"Who do you talk to when you need help?"
By Shavkat
@Shavkat (141906)
Philippines
January 25, 2021 9:56pm CST
To make it clear, I am not a mama's boy.
I always asked for some advice from my lovely mom. It is because she is more exposed to life experiences. When my old man still alive, I always asked them together.
However, I don't tell them all the secrets of my life. It means I need to hold back when talking to them. If I cannot ask them certain things, I can go to my trusted friends.
Whose advice do you follow most often?
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I always asked for some advice from my lovely mom. It is because she is more exposed to life experiences. When my old man still alive, I always asked them together.
However, I don't tell them all the secrets of my life. It means I need to hold back when talking to them. If I cannot ask them certain things, I can go to my trusted friends.
Whose advice do you follow most often?
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30 responses
@cherigucchi (15934)
• Philippines
26 Jan 21
I don't usually open up personal matters to anyone or even my bffs. I don't know but I have been like that
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@happylearner (1569)
• Indonesia
26 Jan 21
I usually keep all of the things by myself. It's quite hard for me to tell personal matters to anyone. But whenever I need advise, it depends on the matters. Most of the time I ask advice from my parents. But, there's time when I ask my closest friends.
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@Shavkat (141906)
• Philippines
27 Jan 21
@happylearner I had experienced this a couple of times before. I had big lessons for telling my secrets to them whom I thought they are my true friends.
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@happylearner (1569)
• Indonesia
26 Jan 21
@Shavkat True. I've ever been in that situation. I tell a secret to my friend (let's call her A), then 1 week later, other people know the secret I told to A.
You should choose someone to talk about your personal matters wisely.
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@kaylachan (84703)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
26 Jan 21
My husband and I talk about everything. We really don't hold secrets from each other. I just have to know when the right time is to talk to him. When he's had a few, it can be hard to make conversation.
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@arunima25 (93194)
• Bangalore, India
26 Jan 21
I look forward to my mom for advices in personal life and to my mentors in professional life. I share my things with my husband and am very close to my brother too.
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@Shavkat (141906)
• Philippines
27 Jan 21
@arunima25 You said it right. Mothers are always with their kiddies when growing up.
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@arunima25 (93194)
• Bangalore, India
26 Jan 21
@Shavkat That's very true. Not matter what we are we feel most comfortable with mom.
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@allknowing (153544)
• India
26 Jan 21
Depends on the kind of advice I need. It can be any one.
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@innertalks (23734)
• Australia
26 Jan 21
You ask a good question, which raises this further question to me too.
What good is advice to us, anyway, and whose advice should we trust?
Advice comes to us from every part of creation, suggesting links, and ways for us to see, and to think about how we connect to them too.
When we ignore all advice, as it comes to us from these myriads of sources, we are left high and dry then, relying solely on our self, and lost to our real self too, which thrives on connection, not isolated disconnection, trying to go it all alone, which is the selfish way to living, not the loving/sharing way.
We should never ignore any advice then, but take it all on board, from every source of it, coming towards us.
Then connecting to the truth of the advice in its totality, a decision, the right decision, will always emerge for us then, as oneness, spits it out to us, from itself, in our self, from our making these multiple connections to oneness, as infinitely as we can do so.
So, we should talk to all, and everyone, and then follow what, God, our soul, oneness then reveals to us as being the best answer, in this situation, for ourselves, in relation, to all others too.
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@Shavkat (141906)
• Philippines
27 Jan 21
As they said, "No man is an island." Some people cannot accept this phrase because they are still in denial. I do agree that we can ask for some advice from other souls. Collaborating with them is fine. At the end of the day, we are still the ones who are going to have the final decisions, with the exemption for kiddies who are not that keen on deciding for themselves.
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@innertalks (23734)
• Australia
27 Jan 21
@Shavkat Yes, I agree, the decision must come down to ourselves in the end.
"It is better to have less thunder in the mouth, and more lightning in the hand."
This is an old Apache, American Indian saying.
We shouldn't thunder off at others, solely with our own ideas, but be quicker to shake hands, and share opinions with others too.
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@Shiva49 (28366)
• Singapore
27 Jan 21
@innertalks Some are experts in offering unsolicited advice which is a put off.
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@AkoPinay (11496)
• Philippines
26 Jan 21
If it's a work related problem I talk to my friends and co-workers and of course a lawyer if need be. I don't think my parents could help me! 
If it is related to real property issues I talk to my dad mostly and of course a lawyer. You can call me a "Papa's Girl" and I'm fine with that. 
If it is related to "love" I only talk to myself.
If financial problem I talk to the whole world.
If it is related to real property issues I talk to my dad mostly and of course a lawyer. You can call me a "Papa's Girl" and I'm fine with that.
If it is related to "love" I only talk to myself.
If financial problem I talk to the whole world. 3 people like this
@Shavkat (141906)
• Philippines
26 Jan 21
My lovely mother knows about laws and the like. She is not a lawyer. She knew things through her walks of life in this world. I am sure he is so protective of you. For love matters, I can deal with it. I can be an expert love guru to myself. 
I can be an expert love guru to myself. 2 people like this
@dgobucks226 (37621)
•
27 Jan 21
Friends can be a good sounding board with providing advice. They have you best interests at heart, want to help, and are not judgmental.
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@snowy22315 (208746)
• United States
27 Jan 21
I will go to a close friend or my sister usually if I have an issue.
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@prinzcy (32299)
• Malaysia
27 Jan 21
That would depend on what the problem is. Most of the time it's my BFF because we can discuss any topic with no feeling like angry or anything. We're free to express anything. We're discussing with facts, so no one should feel anything. And because I know her as she knows me. It's hard to be angry.
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@Raine38 (12387)
• United States
27 Jan 21
It depends on what I need advise on, but most of the time I ask my sister or my husband. I have been burned many times before when I open up to people who I think were my good friends, so I just make sure to keep it with me. On occasion I ask for opinions here on mylot. Sometimes a totally unbiased opinion is much needed.
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@1creekgirl (44560)
• United States
26 Jan 21
I mostly listen to my husband. We were so young when we married so many years ago that he knows me better than anyone. I trust his advice, but I still think for myself also.
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@1creekgirl (44560)
• United States
27 Jan 21
@Shavkat We're very blessed to have each other.
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@lovebuglena (52143)
• Staten Island, New York
26 Jan 21
I am not sure. But my mom does give lots of advice.
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@Shavkat (141906)
• Philippines
30 Jan 21
@lovebuglena My parents used to do this. Now, we are having healthy arguments and collaborate things up.
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@lovebuglena (52143)
• Staten Island, New York
27 Jan 21
@Shavkat Sometimes when she calls I feel like I am taking a lecture at a college or university.
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