How was your first time?

Nairobi, Kenya
May 2, 2021 12:24pm CST
Since many of you are of age, can you tell me about your first time leaving your parents house to live alone? Are there any tips you can give me since I will be doing the same soon? I know some left to live on their own while some had roommates and some left because of marrying. This is for those who left to live alone.
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@Nevena83 (65287)
• Serbia
2 May 21
I couldn't advise you, because I'm at home with my parents. I got married, had a child, divorced and returned to my parents.
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• Nairobi, Kenya
2 May 21
Sorry about the experience my friend. Thank you for sharing
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3 May 21
Wow
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@sulynsi (2669)
• Canada
2 May 21
My response is more based on my daughter's experience than mine. The first question I would ask is, Do I need to leave home? Honestly, is there a good reason why it is better? If the answer is yes, could you move, but not too far, so that you have contact with those whom you know and trust? I encourage you to keep a good communication with your parents - they love you and know you best. And remember, its a scary thing for them to let you go. They may seem to be a bit overprotective at first. give them time to get used to your being on your own. My daughter was patient with me.
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@sulynsi (2669)
• Canada
2 May 21
@mildredtabitha If I remember correctly, 20 she did come back home for a year at about 24 and subsequently left again
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• Nairobi, Kenya
2 May 21
@sulynsi That's a good age. I'm almost 26 and feel ready to move out
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• Nairobi, Kenya
2 May 21
Thanks for sharing the useful tips my friend. I've learned something new from your post. Your daughter left when she was how old?
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@AmbiePam (84668)
• United States
2 May 21
It's going to probably be more expensive than you think, but if you start with just buying the essentials you'll soon get an idea of what else you can afford. Groceries were more than I thought even though I often bought my food when I did live with my parents. I'm sure you'll make wise decisions, and I wish you luck.
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• Nairobi, Kenya
2 May 21
Thank you my friend. Yes I will. I know the first month will be a little expensive but once settled it will be easy. Although I won't rush to buy everything. Just few for the first month that are basic then the extra will come later
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@m_audrey6788 (58487)
• Germany
2 May 21
I tried to live alone for 3yrs. but was lonely and really miss my parents and just came back to them when I found a job near their place and live until I got married. It was hard at first but now I`m ok with my husband Although still miss my mom and dad
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• Germany
2 May 21
@mildredtabitha I was 29yrs. old when I left home It was really hard to live alone and so lonely but my work is far away from home that I need to stay somewhere near my work after 3yrs. I searched for a new work near my parents place so I can go back and was so lucky to found one
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• Nairobi, Kenya
2 May 21
@m_audrey6788 Thank you for sharing your experience. It helps me to learn from the experienced so I can make wise decisions
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• Nairobi, Kenya
2 May 21
Sorry about the lonely experience my friend. How old were you at that time you lived alone? I'm glad you are now not lonely
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@DaddyEvil (137251)
• United States
2 May 21
I rented my first apartment when I was 18 and just out of High School. (Uhh... I finished the mandatory education here.) I had been working and earning my own money since I was 13 years old, so could afford to pay my own rent and bills. I lived alone until I was 22 years old when my girlfriend moved in with me... We bought a house and had Pretty when I was 23 years old. Ask me questions and I'll do my best to answer them.
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@DaddyEvil (137251)
• United States
3 May 21
@mildredtabitha My parents didn't have a choice. At 18 a person is legally able to do anything he chooses here. My parents couldn't have stopped me if they wanted to. We can start working at 13, with parent's permission. Some young people just ask their parents for money until they decide to move out. (My daughter still lives with me and she's 33.) Some parents here tell their kid to get a job at 18 and find their own place to live. Some parents here pay for their kid to go to college. Pretty worked and paid for her own college bills. (I paid for my own college bills while I worked to support myself.) She just moved back in with me when she graduated from college.
