I am feeling GUILTY with...

@Shavkat (141906)

Philippines

November 8, 2021 1:24am CST

...one of my students online. It has been almost 100 teaching sessions with her and she seems not improving. When she speaks, it is like she's eating her words. I did all the necessary teaching methodologies to improve her speaking, but they are not effective. There is no problem with her reading word per word during the word drills. The only flaw is that she is like murmuring while reading the sentences or answering questions with complete sentences. Did you ever feel guilty and frustrated at the same time? Image Credit: i1.wp.com/

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@rsa101 (40952)

• Philippines

8 Nov 21

So sorry to hear that you have students that don't seem to improve. It somehow reflects on you and her. Maybe you should consult with your superior what is the best approach to improve her speaking.

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@Shavkat (141906)

• Philippines

8 Nov 21

My superiors are not well-experienced like me in teaching online.

It is a fact that cannot be denied.

They are not good at this kind of concern. I think she is quite hardheaded when it comes to being corrected. She was being forced to learn a second language.

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@rsa101 (40952)

• Philippines

8 Nov 21

@Shavkat Too bad I guess you will have to contend or find some other methodology that may work with her. Thinking out of the box kind of methodology might work for her if the conventional ways are not working for her.

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@Shavkat (141906)

• Philippines

9 Nov 21

@rsa101 I think she needs a SPED teacher. She seems to be a slow young learner.

@LadyDuck (502189)

• Italy

8 Nov 21

I think she needs to have a teacher who follows her personally and not online. She surely has a problem also speaking her own language.

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@Shavkat (141906)

• Philippines

8 Nov 21

I do agree with you. She needs to be studying with a foreign teacher as a one-on-one class offline. In China, it is difficult to find this teacher there.

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@Shavkat (141906)

• Philippines

8 Nov 21

@LadyDuck I hope she can help herself to improve without a teacher presence.

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@LadyDuck (502189)

• Italy

8 Nov 21

@Shavkat She needs a personal teacher who can understand where is her problem.

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@Nawsheen (28761)

• Mauritius

8 Nov 21

I don't think you should feel guilty. Some children have learning difficulties meaning that no matter how hard you try it may not work out

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@Nawsheen (28761)

• Mauritius

11 Nov 21

@Shavkat Sometimes the parents must also teach their kids. You can't put the whole burden on a teacher. It should be a shared responsibility

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@Shavkat (141906)

• Philippines

11 Nov 21

@Nawsheen You said it right. The teachers are only the second parents for their kids.

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@Shavkat (141906)

• Philippines

9 Nov 21

I agree. I can categorize her as a slow young learner.

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@RubyHawk (99367)

• Atlanta, Georgia

9 Nov 21

I have a young friend who speaks the same way. As you say she speaks as if she’ll eating her words.

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@Shavkat (141906)

• Philippines

9 Nov 21

I honestly cannot comprehend when she utters words. Peace to some French people, she speaks like them.

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@Shavkat (141906)

• Philippines

10 Nov 21

@RubyHawk It's okay. I had experienced this when working with them before.

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@RubyHawk (99367)

• Atlanta, Georgia

9 Nov 21

@Shavkat I don’t speak French so I wouldn’t know about that.

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@DocAndersen (54399)

• United States

8 Nov 21

to open the door, to be a teacher we often face failure. it is time to try a new way!

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@Shavkat (141906)

• Philippines

8 Nov 21

I am trying to find a way. I need more time and squeeze all the juices of my brain.

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@Shavkat (141906)

• Philippines

9 Nov 21

@DocAndersen It would be a big problem if I will do all the talking. It is totally against the main goal of my current company.

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@DocAndersen (54399)

• United States

8 Nov 21

@Shavkat you say she is able to read and comprehend the reading perfectly? I would build her confidence by having her read more and talk less for a time.

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@Chakimmm (1011)

• Indonesia

9 Nov 21

You are a good person, don't be frustrated because of life's challenges, maybe it has become your destiny that must be passed, it will be difficult for you but believe me a big effort will find good results and keep praying for him.

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@Shavkat (141906)

• Philippines

9 Nov 21

I think it is not my fault. I had this notion that she needs to help herself. I did my part and kept on pushing her. It is up to her to spread her wings and do better.

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@Shavkat (141906)

• Philippines

9 Nov 21

@Chakimmm I assumed that she has mild mental retardation (MR).

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@Chakimmm (1011)

• Indonesia

9 Nov 21

@Shavkat Does he have a mental disorder or something?

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@allknowing (153544)

• India

8 Nov 21

We have a news reader like that and she get son my nerves.

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@Shavkat (141906)

• Philippines

9 Nov 21

I must admit that I feel annoyed sometimes with her.

@crossbones27 (52907)

• Mojave, California

8 Nov 21

Sounds like she is not confident bring that up where she is confident and bet she will be all good. It happens I would not be confident speaking Filipino. I have a hard enough time speaking English and I live here. I had that in Japan speaking their language and go think will just stick to English no one cared enough and knew was just a tiny stint off my life so everyone was like yeah its not really going to matter in long run for you.

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@crossbones27 (52907)

• Mojave, California

9 Nov 21

@Shavkat Yeah its hard when you feel if you say the wrong thing you will get in trouble even if it is as simple as people laughing at you. Why teachers here the good ones anyway tell the other students do not laugh unless its meant to be funny.

