Are you a pathological liar?
By AmberLynn
@ScribbledAdNauseum (104615)
United States
February 11, 2021 3:56pm CST
BEFORE you respond... Let me clarify.
I've had a conversation with two different people about two different people today. One is an old friend from high school who I've also lived with in the past and another is an old acquaintance...
The discussion about the friend is more about his compulsion to lie. We can't be sure that he does lie because we aren't as acquainted as we once were.
The other discussion was about someone who... stretches the truth rather imaginatively, shall we say?
ARE YOU a liar?
ARE YOU lying?
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21 responses
@much2say (57760)
• Los Angeles, California
11 Feb 21
Not me. I do feel like I know more of those people who don't lie exactly but do stretch the truth. One friend we had did so much of both just to gain acceptance from new friends (when we were all very long time friends) . . . it got to the point where we think he actually believed his lies . . . we didn't, and it cost him our friendship.
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@much2say (57760)
• Los Angeles, California
11 Feb 21
@ScribbledAdNauseum That he did. It's like he was living a high school life in his 30s.
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@ScribbledAdNauseum (104615)
• United States
11 Feb 21
Oh that's kind of sad. It sounds like he had a lot of low self esteem too.
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@TheHorse (238268)
• Walnut Creek, California
12 Feb 21
I tend to err in the direction of truth. But I am learning to "lie by omission" when it is called for. I don't want to hurt feelings when it serves no purpose. You are from the United States. You know that we have ah an issue with someone in a position of power who is a pathological liar. Ultimately it will contribute to his downfall. But will others model (imitate) this kind of behavior? Or learn to stay away from it?
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@ScribbledAdNauseum (104615)
• United States
12 Feb 21
I feel like the higher the position the more likely others will conform to this behavior That is a scary thought in my opinion.
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@vandana7 (102698)
• India
12 Feb 21
Depends upon what you mean as "pathological liar". I think many a pathological liar is a person who is yearning to be included in the group. Inferiority complex? A lot of it can be deduced logically. Some are unhappy with some aspect of their lives. So they take to doing something adventurous. Then cover up begins. LOL. I find that amusing actually. I do lie sometimes. I have clarified in Pony's box. I am telling the truth that I lie. That should carry some weight. LOL
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@vandana7 (102698)
• India
12 Feb 21
@ScribbledAdNauseum Aah... the need to belong.
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@ScribbledAdNauseum (104615)
• United States
12 Feb 21
I've known many people who have lied in one way or another in order to be accepted by a group.
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@ScribbledAdNauseum (104615)
• United States
12 Feb 21
@vandana7 Absolutely that. I believe many have done this at one time or another. I know I have when I was a teen.
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@ScribbledAdNauseum (104615)
• United States
12 Feb 21
You are right. It's harder to keep track of a lie.
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@ScribbledAdNauseum (104615)
• United States
12 Feb 21
Hope you have a wonderful Friday!
You are right it is better to tell the truth but it is not always easy to do so.
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@ScribbledAdNauseum (104615)
• United States
12 Feb 21
@Rashnag Thank You & you are right!
Enjoy your day.
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@Rashnag (30597)
• Surat, India
12 Feb 21
@ScribbledAdNauseum True indeed. One doesn't have to think much for telling the truth unlike for telling lies. Take care
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@ScribbledAdNauseum (104615)
• United States
11 Feb 21
Yes, it becomes second nature to them! I know it can be a.. what is the word i am looking for? Coping mechanism! That's it!
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@CarolDM (203396)
• Nashville, Tennessee
11 Feb 21
@ScribbledAdNauseum I think so and have known many like that.
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@ScribbledAdNauseum (104615)
• United States
11 Feb 21
@CarolDM Yes someone comes to mind for me too. I think I've heard pathological lying classified as a disease before. Like it's a mental response that isn't always voluntary.
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@ScribbledAdNauseum (104615)
• United States
12 Feb 21
I do not like lies either and you are right 99% of the time the lie is exposed.
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@ScribbledAdNauseum (104615)
• United States
12 Feb 21
You are right, there are those who say they never lie but people will lie sometimes.
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@Tina30219 (82978)
• Onaway, Michigan
12 Feb 21
I am not a liar and I don’t ike lying at all. When people lye to you you never know if and when they are telling you the truth.
