My Uncle is Going to Nursing Home

@CarolDM (203396)
Nashville, Tennessee
January 24, 2020 12:25pm CST
Had a difficult conversation with my uncle this morning. The step-daughters have decided it is time for him to go to a nursing home. It probably is time, but what a hard conversation I had listening to him being so sad. He said the last thing he wants is to leave his home. I tried my best not to break down on the phone. I told him the only thing changing would be his address. And the nurses taking care of him. I reminded him that I will continue to call him and visit when I can. And I told him he will be well taken care of. And if he is not, to let me know and I will call and straighten them out. He laughed and told me he now feels better and surrounded with love. He thanked me over and over again for always being there for him. The photo is his birthday card I sent him. He has it beside his phone and looks at it every day he said. I reminded him I will always be just a phone call away. He said I have no idea how much that means to him. He said he didn't feel so lonely after our talk.
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Eva James
@wolfgirl569 (135583)
• Marion, Ohio
24 Jan 20
Poor man. But I thought it might be coming. And yes you can still talk to him every day. Hopefully he will even make some new friends there.
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Eva James
@wolfgirl569 (135583)
• Marion, Ohio
24 Jan 20
@CarolDM Mt dad didnt want to go. But then I think he was happier once he was there. He was able to visit with people instead of waiting for them to come visit him.
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CarolDM
@CarolDM (203396)
• Nashville, Tennessee
24 Jan 20
I knew it was a matter of time.
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CarolDM
@CarolDM (203396)
• Nashville, Tennessee
24 Jan 20
@wolfgirl569 I know the initial change is the hardest. I worked at a facility for years and they often give up. But we will see.
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AmberLynn
@ScribbledAdNauseum (104615)
• United States
24 Jan 20
I am sorry to hear he is going to a nursing home, but it may be the best for him. Is the nursing home any closer to where you are?
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CarolDM
@CarolDM (203396)
• Nashville, Tennessee
24 Jan 20
No, it i in the same town he lives.
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AmberLynn
@ScribbledAdNauseum (104615)
• United States
24 Jan 20
@CarolDM Oh, well still close to his stepdaughters, right?
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CarolDM
@CarolDM (203396)
• Nashville, Tennessee
24 Jan 20
@ScribbledAdNauseum Yes but he is not happy about that.
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ShannyBananny
@shaggin (74988)
• United States
24 Jan 20
It is so hard for people when they reach that point and have to go into a nursing home. I wish we all could take care of ourselves until the day we die.
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ShannyBananny
@shaggin (74988)
• United States
24 Jan 20
@CarolDM maybe he will make new friends there and feel less lonely.
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CarolDM
@CarolDM (203396)
• Nashville, Tennessee
24 Jan 20
@shaggin I hope so, thank you.
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CarolDM
@CarolDM (203396)
• Nashville, Tennessee
24 Jan 20
I cannot imagine how I would feel. Very sad. But it may work out for the best.
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Tina Dalasinski
@Tina30219 (82978)
• Onaway, Michigan
24 Jan 20
Glad to hear he did not feel so lonely after your talk. That is nice that he keeps his card by him and looks at it daily. Yes keep a close eye on him some of those places can be bad and harm people
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Tina Dalasinski
@Tina30219 (82978)
• Onaway, Michigan
24 Jan 20
@CarolDM Right. Your welcome
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CarolDM
@CarolDM (203396)
• Nashville, Tennessee
24 Jan 20
Just wish I was closer. Thanks.
Alfredo Rossi
@amadeo (111937)
• United States
24 Jan 20
No one want to leave their home.I do not care for nursing home.I hear bad vibes.I would never ever go there.
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Alfredo Rossi
@amadeo (111937)
• United States
24 Jan 20
@CarolDM yes I can see that.So sorry.How does he feel about ti
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CarolDM
@CarolDM (203396)
• Nashville, Tennessee
24 Jan 20
@amadeo He told me it would not be his choice but he understands. He would prefer being at home, of course.
CarolDM
@CarolDM (203396)
• Nashville, Tennessee
24 Jan 20
He has no choice. I am sad today.
DianneN
@DianneN (254949)
• United States
24 Jan 20
Hopefully, your uncle will adjust and get excellent care. I’m glad you cheered him up. He’s so lucky to have you.
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DianneN
@DianneN (254949)
• United States
24 Jan 20
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CarolDM
@CarolDM (203396)
• Nashville, Tennessee
24 Jan 20
Thank you.
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Amber
@AmbiePam (120533)
• United States
24 Jan 20
Oh my. I can't imagine how hard that was. As long as he has your support I know he'll lovingly cling to that.
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CarolDM
@CarolDM (203396)
• Nashville, Tennessee
24 Jan 20
Thank you, yes it has been a hard day.
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snowy
@snowy22315 (208746)
• United States
25 Jan 20
No one wants to leave their home, but sometimes it has to happen. Glad you were there to help.
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Sharon
@simone10 (54180)
• Louisville, Kentucky
25 Jan 20
What a difficult conversation you had. It is a sad situation and how wonderful that you made him feel so comfortable and loved.
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crazyhorseladycx
@crazyhorseladycx (39503)
• United States
7 Feb 20
aw, bless him! 'tis not pleasant makin' such a decision, but 'tis true from what'cha've written that he needs more care then the family can provide.
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CarolDM
@CarolDM (203396)
• Nashville, Tennessee
7 Feb 20
Yes it is time and he is so lost right now.
Angie
@andriaperry (118793)
• Anniston, Alabama
24 Jan 20
I fear that will be me one day, I have no children.
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CarolDM
@CarolDM (203396)
• Nashville, Tennessee
24 Jan 20
Same here. I put myself in his shoes and still have a sick feeling in the pit of my stomach.
LindaOH
@LindaOHio (222288)
• United States
25 Jan 20
I am sorry that your uncle has to go to a nursing home...maybe it's time though. You have always been there for him and will continue to be part of his support system. It's tough leaving your home. I can definitely understand where he's coming from.
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Arunima Singh
@arunima25 (93194)
• Bangalore, India
25 Jan 20
It is always tough to accept any new changes in life. I hope the nursing home really takes good care of him and he doesn't regret moving there. It's so nice of you to make him feel loved.
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Nevena Zivkovic
@Nevena83 (66063)
• Serbia
25 Jan 20
I have repeatedly said that you are a wonderful person and he is really happy to have you.
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CarolDM
@CarolDM (203396)
• Nashville, Tennessee
25 Jan 20
You are so kind. Thanks.
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OceanTiara
@RebeccasFarm (91299)
• United States
25 Jan 20
I am so sorry but hopefully he will be well cared for.
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rakski
@rakski (156247)
• Philippines
24 Jan 20
aw, maybe this is for the better rather than staying with stepdaughters
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Courtney
@Courtlynn (67089)
• United States
25 Jan 20
I'm sorry he has to leave his home and be put in a home. But sometimes that is for the best. And hopefully he doesn't have any issues there.
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NJ Chicaa
@NJChicaa (127116)
• United States
24 Jan 20
I am sad for him. That must be so difficult.
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G
@freelancermariagrace (29342)
• Philippines
25 Jan 20
I feel sad for him.
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Courtney Dutton
@MommyOfEli2013 (89474)
• Rupert, Idaho
25 Jan 20
Well I am sorry to hear he is going to a nursing home....but that is great that you can still call him and everything
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