I realized they make my life shorter

Sorry you are in that situation, best to ignore those people.

I don’t let them into my life and you should do the same.

Just ignore them. Life is too short to care that much for such people. Better for our heart and mind too.

It is that way best to avoide

I have heard it said that toxic and obnoxious people are our best teachers. How can we best handle them in our lives, though? Nobody should be totally cut off from you, but some should only be approached, only when you feel safe to do so, and yet sometimes, safety too, is a type of fear. The line is a thin one between love and fear, so we should allow love to fatten that line for us, and let toxicity remain behind, not alarming us so much anymore, because we are more balanced now, on our fatter line, walking along it now too. Some people can learn from toxic people how not to be like them. Others are more afraid that they might end up one themselves too, if they mix too much with them. If we are forced to live with toxic parents, for example, we have to try to learn not to grow up like them ourselves. We at least owe that much to ourselves.

@ZedSmart I know exactly what you are saying! I try hard to understand all types of people. I try to understand why they think how they think, say what they say and do what they do but there comes a time when the excuses (either from my own thoughts or their own explanation) where enough is enough! Cutting toxic people out of our lives is very much needed some times to keep our own happiness and sanity!

Reading some of your posts, I came to a conclusion that you are really affected by the people around you. Maybe, changing career or environment could help. If you think finding another job or career would make you feel better, then you should start doing it now. Staying on a toxic environment will somehow compromise your health.

Exactly. Except their bad behavior will make their lives shorter to buy why let it be at the expense of your life and equilibrium?

Try to avoid these people or at least ignore. You can't change the situation but you can change the way you react to it.