Just wrong

@GardenGerty (169406)
United States
February 23, 2021 7:55pm CST
Okay, I know I talk about my kiddo, but others may not understand. He is non verbal. He cannot say "I am mad", "I am sad" "Something is not right" or "nice to see you" or "I am glad to be here". So. . . when he is upset, impatient, uncomfortable, hurting, etc. he bites his hand, and flings himself around. Maybe cries or yells. He tries to pull out of his straps on his foot rest. And we do not know what is wrong, or how to help, except to just keep trying. It bothers us, to see him bothered. This was one of those days this morning. He was inconsolable. We could not get him to bit the "chewy" that is supposed to take the place of his hand. He ate breakfast but was restless. We took his special bowl to the kitchen, then I took him to the "locker room" where we have a changing station. I looked down, and what did I see? His shoes were on the wrong feet!! I do not know if that was a big problem for him or not. I know he got to get out of the wheel chair, and stretch for a minute. I changed his diaper. I changed his shoes and put them on the right feet. I helped him back into the wheel chair, and did some compression exercises occupational therapy has taught me. He stood at the sink with support to wash his hands and play in the water. After that he had Library, and Occupational Therapy. He was in a good, and relaxed mood. Poor kid did not have a way to let us know just what was wrong.
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@Dena91 (17029)
• United States
24 Feb 21
That is sad that he can not communicate. I commend you for seeing his shoes were wrong and you took care of that for him. And it seemed to calm him down. I admire you for working with these special children. Thank you.
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@GardenGerty (169406)
• United States
24 Feb 21
The family has decided I am just a natural care giver. Many of these kids have varying needs. Some can tell us, but sometimes people do not listen and basically say "get over it". With special needs often there are sensory components.
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@much2say (57760)
• Los Angeles, California
24 Feb 21
Thank goodness you spotted his shoe issue! It is a challenge, but oh you are so patient and were able to figure out what was wrong. Glad all was well after that.
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@GardenGerty (169406)
• United States
24 Feb 21
I wondered if one of his brothers helped him with his shoes today. They are a special type of shoe.
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@GardenGerty (169406)
• United States
26 Feb 21
@much2say It must have been, as getting them taken care of sure helped.
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@much2say (57760)
• Los Angeles, California
24 Feb 21
@GardenGerty Special shoes - oh it must've been so uncomfortable or at least strange for him with them being on the wrong feet.
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@wolfgirl569 (135582)
• Marion, Ohio
24 Feb 21
I am sure the shoes did not feel right. Glad you noticed them.
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@GardenGerty (169406)
• United States
24 Feb 21
I am not positive he knew exactly what was wrong. I know he was uncomfortable.
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@sallypup (69157)
• Centralia, Washington
24 Feb 21
That is an emotionally trying place to be.
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@GardenGerty (169406)
• United States
24 Feb 21
We can get him to a quiet place and usually help the problems, whatever they are.
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@JudyEv (381810)
• Rockingham, Australia
24 Feb 21
Poor child. I'm sure it's nearly as upsetting to you as to him when he can't make you understand what he wants.
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@GardenGerty (169406)
• United States
24 Feb 21
The good thing is that this happens less often as we all settle into a routine. It is a red flag though if we see him acting out.
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• Sonora, California
24 Feb 21
I’ve worked with kids who were not able to communicate verbally, they can be challenging, but they are usually such sweet kids...
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@GardenGerty (169406)
• United States
24 Feb 21
Oh, he is a great kid and we love how he is learning. And how we are learning from him.
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@GardenGerty (169406)
• United States
26 Feb 21
@Michellekidwell Yes they do.
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• Sonora, California
24 Feb 21
@GardenGerty They teach us so much more than we can teach them, don't they?
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@prinzcy (32299)
• Malaysia
25 Feb 21
This does require patience. They want to express themselves but they're struggling. We're also struggling to understand them. Lil Bro also can't speak properly. Sometimes he would be excited and try to tell us a story. It would be guessing game then. I feel so bad that I can't understand what he's trying to tell me. I want to study sign language but I couldn't find a class. Maybe I can teach him as well if I could learn.
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@GardenGerty (169406)
• United States
26 Feb 21
You should search for sign language specific to your country, of course. You may be able to find some books online, or even an app that you can work through.
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@rebelann (117199)
• El Paso, Texas
24 Feb 21
Poor kid. You really have a tough job but so rewarding when all goes right.
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@GardenGerty (169406)
• United States
24 Feb 21
You know, when he laughs it is pure joy.
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@xstitcher (39003)
• Petaluma, California
28 Feb 21
Poor guy.
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@GardenGerty (169406)
• United States
1 Mar 21
We set it right.
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@RebeccasFarm (91299)
• United States
25 Feb 21
You are an amazing gift to those kids Heather
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@GardenGerty (169406)
• United States
26 Feb 21
I am just myself. I enjoy the kiddos and try to put myself in their place. They are hard to resist.
@RasmaSandra (97908)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
24 Feb 21
That can be so hard when you cannot communicate and I am glad you discovered what his problem was. It is wonderful that you have the patience to work with these children they need so much more care.
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@GardenGerty (169406)
• United States
24 Feb 21
I have to be on the lookout for things he cannot tell me.
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@xFiacre (14784)
• Ireland
24 Feb 21
@gardengerty How absolutely frustrating for him.
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@GardenGerty (169406)
• United States
24 Feb 21
I am sure it was a big part of the problem.
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@Fleura (34925)
• United Kingdom
24 Feb 21
That is so incredibly difficult, I don't know how you cope just trying to work out what is wrong. And so difficult for him too, not being able to explain what he wants or needs.
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@GardenGerty (169406)
• United States
26 Feb 21
He is learning sign language, a little. We are learning to read him as well. Some things can be pretty obvious, like when he reaches for you to find you, or crawls up into your lap for a big hug.
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@Fleura (34925)
• United Kingdom
26 Feb 21
@GardenGerty I hope that helps with some of the frustration.
@CarolDM (203396)
• Nashville, Tennessee
24 Feb 21
You are a special person to take care of these children. How frustrating it must be for them.
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@GardenGerty (169406)
• United States
26 Feb 21
I think it keeps my brain more nimble.
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@CarolDM (203396)
• Nashville, Tennessee
26 Feb 21
@GardenGerty I do understand.