Mother's Day disaster
May 9, 2021 5:23pm CST
(Begun 8 hours ago) - Great start to the day, wake up at 4 AM (which is extremely late for me) and found my Dad unresponsive on the bathroom floor. After spending 5-10 minutes trying to get a response I called an ambulance and he is now in the hospital. I spent 4 hours there with him and then my baby sister came to relieve me because she knows that not only do I intensely dislike hospitals I am also extremely anti-social and don't deal with people very good in the best of circumstances. So now the wait begins to see what they find out. (9 AM myLot time) And 8 hours later all I know for sure is it is going to be a big mess no matter what happens. Dad was given meds to sedate him because he was being aggressive and not coherent, and he is currently still asleep. They are going to keep him at least until tomorrow and I think it will likely be several days. I've talked to half (3) of my siblings so far and between us four none of us think Dad should go back to Carilyn's to stay because she is not in the greatest of conditions herself. The consensus appears to be he should move into an assisted-living home - but he is not going to want to do that. Which is where it will get ugly because what he needs is going to supersede what he might want. So that's been my Mother's Day... Photo is my Mother Judy Marie Collins Ratcliffe Weir Oct 13, 1939 - Oct 02, 2009 R.I.P.
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• United States
I’m so sorry. I had that with my dad. We were going to swear out a mental inquest on him to get his driver’s license from him. Bone-headed parents raise bone-headed kids, and when those heads butt.....ouch. Praying for you and your family.
• East Tawas, Michigan
I read your other post first, sorry for kidding around about your DAD! I had no idea he was in the hospital, or even sick I worked in an assisted living home, they take good care of residents. What Dad needs and what he wants are more than likely two different things.
• Midland, Michigan
Our parents never want to leave their homes wherever that might be so I completely understand. It makes sense to put him in a nursing home or assisted facility especially since it's unknown yet why he fell. Good luck on all is that. I hope he pulls through. Maybe you'll find that he has a stipulation that your can stay in the house as long as you're able. I didn't realize your dad lived there part time too.
• Perth, Australia
@myklj999 Thank you for sharing as well as the update post too. I only wish the very best for your dad, your family and for yourself! Very beautiful photo of your mother. Take care JJ and keep us updated when you're up to it.
• United States
I am very sorry to hear about your Dad. I hope the doctors were able to find the cause of him passing out. It is never ever easy having to make life decisions for others when you know it is for the best for them but they fight you. We struggled with getting Mike's dad to give up driving when he was in his late 80's. When he couldn't remember how to get home and got aggressive with mom when she tried to tell him we finally put our foot down and said no more. And he eventually adjusted.