There is no right or wrong way to handle it
@sallypup (57729)
Centralia, Washington
May 12, 2021 5:41pm CST
I have it in my mind to drive West on Friday. A person that I've known for longer than I have been married!!!!! is on hospice. I just realized how long I've known this buddy. That sat me on my butt.
So I just got a call from her niece. Buddy is super close to heading to that OTHER. I don't know what OTHER is and really won't know until its my turn. Niece of course was crying. Such a brave lady and her trying to hold her baby while it fussed. Niece wanted me to know that buddy would not be able to talk with me. She does not look magazine worthy. That's my sentence there.
So I listened. I cried with the niece. I said that others, like the niece, buddy's sister, they'd need me too. And thank you for thinking of me, knowing that it will take some good effort for me to drive that long distance.
All those that have loved ones close enough to hug, go for it. Hug and hassle, giggle over dumb stuff. Enjoy your time together.
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@JamesHxstatic (29234)
• Eugene, Oregon
12 May 21
It is a long trip, so think a lot about it.
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@sallypup (57729)
• Centralia, Washington
13 May 21
@JamesHxstatic I have thought long and hard about how long the trip is and its hazards.
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@sallypup (57729)
• Centralia, Washington
13 May 21
@JamesHxstatic I love the Cascade mountains. I just don't bounce the way I used to.
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Indeed life is too short. There are a few friends now that I wish I had visited, hugged or even said some words to. Please have a safe journey to see your Buddy 
@snowy22315 (169626)
• United States
13 May 21
Safe travels, it may not be fun but it will be cathartic.
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@kaylachan (57371)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
12 May 21
Life is short, and you never know until it's gone. After recently losing my mother-in-law, my husband and I realize how short life is. After losing his father (my father-in-law) we'd made an effort to visit his mom once a year (except last year). So if anyone knows that, it's us.
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@wolfgirl569 (94778)
• Marion, Ohio
13 May 21
She will know deep down I believe that you are there. But it is good to say goodbye even if she dont
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@HazySue (39264)
• Gouverneur, New York
13 May 21
I think that because she cannot talk and is so close to the end of his life here I would just try to remember all the good times and pray for his passage to the other side. It is so hard to lose someone you had been close to for so many years.
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@Deepizzaguy (94293)
• Lake Charles, Louisiana
12 May 21
I am doing my best to enjoy my time with my relatives.
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@LindaOHio (155562)
• United States
13 May 21
Have a safe trip. Hubs and I are at the ages when I think about one of us passing a lot. I am savoring every minute with him. Savor every minute with your friend, even if she doesn't know you.
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