mother.
Anyway, sorry you received such bad news, and that nobody contacted you. Do they expect his health to decline rapidly at this point? Are you able to go visit him, even though it's so far away?
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@moffittjc (128824)
• Gainesville, Florida
1 Jan 20
@CarolDM I forgot about the in-home option for Hospice. Originally, they were going to set that up for my mom, but her health ended up going downhill faster than they thought, so she ended up being admitted to the Hospice ICU. I don't think she made it a week after she was admitted.
I hope your uncle hangs on and lives out many more wonderful days.
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@CarolDM (203396)
• Nashville, Tennessee
1 Jan 20
No, it has changed to where you can stay at home and be under hospice now. He has been on hospice for over six months now. But right now he is an inpatient. There are different facilities and the one he is at now is for inpatient treatment and they have an ICU as well.
They do not know, it is a wait and see situation. I can't go right now.
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@CarolDM (203396)
• Nashville, Tennessee
1 Jan 20
@moffittjc I hope he does too but i know he has to be so confused right now, not knowing where he is.
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@Tina30219 (82978)
• Onaway, Michigan
1 Jan 20
That is terrible they did not notify you. I hope things get better for him soon.
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@wolfgirl569 (135583)
• Marion, Ohio
1 Jan 20
Sorry to hear that. Someone could have called to let you know.
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@DianneN (254949)
• United States
1 Jan 20
@CarolDM I can only imagine. What I don’t understand is why send him home on Friday and admit him for weekends? Could it be because the caretaker only works during weekdays?
All that back and forth couldn’t be good for him either.
And no one notifying you is insane!
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@Michellekidwell (29953)
• Sonora, California
2 Jan 20
I am sorry he has declined, I’ll be praying!
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@LindaOHio (222222)
• United States
1 Jan 20
Oh, no! How terrible that they didn't let you know. I'm glad he will have someone with him all the time though. Do you know what happened?
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@jnrdutton (3447)
• United States
1 Jan 20
Sorry he had to be admitted to hospice.
Glad you know what's going on now @ least,
shame that you weren't told sooner.
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