Learning To Set Boundaries.

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If you really know me, then you probably know that I have a problem with being "too nice." I never want to be mean or selfish, nor do I want to leave someone hanging. Unfortunately, that can open the door for stressful situations and wondering if someone is only reaching out because they want/need something. I had mentioned before that I was in a situation last month that had me stressed out. While the situation eventually worked out in my favor, it was a huge lesson in setting boundaries. It came again when that person wanted a similar favor this week, but I really can't afford to put myself in the same situation as last month. I have too much going on and coming up in my own life. Please note that I'm trying to be subtle even though the said person isn't on MyLot, but I don't feel the need to put anyone or anything out in the open right now. I kindly declined the favor. It wasn't easy but it was necessary. And maybe it's always hard at first. I wasn't mean. I didn't shame them. I simply told them I couldn't do it and that I was sorry. I'm not entirely sure what to expect; if they'll be angry or try to guilt-trip me into doing it, but either way, I'm sticking to my guns, and if we wind up going our separate ways, then so be it. But maybe they'll just accept my answer and move on. For the most part, I can be stubborn and stick to my guns. But there are times when I'm a pushover. I'm learning how to set those boundaries in those situations. I'm reminding myself that I cannot fix everything for everyone, nor do I have to fix everything for everyone. It's not my job or responsibility, and I can care about others without making their problems my own. And truth be told, I have enough on my mind right now, and I cannot focus on everyone else's problems or put myself in another stressful situation. I'm not trying to be mean or selfish, but my focus needs to be on my own life right now. Sooo, I hope my boundary is respected. I'm not giving in regardless. If I say I cannot (or don't want to) do something, then please respect my answer. Thanks. Alrighty, I'm doing a few more orders and then relaxing for the night. G'night or good morning, stay safe and take care, everyone. :) Photo Credit: Pixabay.