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@Shavkat (141906)

• Philippines

9 Nov 21

@crossbones27 You will be fascinated if seeing the traditional Chinese kiddies. They are so passive and cannot relate to changes in time. Now, we are having a hard time because the Chinese government forbids young ones to learn the English language aged 12 and below.

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@Shavkat (141906)

• Philippines

8 Nov 21

She did hold back a couple of times. I guess you are right that she is not that confident. I think she is carrying out the manner of learning in a classroom-type in China. They tend to be passive.

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@rebelann (117199)

• El Paso, Texas

9 Nov 21

It can be very hard for a person to learn how to pronounce words in a language they do not know.

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@rebelann (117199)

• El Paso, Texas

9 Nov 21

It is easier for very young children to learn a new language than it is for older kids.

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@Shavkat (141906)

• Philippines

10 Nov 21

@rebelann I agree with you. I also noticed this one unless they are not that playful during the classes online though.

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@Shavkat (141906)

• Philippines

9 Nov 21

She is a teenager now. At her age, she can do the pronunciation of the English words. But then, she needs to enunciate the words in making sentences aloud.

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@RebeccasFarm (91299)

• United States

8 Nov 21

Yes I did. Many times. Maybe she does not want to try hard enough.

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@Shavkat (141906)

• Philippines

9 Nov 21

I felt bad if she feels not into improving. Her parents are just wasting their money.

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@just4him (323168)

• Green Bay, Wisconsin

8 Nov 21

I'm sorry she hasn't improved.

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@Shavkat (141906)

• Philippines

8 Nov 21

I think it is not my fault. She needs to herself for being introverted.

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@just4him (323168)

• Green Bay, Wisconsin

8 Nov 21

@Shavkat No, it's not your fault. You did everything you could.

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@Shavkat (141906)

• Philippines

9 Nov 21

@just4him I think I did. Thank you.

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@Hannihar (130150)

• Israel

8 Nov 21

@Shavkat I am sorry about the student. I probably have but cannot recall when.

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@Shavkat (141906)

• Philippines

9 Nov 21

I am sorry for her. I realized that I did all my best. It is her fault for not listening to my advice.

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@Shavkat (141906)

• Philippines

9 Nov 21

@Hannihar I hope so. She did not book my classes lately. I really give her advice that she needs to work for it.

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@Hannihar (130150)

• Israel

9 Nov 21

@Shavkat Maybe she had a lot on her mind that she could not concentrate or listen to your advice.

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@CarolDM (203396)

• Nashville, Tennessee

8 Nov 21

I think we all have these mixed feelings. You are a great teacher.

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@Shavkat (141906)

• Philippines

9 Nov 21

I think I am just feeling stressed out with her. I will take it as a compliment. Thank you.

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@Shavkat (141906)

• Philippines

10 Nov 21

@CarolDM Thanks. I will do my best

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@CarolDM (203396)

• Nashville, Tennessee

9 Nov 21

You got this.

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@sinari (4995)

• Indonesia

8 Nov 21

I've never experienced it. It is actually more effective to teach students offline than online.

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@Shavkat (141906)

• Philippines

9 Nov 21

I do agree that it is best to learn offline. For these Chinese students, it is more effective to learn the second language speaking online. Why? It is hard for them to practice speaking with their own kind in China.

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@Shavkat (141906)

• Philippines

9 Nov 21

@sinari Thanks for agreeing.

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@sinari (4995)

• Indonesia

9 Nov 21

@Shavkat Yes agree friend.

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@jobelbojel (36791)

• Philippines

8 Nov 21

I felt that and still feeling it with my life group. I have 3 people under my care but only one is active. Do not blame yourself.

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@Shavkat (141906)

• Philippines

9 Nov 21

I do think that I should not feel like this. I did my part and it is her to do something about it.

@jstory07 (148720)

• Roseburg, Oregon

8 Nov 21

I hope that she will improve and there is something that you can figure out to help here.

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@Shavkat (141906)

• Philippines

9 Nov 21

I hope she will improve soon. If not, her parents had wasted their money out of nothing.

@franxav (14588)

• India

8 Nov 21

If you have done all that you can , you shouldn't feel guilty. In some cases we have to just accept the situation and move ahead.

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@Shavkat (141906)

• Philippines

8 Nov 21

At some point, I am convincing myself that I did all and not to feel guilty about it.

@db20747 (43419)

• Washington, District Of Columbia

8 Nov 21

There may be more methods to try, keep hope, she will improve soon

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@Shavkat (141906)

• Philippines

9 Nov 21

I will try to keep on nagging her. I am sure she will force herself to improve the speaking part.

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@Icydoll (36713)

• India

8 Nov 21

So sorry to hear that you students that don't seem to improve but some students are like that .it's not your problem it's completely their problem .

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@Shavkat (141906)

• Philippines

8 Nov 21

I agree. I assumed that she does not want to be corrected.

@Janet357 (75638)

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8 Nov 21

the same thing is felt by some of my tutors. It is not your problem, it is the learner's.

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@Shavkat (141906)

• Philippines

8 Nov 21

I also considered the point that she is living in the countryside and the culture is too strong to be a bit shy when having classes with a teacher. I gave up asking her not to hold back when answering questions verbally because it is always the same response.