Good Moms / myLot

Gouverneur, New York

June 1, 2021 9:06am CST

There was a time when I thought I needed to be the perfect mother. I wore myself out working and being what I thought was a good mom. Despite my work hours and not always being at their dance lessons, cheerleading and sports events my girls have grown into wonderful, productive women that I am very proud of. I raised them to take responsibility for their own actions, do the best they can in what they are doing, and take other people's feelings into consideration. I am happy to say that my girls are trying to instill these same things in their own children. I am such a lucky mom to have such wonderful children. I used this cross stitch that I did a couple of months ago on this post. You don't have to be a perfect mother, you just have to listen when your children talk.

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The Horse

@TheHorse (238268)

• Walnut Creek, California

1 Jun 21

Yes, I think listening is one of the most important skills.

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Susan

@HazySue (39265)

• Gouverneur, New York

5 Jun 21

I agree, not only to your children but the people that are n your life.

MARILYN

@Marilynda1225 (91013)

• United States

1 Jun 21

Your stitching says it all Wish I had this hanging in my house when my children were growing up. It would have reminded me that I didn't have to be perfect raising 4 kids as a single mom. I'm very proud of my children too. They turned out to be wonderful adults raising good kids

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Susan

@HazySue (39265)

• Gouverneur, New York

5 Jun 21

I think that there are things like dust and moping the floor are things that can wait. I could have hung it in my kitchen also when I was raising my girls.

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much2say

@much2say (57760)

• Los Angeles, California

1 Jun 21

You are a good mom

. So nice to read your cross stitch . . . now I can remind myself that being the best parent we can be is not about having the cleanest house in the world

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much2say

@much2say (57760)

• Los Angeles, California

6 Jun 21

@HazySue Exactly. I know my own mother spent a lot of time keeping the house perfectly clean. But we spent a lot of time occupying ourselves, not that it was bad, but we didn't do a lot of "together" activities with my mom.

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Susan

@HazySue (39265)

• Gouverneur, New York

5 Jun 21

I thought that the cleaning could wait too. They spend such a small part of their life living with you. I just wanted them to know they are loved.

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Thelma

@thelme55 (79311)

• Germany

1 Jun 21

That is a beautiful handicraft. Yes, listening to our children when they talk to us is a must.

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Susan

@HazySue (39265)

• Gouverneur, New York

5 Jun 21

I designed this while thinking of my children. Thank you.

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Thelma

@thelme55 (79311)

• Germany

5 Jun 21

@HazySue It was a good design. You are welcome. Have a nice weekend.

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CarolDM

@CarolDM (203396)

• Nashville, Tennessee

1 Jun 21

What a beautiful cross-stitch piece. I have always tried being a good listener.

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Susan

@HazySue (39265)

• Gouverneur, New York

5 Jun 21

I think that it is so important to listen, really listen to your children. They may be trying to tell you something in a round about way.

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CarolDM

@CarolDM (203396)

• Nashville, Tennessee

5 Jun 21

@HazySue I agree. Would love to live life in reverse. Have my son back.

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Raj

@Butterfingers (66603)

• India

1 Jun 21

That's great and you have done an incredible job

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Susan

@HazySue (39265)

• Gouverneur, New York

5 Jun 21

Most of their lives I raised them alone. I think they have turned out to be the adults I dreamed of. Thanks.

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OceanTiara

@RebeccasFarm (91299)

• United States

1 Jun 21

I am glad your kids turned out great Susan..much credit due you.

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Susan

@HazySue (39265)

• Gouverneur, New York

5 Jun 21

I tried to make them feel how important they were to me while teaching them to be independent.

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Marlina

@marlina (154103)

• Canada

1 Jun 21

Yes, listening is a very essential part of raising our children

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Susan

@HazySue (39265)

• Gouverneur, New York

5 Jun 21

It it. Parents sometimes forget that.

DianneN

@DianneN (254949)

• United States

6 Jun 21

True, but I did it all. Now I can relax.

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Susan

@HazySue (39265)

• Gouverneur, New York

7 Jun 21

That's so true. It may be hard being everything to everyone but there does come a time when you can sit back and relax.

Dena Miller

@Dena91 (17029)

• United States

1 Jun 21

I think parents struggle with wanting to be the "best" when all they need is to listen and love. Children will learn from your example.

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Susan

@HazySue (39265)

• Gouverneur, New York

5 Jun 21

I agree. I wanted my girls to be happy in what they were doing while being responsible for their actions and words. I wanted them to feel they could talk to me about anything.

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