Southern Hospitality ?
By bonnie
@bunnybon7 (50970)
Holiday, Florida
December 15, 2020 2:57pm CST
Growing up I was taught by grandma and women in the family that in your home all things work better around food for anyone that comes to visit or in general lives in your house a while. If I eat ,they eat. I don't like to think anyone is hungry. It's called Southern Hospitality. Grandma was from West Virginia.
So yesterday, Jaely asked me if I was hungry for lunch. I said sure what's in there? She had just bought groceries the day before I thought but obviously only had enough for that day. Because she tells me we have oats and junk food.
Seemed like I was the only one with a little money for food and very little. So I say get eggs and bread so everyone can eat. She gives me a funny look. Says mom I could just get a sandwich for you. Marissa probably has food card.
Finally Marissa fesses up to being able to buy food with her card. So we got a bunch of good food.
Was you raised to offer food to guests and not eat until others in the house have food available ? Clay said he doesn't understand that mentality. I am sure it's not just my family. Are young people forgetting about that now?
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@ScribbledAdNauseum (104615)
• United States
15 Dec 20
I wouldn't say I was necessarily raised that way, but I knew of it. We usually did feed people and people usually fed us when we were visiting. I think that's slowly stopped over the years though. I have friends whose houses I feel comfortable enough to open the fridge and pull out food to prepare myself.
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@kobesbuddy (78833)
• East Tawas, Michigan
15 Dec 20
@ScribbledAdNauseum And some people's home, I'm hesitant about even asking to use their bathroom!
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@ScribbledAdNauseum (104615)
• United States
15 Dec 20
@kobesbuddy Oh trust me I understand that completely! My ex husband had a friend whose bathroom was.. Well it wasn't something any lady would want to use the bathroom in.
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@wolfgirl569 (135583)
• Marion, Ohio
16 Dec 20
I always have food here. But many younger people only buy enough for each day.
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@bunnybon7 (50970)
• Holiday, Florida
17 Dec 20
yes a waste of gas. We know how to save. Buy for a week or so except a few parishables
only a couple short walks or close drives to a corner store
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@bunnybon7 (50970)
• Holiday, Florida
1 Jan 21
sadly I don't go into the kitchen that much. I actually been eating on a tray in my room.
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@LadyDuck (502148)
• Italy
2 Jan 21
@bunnybon7 I am sorry you have to stay most of the time in your room.
@paigea (36143)
• Canada
20 Dec 20
Certainly, growing up good was hospitality. Still is overall.
Though we try to take the focus off food and get together for activities. That is because so many of us have to make an effort not to be overweight.
But today, I am meeting a friend to go snowshoeing and I am trying to think of a vegan snack to bring for our winter picnic. So food still is a part of getting together.
Bonnie, could you do a mystery shop that involved checking out a website? Or there are some I've done that involved only sending a text for car service then filling out a report on the response. They don't pay much but can be done in bed!
But today, I am meeting a friend to go snowshoeing and I am trying to think of a vegan snack to bring for our winter picnic. So food still is a part of getting together.
Bonnie, could you do a mystery shop that involved checking out a website? Or there are some I've done that involved only sending a text for car service then filling out a report on the response. They don't pay much but can be done in bed!1 person likes this
@bunnybon7 (50970)
• Holiday, Florida
1 Jan 21
I know what you mean but I worry about loading more apps on my phone. or pc as I already get pop ups and calls I don't need. 
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@kobesbuddy (78833)
• East Tawas, Michigan
15 Dec 20
My grandmothers and mother were the same way, living in Michigan:) My family shares food, especially with neighbor's and relatives.
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@bunnybon7 (50970)
• Holiday, Florida
17 Dec 20
that's how it should be but I don't think it's being taught any more. by most because Marissa has been getting food card all the time living here and seldom buys anything unless you ask. I heard from daughter that every time she gets them is that once a month visit she gets from her mother who takes her and the kids off to visit a few hrs.
We suspect she is buying food for them, while we are buying food for her and kids
Sometimes we barely get by with that.
she should at least share /buy some for this house.
@bunnybon7 (50970)
• Holiday, Florida
27 Feb 21
yes. Strange thing. Once I offered Clays mom to eat with us It was getting late and everyone was hungry and we was having a special meal with steak.
She was so delighted. I was too.
Daughter came and said that she hadn't offered cause we only had the 3 steaks for us.
I said she can have mine I am not a big meat eater. We ended up cutting them in pieces for all. See all worked out. 
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@CarolDM (203396)
• Nashville, Tennessee
27 Feb 21
@bunnybon7 Sounds great to have a happy ending.
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@lovinangelsinstead21 (36847)
• Pamplona, Spain
16 Dec 20
Its always been the way I have thought but not so the people I was in the house with who have a lack of mentality which I got used to all of my life while I was there.
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@LindaOHio (222222)
• United States
16 Dec 20
I was raised to always offer food to guests.
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@bunnybon7 (50970)
• Holiday, Florida
17 Dec 20
Me too. No matter who came by even the plumber got offered coffee and if we were eating was offered food.
got offered coffee and if we were eating was offered food.1 person likes this
