Shopping alone - or with others
By vanny
@vandana7 (98728)
India
January 22, 2021 5:01am CST
I do not like company when I go shopping.
First - I am fussy. I am almost miserly.
Kinda, I do a lot of window shopping then finalize my shopping list.
With a friend that is not feasible. I feel guilty for using her time. So I end up buying the 1st product that serves the function rather than checking for more that could better serve my purpose and have added benefits too.
Another disadvantage of shopping with friends is they feel something looks nice on you or is the right thing for you. Some are so insistent that you feel they are getting marketing commission. LOL
Some may be well meaning, others may be in hurry to get it over and done with. But understanding that there is budgetary limit - well, very few have that sense.
I also hesitate to ask what I might be willing to experiment with.
So yeah, I do not like going out for shopping with others. What about you?
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@MALUSE (69416)
• Germany
22 Jan 21
I also prefer doing this alone. Looking here and looking there is not for men.
A man needs new trousers, goes into a shop, tries on a pair of trousers. They fit, he pays for them and goes home. Even if the first pair fits, a woman will always try some others on just to see what they look like on her.
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@lovebuglena (43059)
• Staten Island, New York
22 Jan 21
I prefer to shop alone only because I can take my time. But I like when hubby goes to the store with me.
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@ptrikha_2 (45419)
• India
22 Jan 21
@lovebuglena
Or do you "drag" your hubby with you !!
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@ptrikha_2 (45419)
• India
23 Jan 21
@lovebuglena
Well I was just having a little fun. I too sometimes like going to a Mall or shopping center but it gets boring and well tiring as well if it takes too much time.
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@BarBaraPrz (45437)
• St. Catharines, Ontario
22 Jan 21
I like to take my time shopping, so am better off going by myself. If I go with my friend, I get a free ride but not enough time to browse in shops that don't interest her. Conversely, I have to wait around while she shops in clothing stores (she's a "plus size" and I am not).
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@BarBaraPrz (45437)
• St. Catharines, Ontario
22 Jan 21
@vandana7 My friend also tries to dress me in really awful (to me) clothes.
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@vandana7 (98728)
• India
23 Jan 21
@BarBaraPrz They do not understand. They think we are innocents and do not understand what we want to wear. I do not like very conspicuous attire. They feel wall flower clothes make me fade out. I am on the other hand trying to enjoy the fun in the gathering, who is bitc hing about whom, and who is match making with whom. Juicy stuff. If I wear well, I would be noticed.
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@LeaPea2417 (36391)
• Toccoa, Georgia
22 Jan 21
I prefer shopping with my husband.
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@vandana7 (98728)
• India
24 Jan 21
@LeaPea2417 Now that is a good reason for company. LOL
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@LeaPea2417 (36391)
• Toccoa, Georgia
23 Jan 21
@vandana7 He usually pays and carries the bags 
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@DaddyEvil (137145)
• United States
23 Jan 21
Pretty and I normally shop together. Sometimes we are in a hurry and just want to get what we need and go home... other times we take our time and explore all that is available. (If we are low on funds I tell her I can only spend so much and no more.)
If/When we go shopping for clothing, she changes and then comes out and asks my opinion. I tell her the truth about what she's found. When it is clothes for me, I change and come out. I hope she tells me the truth about what I have picked.3 people like this
@DaddyEvil (137145)
• United States
24 Jan 21
@vandana7 *shrug* If that's what you want to call it...
*shrug* If that's what you want to call it...1 person likes this
Not in the least, vanny! 
@crazyhorseladycx (39515)
• United States
23 Jan 21
'shop' 'tis a 4-letter word'n i 'void such's much's possible. when such necessitates, i prefer 't 'lone. the hubs though 'nsists 'pon comin', he loves to spend money'n needless schtuff. 'n clothes? if'n i go to try'n a necessity, i come out'ta the dressin' room to find armfuls 'f other thingies he thinks i should try. uhm, nope. not needed 'n aint wastin' any more 'f my time'n a store. he pouts fer days 't my refusal.
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@vandana7 (98728)
• India
23 Jan 21
You just described my parent. Yesterday I told him my medicine. He went to medical shop for his medication and he brought something else saying try this first. When we go for shopping, he insists I buy something. At times excuse is like the salesperson gets commission so if you have asked him to pull out four or five things, it is your duty to buy one.
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@vandana7 (98728)
• India
23 Jan 21
@crazyhorseladycx I fear him accompanying me to shop. LOL
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@crazyhorseladycx (39515)
• United States
23 Jan 21
@vandana7 oh my. does he try to make ya then feel guilty when what he purchased 'tis not 'ffective?? i get that here. 's well 's "it's not my fault you cannot eat what i bought" due to food allergies. which he's well 'ware 'f, jest refuses to read ingredient labels..
very odd 'bout yer dad's logic with purchases.
