Smart to Think Before You Speak
By CarolDM
@CarolDM (203396)
Nashville, Tennessee
February 3, 2020 2:57pm CST
My dear grandmother always taught me smart life lessons. Many stand out to this day as they did when she told me years ago.
One was to always think before you speak. Once you say the words, they can never be taken back. I have never forgotten that one.
I had a friend I went to school with and we have always kept in touch, call today. Not the one in an abusive relationship. But another one from far away.
I don't see her often but we email and text to catch up. For her to call, I thought something was wrong. She said things were ok but she had heard over the years many things she has never asked me about. One being how I always thought she was using me. And that I never considered her a friend.
Many things that caught me off guard. It has been about five years since I have even seen her. For her to actually believe what she hears, give me a break. I always considered her a friend. Never talked about her. I don't even see the people she mentioned that are supposedly talking.
Drama drama drama is what I thought the whole time. I did ask her if she really believed it and she did. When she was done I said I need to go, and I hung up. Sometimes you just have to walk away.
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@marguicha (230334)
• Chile
3 Feb 20
Is it the first time she has said such a thing?
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@Writingghost (5196)
• United States
4 Feb 20
@CarolDM Well at least it's only once. Walk away and if she comes back kind, consider it a strange one off, or maybe not! lol.
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@marguicha (230334)
• Chile
4 Feb 20
@Writingghost There is something wrong with her. Beware. You don´t want to be hurt.
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@snowy22315 (208746)
• United States
3 Feb 20
I guess I would like to know who was telling her such things. Why can't people mind their own business?
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@snowy22315 (208746)
• United States
3 Feb 20
@CarolDM So they say anyway, things like that are just so annoying and unfair.
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@CarolDM (203396)
• Nashville, Tennessee
3 Feb 20
@snowy22315 That is life a lot of the times. But I go on.
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@LindaOHio (222222)
• United States
3 Feb 20
I would have defended myself and then hung up.
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@LindaOHio (222222)
• United States
3 Feb 20
@CarolDM She didn't even question if it was true? What a #%#^#.
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@CarolDM (203396)
• Nashville, Tennessee
3 Feb 20
@LindaOHio Nope, she is not a friend. We learn hard lessons in life.
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@Writingghost (5196)
• United States
3 Feb 20
It sad to lose a friend, and yet more important to protect yourself.
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@CarolDM (203396)
• Nashville, Tennessee
3 Feb 20
@Writingghost I thought she did but now I am doubting all of those years.
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@Writingghost (5196)
• United States
3 Feb 20
@CarolDM Well I would like to think she at least tried at one time!
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@RebeccasFarm (91299)
• United States
4 Feb 20
It took me many years to learn to watch what I say.
Sorry that friend thought those things.
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@RebeccasFarm (91299)
• United States
4 Feb 20
@CarolDM Indeed not a friend I understand
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@GreatMartin (23670)
• Ft. Lauderdale, Florida
3 Feb 20
When I 'think' I get in trouble!! But your grandmother was right!
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@wolfgirl569 (135583)
• Marion, Ohio
3 Feb 20
So sorry. But she wasnt a true friend.
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@Alexandoy (65302)
• Cainta, Philippines
3 Feb 20
I like that adage - better to think twice. But now it can apply to forums to think twice before posting.
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@VoiceofTruth7 (1210)
• United States
20 Apr 20
What I think is that the people who where saying these things where maybe jealous of the friendship that you shared and wanted too cause an argument and stir up trouble to try and split you too up that is what I think.
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@Courtlynn (67089)
• United States
4 Feb 20
That's a shame she believed what she heard. Give it some time, then maybe talk it out. As to why she believed it all and what not.
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