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• Nairobi, Kenya
3 May 21
@DaddyEvil It's good your parents allowed you to be independent at a very young age. Even us when you are 18, you are an adult but many parents won't allow you to leave especially if you are a girl. Thanks for sharing your wonderful experience
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• Nairobi, Kenya
3 May 21
Thank you for sharing your experience. You were blessed to be very young and being able to pay your bills. I think the parents in your state are not strict on children. It's difficult to find parents here allowing their children to live alone
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@Belexhanns (3431)
• Kampala, Uganda
2 May 21
Its better you leave when your parents know,that's all
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• Nairobi, Kenya
2 May 21
Thanks my friend for the advice
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• Kampala, Uganda
2 May 21
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@kaylachan (56277)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
2 May 21
I never left with the full intention of living alone. And, in fact, I never really did. I actually left home, lived in a dorm style situation for about a year, then moved in with my now husband. Even though I live in a two-income household, I can tell you, always make sure you pay for your bills first. Rent, utilities etc. It won't matter if you have food to eat, or fuel in your car, if you can't pay the rent. Even though I am married, I am home alone most of the day while my husband works. So, I have the house locked at all times. Make sure your parents and or a trusted friend have a spare key to your place, and that they know your work schedule and habits. If you plan to do something that's unusal for you, make sure they know where you are and when you plan to be home. This is general safety information to ensure you stay safe. I don't know what else to tell you. If you have a question.... feel free to ask.
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• Nairobi, Kenya
2 May 21
I'm glad you shared your experience. It's very enlightening. Bills first. I'll keep this in mind. Entrusting someone with spare key and communicating. (I will not forget) This is valuable advice my friend. I'm grateful The question is, is it okay to let many people know where I live?
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@sjvg1976 (41134)
• Delhi, India
3 May 21
The feeling was not good as there was a fear that how will I take responsibilty of my family alone and my wife gave me the strength and I did well after living separately from my parents.
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• Nairobi, Kenya
3 May 21
That's wonderful my friend. I'm glad you had a wonderful experience and a supporting partner.
@RebeccasFarm (84408)
• Wheat Ridge, Colorado
2 May 21
I rarely have been on my own. When I left the first time was with uncle. Then in a girls hostel. Then with husbands one after the other. Now still not alone with grown son But there were times when I was alone but not for long.
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• Wheat Ridge, Colorado
2 May 21
@mildredtabitha Yes both ways thank you Mildred
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• Nairobi, Kenya
2 May 21
Thank you for sharing your experience my friend. You are blessed not to live alone for long. Having someone is good
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• Nairobi, Kenya
3 May 21
@RebeccasFarm you are most welcomed
@marlina (154183)
• Canada
2 May 21
You should have a good savings account before you venture out on your own,
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• Nairobi, Kenya
3 May 21
Thank you for the advice on finances my friend I'll keep that in mind
@wolfgirl569 (93556)
• Marion, Ohio
3 May 21
The big thing is to make a budget and stick with it.
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• Nairobi, Kenya
3 May 21
Thank you my friend. I will do that every week
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@just4him (303392)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
3 May 21
I was happy to leave home. I joined the Navy when I left home. I'm sure I had some homesickness, but overall it was a good experience.
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@just4him (303392)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
3 May 21
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• Nairobi, Kenya
3 May 21
That's wonderful. How old were you when you joined the Navy?
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• Nairobi, Kenya
3 May 21
@just4him You still received support from parents after leaving or you had enough savings?
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@thelme55 (76376)
• Germany
3 May 21
I would advice to live within your means and budget your money.
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@thelme55 (76376)
• Germany
4 May 21
@mildredtabitha You are very welcome. Good luck.
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• Nairobi, Kenya
4 May 21
Thank you very much. That is exactly what I will do and what I'm planning to do
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@nela13 (55684)
• Portugal
2 May 21
I only moved from my parents house when I got married. It wasn't difficult because they are now my neighbors.
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@nela13 (55684)
• Portugal
3 May 21
@mildredtabitha yes, it is very good to have my parents near me. I understand and it makes sense that you decided to move.
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• Nairobi, Kenya
4 May 21
@nela13 no I'm planning to do so that's is why I wanted to read other experiences. I could move any day this month
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• Nairobi, Kenya
3 May 21
That's good to know my friend. I'm glad you are neighbors and can visit them anytime. I would have waited that long but I don't know when I'll get married so I will just start my own life now
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5 May 21
The first time I was on my own was when I became a widow at the age of thirty one. I relied on my family and church family a lot during those days No matter the circumstance, it’s always good to have people close by you can rely on.
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• Nairobi, Kenya
5 May 21
Thanks for sharing your experience. I like your advice very much and glad you had support from people near you.
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