Just a little bit annoying!

@Fleura (34927)
United Kingdom
September 1, 2021 8:31am CST
So this morning we all decided to go for a swim at the outdoor pool - not many chances left as they will close at the weekend. Had a lovely time, even though it was a bit chilly. As they are running a booking system at ten-minute intervals, and it isn’t very busy, for our last ten minutes there was only us plus another woman and a boy in there. When time came to get out, the girls and I went to shower and change. The changing rooms are quite conventional, divided into ladies and gents rooms, and the ladies (presumably also the gents) has a largish open central area with benches and lockers surrounded by six cubicles. We showered and were getting changed in the central part, since there was no-one else there and it was a bit more convenient than the three of us squeezing into one cubicle, or having different ones but having to constantly pass towels, clothes etc back and forth as we were sharing one big bag. But we were just dressing when two other women arrived, one with one boy aged around 6 and the other with two boys of about 5 and 7. Then the other woman also came in from the pool with her boy. Now I understand that of course parents/carers are going to be taking their children swimming, and that obviously the adult may not be the same gender as the child, but still I didn’t really expect to be surrounded by four smallish boys at the same time. But that wasn’t what I was annoyed about - it was the fact that one of the women left the boy in her charge out in the central changing area watching all the rest of us, while she went into a cubicle to get changed in private! Am I being unreasonable to find that just a little bit irritating? All rights reserved. © Text and image copyright Fleur 2021.
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@LadyDuck (502148)
• Italy
1 Sep 21
She was rude, when she noticed that you were changing in the common area she should have brought her boy with her in the cubicle. Better, she had to send the boy in the men changing room.
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• United States
1 Sep 21
@LadyDuck That was my thought too; she should have brought him with her. If it were me, I would bring the child with me in the cubicle anyway and have him or her face the other way while I change.
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@LadyDuck (502148)
• Italy
1 Sep 21
@Fleura As she has seen that you were there and she was the only one with the boy except you, she could have accompanied her boy in the men changing room, waited until you came out and came back later to shower and dress.
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@Fleura (34927)
• United Kingdom
1 Sep 21
I think he was a bit too young to send off by himself. He probably could have managed but I imagine there might have been a lot of dawdling and of course she couldn't have gone to help or look for him. It's a difficult question. Ideally there should be some separate family changing rooms but the building isn't set up for that.
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@Ronrybs (21504)
• London, England
1 Sep 21
Usually find that other people are quite thoughtless with their kids whilst expecting you to watch out for them. Very much double standards
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@Fleura (34927)
• United Kingdom
8 Sep 21
@Ronrybs Indeed, you can't always blame the parents (well you can blame them, but it might be unfair!)
@Fleura (34927)
• United Kingdom
2 Sep 21
Very true! I hope I'm not guilty of that!
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@Ronrybs (21504)
• London, England
8 Sep 21
@Fleura 'Course, you have to add to that the fact that youngsters are autonomous and don't always do as told!
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@allknowing (153544)
• India
2 Sep 21
The common area is not for changing and so I suppose that lady did not find it odd to leave her boy there. Just saying
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@Fleura (34927)
• United Kingdom
2 Sep 21
I think it is, most people do change there and only a few use the cubicles, there are only six. But she obviously didn't find it odd at all.
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@BelleStarr (61463)
• United States
1 Sep 21
That was very rude of her for sure.
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@Fleura (34927)
• United Kingdom
2 Sep 21
It did seem a bit peculiar that she didn't want him watching her getting changed, but was happy to leave him watching everyone else!
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@DaddyEvil (174208)
• United States
1 Sep 21
I can see it both ways... She expected that if you wanted privacy you would have been in a cubicle and that central part is for people to wait on those changing. She also didn't want to send him into the men's part because there was no way to know if some pervert was in there waiting for an unchaperoned child to appear... She could have taken him in with her but she didn't want him watching her changing, either. I suppose she could have put him into one of the empty cubicles, though.
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@Fleura (34927)
• United Kingdom
1 Sep 21
So can I. The central part isn't just a waiting area, most people get changed there because at busy times there can be far more than six people in there. And she couldn't really have sent him into the gents' changing room to get changed on his own because I can imagine he might have just dawdled in there for ages and she couldn't have gone in to help or anything... But in a ladies' changing room you do expect that at least the majority of the people coming in will be female. It's a tricky one. If my partner had taken Little One I can't imagine he would have left her in the room with the men while he went into his own cubicle for a bit of privacy...
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@Fleura (34927)
• United Kingdom
1 Sep 21
@DaddyEvil I can't imagine calling the law on someone for taking their child to the swimming pool, that would be extreme!
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@DaddyEvil (174208)
• United States
1 Sep 21
@Fleura Think about that... You see a man taking a 6 or 7 year old girl into the dressing room with him.... Tell me women wouldn't wonder about that... and start whispering to each other. If either the man or the girl have any problems that means they're in there for more than a few minutes, I'd bet several women would be on the phone to the police...
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@just4him (323168)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
1 Sep 21
No, you're not being unreasonable. We have a locker room that allows for children and boys six and under. When I saw what time they all descended on the pool, I started swimming early before they arrived.
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@Fleura (34927)
• United Kingdom
1 Sep 21
That is one way of avoiding the problem!
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@Fleura (34927)
• United Kingdom
2 Sep 21
@just4him And of course changing after getting out is more difficult - you can arrive at the pool with your swimsuit already on, but you can't really go home still in your wet things.
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@just4him (323168)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
1 Sep 21
@Fleura Yes, it is. It was okay when I went into the pool, but when I came out, the kids were getting ready for their lessons.
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@kaylachan (84703)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
1 Sep 21
Yeah, that is a bit annoying. And, funny enough, had that been a little girl left alone in a room full of guys, all hell would've broken lose.
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@Fleura (34927)
• United Kingdom
1 Sep 21
Yes there would have been a big fuss I imagine.