Good thing I'm no shy

@kaylachan (84699)
Daytona Beach, Florida
October 13, 2020 2:22pm CST
I know I come off to a lot of people shy and guarded. For the most part that's true. This is due to my blindness, and not knowing when someone is trying to talk to me. That aside, in other aspects, I'm really not shy. I can't really afford to be. As I've said in a previous post, I'm also in a wheelchair. As a result, I deal with accessibility issues most people don't really face. Don't get me wrong, I'm grateful the ADA (Americans with Disabilities Act) past in 1990, but it could use a serious update in what is considered "accessible". Storytime: Last week, the bathrooms at Save-A-Lot were out of order (both of them), which was bad. I needed to use the restroom, So, I wen into SubWay. Due to social distancing, ingeneral the store was more open, as you would expect. Some people eating inside, okay well... fine. Get to the bathroom, guess what, the bathroom was far to small. Placment of things made it impossible to close the door or really transfer. So, I used the bathroom, anyway, but I could not close the door. I learned long ago, not to care if people saw me or what they think. I can't change who I am, nor would I want to. Though, I feel the word "accessibility" should be more clearly defined, because despite having grab bars, that bathroom was NOT accessible.
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@just4him (323168)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
14 Oct 20
I'm sorry the bathroom wasn't accessible. I'm glad you could still use it.
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@kaylachan (84699)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
14 Oct 20
I've had to learn to roll with the punches so-to-speak. I needed to go to the point it was painful, so I made it work. I've learned my way around tight places. And, my chair blocked the door, so I guess it was simi-private.
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@just4him (323168)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
14 Oct 20
@kaylachan Yes, we do learn to compensate when necessary. I'm glad it was semi-private.
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@sharonelton (30756)
• Lichfield, England
13 Oct 20
That's really bad. I'm really shy myself. I think it's because i have a bit of anxiety. I was bullied at school and I'm scared anyone I talk to is going to turn on me!
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@kaylachan (84699)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
14 Oct 20
I understand all to well. I was bullied a lot , too. For no real reason. While it did bother me sometimes (I am human), I also adopted an I-don't-care-what-others-think aditude. I think it allowed most comments to roll off my back. I was in a dark place for a while, too. Having a friend to talk to, can help. If you need someone, my inbox is open.
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@sharonelton (30756)
• Lichfield, England
15 Oct 20
@kaylachan Thank you very much, that's very kind of you.
@RebeccasFarm (91299)
• United States
16 Oct 21
I have noticed that about you Kayla you are not shy and I am glad of that
@sallypup (69157)
• Centralia, Washington
16 Oct 20
I'm sorry that happened. My husband happens also to have sight issues so he knows about discrimination. I'm glad you found a way to take care of yourself.
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@kaylachan (84699)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
16 Oct 20
If I learned one thing being disabled, is to be adaptive and creative. I have to be for survival. When I got my first wheelchair at the age of 18, I had to get even more creative. So, if anything, it's helped me grow as a person.
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@sol_cee (38669)
• Philippines
14 Oct 20
I agree. Establishment amenities should be more user-friendly to everyone
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@kaylachan (84699)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
14 Oct 20
They should be, I agree there. A lot of the larger chains do quite well, but every so often, I run into a place like Subway.
@Dena91 (17029)
• United States
14 Oct 20
Isn't there rules that public rest rooms have to be accessible since the ADA went into effect? I'm glad you could use the restroom but it seems a chain restaurant would have those things.
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@kaylachan (84699)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
14 Oct 20
Yes, you're right. However, the law around what is considered "accessible" is very loose. They installed grab bars, and that's all the ADA requires to consider the bathroom accessible due in large to the age of the strip mall where the subway is located. Grandfather policies annoy me to no end, but the ADA has a ton of them. I appreciate the concept, but the laws are far too loose. Many places remain inaccessible.
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