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@vandana7 (98728)
• India
23 Jan 21
@thelme55 Exactly about being old. LOL. I pulled out old dress for this year's festival. It looked great after almost 5 years. I felt good too. Kinda, I am not wasting anything. I also keep thinking why do I need more glasses, let me use up all existing ones. In the past, I would be kinda upset if I broke a cup from the set. Now, I feel good, it can be used regularly. LOL.
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@thelme55 (76477)
• Germany
23 Jan 21
@vandana7 The older I get, the more I ask myself if I need the thing to buy or not. Usually not. I buy only what I need. I prefer just walking around the mall and after that, having a break at the cafeteria drinking brewed coffee. Well, it does not happen for a long time because of our lockdown.
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@oahuwriter (26780)
• United States
23 Jan 21
Alone definitely. I go where 1I want, when I want and do what I want. I live bargain counters and clearance and look for it. I'd window shop a lot for I'm in a tight budget. I like alone shopping.
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@vandana7 (98728)
• India
27 Jan 21
@oahuwriter Yeah. I sure understand that. My father is 86. He is turning a bit deaf. I am afraid he will be hit by vehicle the way our traffic goes.
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@oahuwriter (26780)
• United States
26 Jan 21
@vandana7
No one else to worry about shopping alone too.
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@arunima25 (85265)
• Bangalore, India
23 Jan 21
Not a big fan of shopping. Yes, I do company if someone asks for. But when I am shopping, I will take my daughters if it's for them. If it's for me I take my husband and there is a weird reason for that
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@vandana7 (98728)
• India
23 Jan 21
@arunima25 Grrr... actually not so grr. But still grrr. Kinda...
You get to live only once. You have to get your share of desires fulfilled too. While his selection may be good, he should not be moody about something you like. Thank god he is your husband.
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@arunima25 (85265)
• Bangalore, India
23 Jan 21
@vandana7 He is a man of few words but has a very fine taste of fashion. He can spot something nice and graceful for me which I might have missed. Also he keeps so many things in mind...how it will look, occasion etc. And other than that if I wear something that does not look good, it effects his mood though he does not say, you can make out.And when I wear dresses of his choice, I get a lot of compliments.
And when I wear dresses of his choice, I get a lot of compliments.3 people like this
@ptrikha_2 (45419)
• India
22 Jan 21
You take me to shopping.
Get me a "charpai" or a bed somewhere outside a shop.
You can shop for hours and then wake me up!
I won't feel unhappy !
Alas, we cannot do that with our spouses!!
Alas, we cannot do that with our spouses!!
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@vandana7 (98728)
• India
23 Jan 21
I have always wonder why only a cot is called charpai. I mean even a chair or stool could be charpai.
Honestly, when I accompany friends it becomes a dilemma. They like something. Mind is kinda asking Really? But I find me finding excuses saying well, I thought that color might look good. It feels bad either way. The friend buys her selection, which does not suit her or is so common that it is ordinary. If she buys my selection (of which I am not too sure since I am no fashion designer), it may not suit her, or may not be to her liking. I hate the dilemma.
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@ptrikha_2 (45419)
• India
23 Jan 21
@vandana7
Well perhaps each friend can keep to their choice(s) and not try to influence others.
And well I am not very sure about the origin of the "charpai" word !!
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@wolfgirl569 (94780)
• Marion, Ohio
22 Jan 21
I go alone and get in and out as fast as I can
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@LindaOHio (155566)
• United States
22 Jan 21
I hate going into stores anymore. Period. I do most of my shopping online. When I was younger I enjoyed going shopping with or without friends.
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@LindaOHio (155566)
• United States
23 Jan 21
@vandana7 I worked downtown and loved to go look in the stores during my lunch time. Of course, then I was skinny and young and everything looked good on me....now I hate to shop!
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@vandana7 (98728)
• India
27 Jan 21
@LindaOHio Traveling is boring now. Back then we used to travel, do the shopping meet at a coffee shop, eat an ice cream, and start back. But then, our list would be small too, as we were not cash rich.
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@sharonelton (24859)
• Lichfield, England
23 Jan 21
I sometimes go shopping on my own but I'm not that keen on it because I'm self conscious and I keep thinking that people are looking at me or laughing at me. I like going shopping with my Mum or a friend because then I can talk to them and it takes my mind off other people and I'm less likely to think they are looking at me or laughing at me.
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@sharonelton (24859)
• Lichfield, England
23 Jan 21
@vandana7 Thank you very much, that is very kind of you.
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