Can love cease to be?
By eileenleyva
@eileenleyva (27555)
Philippines
June 10, 2020 5:12pm CST
Received a call from a cousin-in-law, said she's back to work though the office ain't what it used to be. The employees are still on shelter in place.
She narrated how it was with her two teens in the home, adrenaline repressed, but managed to channel the school work to home work, as in domestic chores.
I laughed. I had not seen the girls for ages, they might be tall and slender now.
My cousin-in-law mentioned that my aunt asked about me. I have stopped calling her years ago, for self-preservation. I know that people hurt the ones they love. But this one deliberately condescended my being. I believe that egregious. Thus, I stayed away.
As I was compelled to reflect on that after the call, I did ask my self if I have lost the love I had for my aunt. Can love cease to be?
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@eileenleyva (27555)
• Philippines
11 Jun 20
Insulted my person and was callous towards my mother's condition when she was alive. Been a decade now.
@Miracle_Maya (2244)
• India
11 Jun 20
Yes, very much possible. Love cannot be demanded and one needs to deserve to be loved. If your aunt still failed to create a good feeling in you after you genuinely tried to make things right between you two, then there's no necessity to force yourself to love her or to feel guilty about the relationship having turned sour. If she has destroyed it, she has to work on rebuilding it and it'll all be fine.
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@eileenleyva (27555)
• Philippines
13 Jun 20
Yes, my reasoning was exactly along that line. Thanks very much for the sound advice. Affirmed my faith and erased the anxiety.
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@rsa101 (40946)
• Philippines
19 Jun 20
@eileenleyva If that still happens when you call her might be a sign that better love her from a distance and avoid having contact with her as much as possible. But if the call wont be annoying as before then maybe it’s a sign to kiss and make up for the past years absent with one another.
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@rsa101 (40946)
• Philippines
19 Jun 20
@eileenleyva That may be true but you have to see to it that it doesn’t last too long that you have to bring it to your deathbed. Maybe just be open to what may come and if that would not be favorable to you then let it be. At least you’ve tried to do something about it.
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@eileenleyva (27555)
• Philippines
19 Jun 20
The last phone call we had simply ascertained she wanted me to feel ill of my self. Her voice became repulsive to my auditory nerves.
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@RasmaSandra (97912)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
11 Jun 20
I think you just cannot get over the anger but there is love underneath.
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@eileenleyva (27555)
• Philippines
11 Jun 20
No anger at all, just a sense of disbelief when I realized she has totally taken advantage of me as a person. I do believe deeply in the fourth commandment and never offended her, nor retaliated in any way. I subtly told her through narratives from homilies. The more she vilified me. Hu Hu.
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@eileenleyva (27555)
• Philippines
11 Jun 20
@RasmaSandra The Christian way of forgiving. Yes. Turning the other cheek.
I've swallowed my hurt and my pride more than enough. It seemed like my aunt did enjoy putting me down. Others, too, I gathered.
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@RasmaSandra (97912)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
11 Jun 20
@eileenleyva perhaps it is time for you to get in touch with her and see how it gors
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@eileenleyva (27555)
• Philippines
19 Jun 20
There is a truth in that. Our being humans make us frail. Thus we strive to be God-like.
@jayanth_77 (7179)
• India
11 Jun 20
Yes some people can be nasty but when they realise their mistake they tend to miss you and want to mend their ways .
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@eileenleyva (27555)
• Philippines
13 Jun 20
Not yet happening in my case. Hu hu.
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@therealanthony (483)
• Caracas, Venezuela
10 Jun 20
Love never disappears, only its intensity decreases, people never stop importing, and even less when the link is blood.
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@eileenleyva (27555)
• Philippines
11 Jun 20
That's a good perspective - intensity decreasing.
But what do you mean by 'people never stop importing?'
