Jealousy doesn't get you anywhere

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I've gotten to this point in my life where I just try to be happy for people and not envious. It's so easy to be jealous of others when you see them having the life you may have wished for yourself but life is just too short to sit and wish for things that you can't have for one reason or another. Life is always going to be harder for some than others and as the saying goes "the grass is always greener" no one's life is perfect. Everyone is dealing with something. I don't like the feeling jealousy leaves me with. I want to be so busy living my life with those I love to be envious of what I don't have. I'm content with who I have in my life and while I occasionally feel sad when seeing people have something I want and by "something" I don't mean actual things but certain close relationships with their families or the ability to travel and do things. I don't care much about material things. I mean there are things I'd love to have but it doesn't bother me that someone else has it. I see people having multiple kids when I'd love to have one more but I've learned to be happy with what I have. I have one amazing kid when there are people who don't have any. It's ok to be sad from time to time but we shouldn't wallow in it. I'm where I need to be right now with who I need to be with. I have an amazing son and husband who I love and who love me. We aren't rich but we aren't dirt poor either. We get by which is more than others have. Just be content with what you have because while it doesn't seem like much to you it may seem like a lot to others. I can either sit here in wallow in all that I don't have or I can be grateful and appreciate all that I do have. Yeah, there are people who will have it a lot easier than me but there are so many people that have it so much worse. I don't have a lot by some people's standards but I have a lot by others. You need to take the hand you're dealt and strive to do better and even if everything is against you at least be grateful for whatever good you have in your life even if it doesn't seem like much. Jealousy doesn't do any good it doesn't get you anywhere. If you want better strive to do better. Sometimes that's easier said than done which I understand. I'd like to have more income but with the pandemic and my son needing to do homeschooling I can't work because the few people I know that would watch him aren't remotely tech-savvy. I can't afford childcare and I don't trust many people to watch him. We all make choices that we feel are the best for us and that means taking the negative things that come from those choices. Since my husband and I chose for me to stay home with our son that means we don't have a second income and that means other sacrifices. He isn't against me working but he has stated in the past he prefers me to be at home with our son so he knows he is safe and gets what he needs and always has one of us. My husband is a hard worker and he actually enjoys working a lot of the time and he has way more work experience than me and can do more than I can so it makes more sense for him to be the one that works plus I have more childcare experience and more patience than he does. We do what we do for our own reasons but we also have to make the sacrifices that come with those decisions. It doesn't make sense to be jealous over something when we made the decisions we made for whatever reason. If we choose not to go to college we won't get college level jobs. If we choose to go to college we will have a mountain of debt to pay (at least here in the US). We make choices and we need to live with whatever comes from those choices. Some people have easier lives than we do but that doesn't mean everything is always easy all the time for them. People get sick, people lose loved ones, celebrities' lives are never fully private no matter how hard they try. They get a ton of money but they also give up some level of privacy. It doesn't seem fair but it's part of what they get stuck dealing with. I believe they have a right to that privacy but with people like paparazzi, they always have to deal with some level of their private lives being exploited. Everyone is like "boo hoo it must be hard to have money" but the honest truth is they still deal with things. I imagine living life with money and being sad is easier than being sad without money but that doesn't mean their lives are perfect. I feel like some people are just luckier than others when it comes to certain things but success isn't all luck it's also effort and hard work and a certain amount of luck. You have to have some luck to have things fall a certain way because two people can do things the same way and not have the same outcome. There is always a certain amount of luck in there about things falling a certain way or being in the right place at the right time but that doesn't diminish the hard work they put in. That said again it doesn't do any good to be jealous or envious of someone else. Just learn to be happy for others. Just because it's not your moment doesn't mean you'll never get your moment whatever it might be. Sometimes things are just harder for some than others and that's ok. Just learn to deal with your life the best you can because life really isn't fair and we just need to learn to stop comparing and just start living.