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@ScribbledAdNauseum (104615)
• United States
12 Feb 21
Yeah, lots of trust gets lost when you find out someone is lying or has lied to you
@ScribbledAdNauseum (104615)
• United States
11 Feb 21
Yep, me too. Though I kind of see her in a new light now because she's very ill. She's had a hard life so I don't necessarily blame her for lying but it is lots of petty lies too.
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@TheHorse (238268)
• Walnut Creek, California
12 Feb 21
@ScribbledAdNauseum Do you know when or why she took on this defense?
@paigea (36143)
• Canada
12 Feb 21
@ScribbledAdNauseum This person really wants to be liked, but his behaviour is so unlikeable.
@ScribbledAdNauseum (104615)
• United States
11 Feb 21
I have done this before too.
Sometimes it's easier to lie by omission or to tell a little white lie.
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@thelme55 (79311)
• Germany
12 Feb 21
@ScribbledAdNauseum Sometimes, there’s no other way than to tell the truth instead of white lies.
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@ScribbledAdNauseum (104615)
• United States
12 Feb 21
@thelme55 Yes, even when it hurts. I would rather be told the truth even if it hurts.
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@LindaOHio (222222)
• United States
12 Feb 21
I tell white lies occasionally; but I'm definitely not a pathological liar.
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@ScribbledAdNauseum (104615)
• United States
12 Feb 21
I think little white lies are acceptable. Especially if they are given to save a person's feelings.
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@MommyOfEli2013 (89458)
• Rupert, Idaho
12 Feb 21
Would someone that is a pathological liar admit that they were though? Some may, I guess...but not all. I used to lie all the time and thought I could have been one...
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@ScribbledAdNauseum (104615)
• United States
12 Feb 21
I think that there are probably a few pathological liars that will admit they lie, but only because they lie so easily people won't believe them when they say they lie. I hope that makes sense, it seems like a tongue twister in my head.
I believe we have all lied at one point or another and I can say that at one (short) point in my life I thought lying was acceptable. I realized quickly that it wasn't so easy.
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@MommyOfEli2013 (89458)
• Rupert, Idaho
13 Feb 21
@ScribbledAdNauseum It does sound like a tong twister, but I do get what you are saying.
And oh yeah...I am sure everyone has lied....I think in certain situations, and such...it is acceptable. But usually telling the truth is best. I still will lie if I think it is necessary.
@florelway (23339)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
11 Feb 21
Liars can be so effective that even themselves think everything they say is true.
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@ScribbledAdNauseum (104615)
• United States
11 Feb 21
So true! They lie so much that the words come out smooth as butter.
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@ScribbledAdNauseum (104615)
• United States
11 Feb 21
@florelway I am not surrounded by liars thankfully, but at one time I have been.
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@florelway (23339)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
11 Feb 21
@ScribbledAdNauseum yes 150 percent of what they say is a lie lol. I have that in my surroundings lol.
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@snowy22315 (208746)
• United States
11 Feb 21
I try not to lie more than I possibly have to. I don't like liars. I also don't like people who promise to do things that never happen. To me that is the same as lying.
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@ScribbledAdNauseum (104615)
• United States
11 Feb 21
Oh that is one of my pet peeves. Do not promise me anything if you can't follow through.
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@RebeccasFarm (91299)
• United States
12 Feb 21
Well if I was a liar, I wouldn't tell you the truth so..
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Very fair point.
@choijungeun (2710)
• Hangzhou, China
12 Feb 21
I'll do my best to speak the truth,but if you live in a totalitarian country,it's very hard to insist the truth and speak it.So sometimes,i will lie to keep myself safe.If i always speak the truth,i will be arrested by the Gestapo of the Red Nazi.
Red Nazi is a regime that built on the violence,fear and lie.there is no human rights or freedom,it's just a cannibal society.the people who always speak and insist the truth never will live long or live better.
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@ScribbledAdNauseum (104615)
• United States
12 Feb 21
It is disheartening that there are people in this world who must lie or must accept the lies of others in order to survive. I wish there was more other nations could do for these people.
@ScribbledAdNauseum (104615)
• United States
12 Feb 21
And it comes so natural to them, as smooth as butter.
@Deepizzaguy (122070)
• Lake Charles, Louisiana
11 Feb 21
I lie occasionally to avoid facing the music for my actions.
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@ScribbledAdNauseum (104615)
• United States
12 Feb 21
Everyone has done this in one instance or another.
@ScribbledAdNauseum (104615)
• United States
11 Feb 21
I think it's better to be an honest person with no friends than a liar with lots of friends you can not trust.
