He thought he was charming
By AmberLynn
@ScribbledAdNauseum (104615)
United States
January 23, 2020 10:59am CST
There is a discussion that @Bensen32 started about a customer he witnessed while getting some lunch meat at the deli counter.
It made me think of another customer that I've had experience with, I'll tell you about him below.
No one really liked the man. He had this air about him. He obviously thought highly of himself, but he tried to have this charm about him too. At the time, I was a cashier and he, his wife and their cute baby would come in during the night. There were a few things I didn't like about the man.
1) It was obvious to me that he was abusive towards his wife. I couldn't see any bruises, but I just felt it in the way she acted around him. You could tell that she was being fake, as soon as he turned his head her shoulders would droop and her frown would reappear. I also believe she flinched a few times when around him.
2) He was always forgetting something or going back to shop for more. They always had such big cart fulls of groceries as well, so going back for more, it just annoyed me.
3) He kept trying to win me over, but I wouldn't budge. I knew the type of man he was, and I didn't like it. I was only as courteous as I had to be.
*This was several years ago now and so I don't remember somethings about the guy as well as I once did.
Have you ever come across a rude customer, either as a customer yourself or as an employee of a company?
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@LindaOHio (222222)
• United States
23 Jan 20
Many, many times. I really dislike rude people.
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@ScribbledAdNauseum (104615)
• United States
23 Jan 20
I really wish that employees were able to call people out on being rude without the risk of losing their jobs. No one should verbally abuse another person just because they work in a grocery store, gas station, or restaurant.
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@ScribbledAdNauseum (104615)
• United States
23 Jan 20
@LindaOHio I can imagine their frustrations, but I don't think cursing is called for.
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@LindaOHio (222222)
• United States
23 Jan 20
@ScribbledAdNauseum I worked in customer service for a salt company for 10 years. You should hear the mouths on these road maintenance people when it snows and they can't get salt quick enough to their liking.
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@Bensen32 (28658)
• United States
23 Jan 20
Oh yea, come across them all the time in both situations. To many people think cause they are the customer they are always right and that is so not true. Sometimes a customer can make or break your business but this is rare. Sometimes your drama is not worth your business.
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@ScribbledAdNauseum (104615)
• United States
23 Jan 20
It amuses me that the internet now calls these rude customers "Karens". Ya know, the ones that want to see a manager etc.
I just think that the grocery chains etc should allow their employees to call out a rude customer when they are being rude. No one should be abused like that.
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@ScribbledAdNauseum (104615)
• United States
23 Jan 20
@Bensen32 Oh, I know it's like that. Employers would rather let their employees be verbally abused than to do something about it.
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@Bensen32 (28658)
• United States
23 Jan 20
@ScribbledAdNauseum Yea, but I think one they don't want to lose customers and it might have something to do with not trying to set off a customer. Just let them leave without starting more of an issue.
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@ScribbledAdNauseum (104615)
• United States
23 Jan 20
I hope you do not as well. There are some very rude and impatient people in this world.
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@ScribbledAdNauseum (104615)
• United States
23 Jan 20
@rakski I think that life moves so fast, people have to have things now... It makes people grumpy and so we hear about more and more mean, not so nice, grumpy customers.
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@1creekgirl (44560)
• United States
23 Jan 20
Your question reminded me of a delivery man who delivered packages to our work place years ago. He was always rude and never friendly. I found out later that his wife was dying of cancer at the time, so I've tried to give people the benefit of the doubt when I can. But that customer you had sounds like a jerk.
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@ScribbledAdNauseum (104615)
• United States
23 Jan 20
I think it's important to give people the benefit of the doubt, but I know it's not always easy to do so. I am sorry to hear that his wife was dying of cancer, and I can't blame him for being so rude.
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@ScribbledAdNauseum (104615)
• United States
24 Jan 20
@1creekgirl I am sure you did but you had no way of knowing, and you had a right to air your grievances.
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@1creekgirl (44560)
• United States
24 Jan 20
@ScribbledAdNauseum I felt really bad about complaining about him to other workers when I found out.
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@ScribbledAdNauseum (104615)
• United States
23 Jan 20
You should count yourself lucky not to have come across someone like this, and yes I felt so bad for the wife.
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@ScribbledAdNauseum (104615)
• United States
23 Jan 20
@thelme55 I know that a lot of people are unintentionally rude when they feel harried, but I've seen and heard of alot of people that are intentionally rude because they feel they are entitled to it. How sad!
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@thelme55 (79311)
• Germany
23 Jan 20
@ScribbledAdNauseum Yes, I am lucky indeed.
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@amitkokiladitya (171988)
• Agra, India
23 Jan 20
Yes and i cant stand such people
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@ScribbledAdNauseum (104615)
• United States
23 Jan 20
They really need to be knocked down a few pegs.
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@amitkokiladitya (171988)
• Agra, India
24 Jan 20
@ScribbledAdNauseum i often end up losing my temper
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@ScribbledAdNauseum (104615)
• United States
24 Jan 20
@amitkokiladitya I tend to as well, but then I lose my temper quickly when it comes to those types of things.
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@shaggin (74988)
• United States
23 Jan 20
@ScribbledAdNauseum probably to terrified.
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@ScribbledAdNauseum (104615)
• United States
23 Jan 20
@shaggin Yes, or a matter of oh, what's that thing called where they begin to admire or trust their captor? I mean, she was married to him.. but you know what I mean.
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@ScribbledAdNauseum (104615)
• United States
23 Jan 20
Yes. If I had seen any physical evidence, or if she had slipped me a note... But she never did.
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@much2say (57760)
• Los Angeles, California
23 Jan 20
Was he kinda being flirty to you right in front of his wife? Oh yes, I've seen many rude customers throughout the years. And when I was on the customer service side, all I could really do is bite my lip and laugh it off if I could . . . in a job situation, it's hard to tell a customer to simply buzz off 
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.@much2say (57760)
• Los Angeles, California
24 Jan 20
@ScribbledAdNauseum Yep - some mean folks are fully aware and take advantage of the situation 
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@ScribbledAdNauseum (104615)
• United States
24 Jan 20
@much2say It really shows how mature they are and how much they seem to think of themselves over others. It takes someone with gusto to knock these type down a few pegs.
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@ScribbledAdNauseum (104615)
• United States
23 Jan 20
No, he wasn't being flirty.. He was just trying to seem overly nice.. Yes, I really wish that employees had more power to tell someone to buzz off, but unfortunately, they just have to take the abuse. Some of these mean people know it too,and will be extra annoying and rude because of it.
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@RebeccasFarm (91299)
• United States
23 Jan 20
Yes many times I have had rude clients and customers. We just had to get on with it, but I could be chilly to them without being rude back.
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@ScribbledAdNauseum (104615)
• United States
23 Jan 20
As I told Linda above, I really wish that an employee was able to call someone out on their rude behavior without fearing repercussions.
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@Plethos (13718)
• United States
23 Jan 20
oh many times! as an emplyee you just smile and right away call your manager to help the guy.
now as a fellow customer, i have been known to flat out tell people to quit being a$$e$ , then their displesure is directed at me and not the store employee.
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@ScribbledAdNauseum (104615)
• United States
23 Jan 20
I have done that a time or two, or if nothing else, I try to be very pleasant to the employee to sort of make up for the rude behavior.
I hate that the employees can't call people out on their rudea$$ behavior.
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@happylife1 (13403)
• Karachi, Pakistan
23 Jan 20
Yes friend one of my friend is rude to so many people
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@ScribbledAdNauseum (104615)
• United States
23 Jan 20
He is rude to cashiers, waitresses, store employees, etc?
