I still have a chance

@CarolDm she is brilliant. All through high school she had a 99.1 gpa. Now her final months of her senior year she isn’t doing her homework and has an 80. She goes to his house after school until 11pm. She’s the smartest dumb person I ever met. No common sense and quiet immature I think but the best memory you can get. She could go on to be a doctor or lawyer but she doesn’t want to do anything. Won’t even consider college when she could go for free this year.

@shaggin I hope she will change her mind soon.

@snowy22315 she really has no idea how was she has had it here. Even compared to her best friend she should see how much more freedom she has. No matter what I say there’s always some lame excuse or something she’s blaming me for. Teens don’t always see things clearly but hopefully some day she does. I am sorry to hear that about your son. I don’t get along with my mother very well and haven’t since I was a kid but it’s not just me no one really is able to get along with her she’s a very difficult person putting it nicely. It must be so hard for you not speaking to your son. I’m dreading when my daughter moved out but I hope it makes her grow up some!!

@shaggin I could speak to him, but I always find his attitudes disturbing. He won't acknowledge anyone else's viewpoint.

@shaggin It probably will..it seems like your mom is always doing nice things for you, from what you have shared on here.

@kaylachan I got along better with my mother when I was a kid but I don’t get along with her much at all now but no one does so it’s not just me. I haven’t gotten along with her since I was a kid not during my teen years or anything. My father I didn’t get along with until adulthood. He’s a much nicer person then I ever realized. My daughter I hope matures as she gets older. When she has to pay for all her own food and wash her own clothes and work daily she will see life here was much easier then she realized.

@shaggin Exactly. As kids, at some point, we take for granted what our parents do for us. It's not until we have to do for ourselves, that things change and we realize how hard being an adult really can be. As for your mom, it's clear that she's changed, as humans often do.

@LadyDuck she doesn’t think she will be. They know everything at 17

@LadyDuck I hope so. It breaks my heart to think she will move out in a few months and not have much contact with me as she plans.

@shaggin - I hope she changes her mind and she stays with you. She will be unhappy once she moves out.

@Faster16 it could be. I don’t think she remembers much about him anymore sadly and my son doesn’t remember him at all.

@shaggin it must be really hard for her

@shaggin I hope so, but I still remember a lot when I was 6 years old

@shaggin Yes. My brother was offered a job as a draftsman in a local factory within days of finishing highschool and that helped a lot. But barely 17 is too young to take on so much responsibility.

@shaggin My mother got some sort of half-assed widow's pension that only allowed for one kid...

@BarBaraPrz yes very sad . My kids get survivor’s benefits so I’m very thankful for that.

@jstory07 it doesn’t make it any easier now but hopefully. I just hate thinking about her moving out and not seeing her much. I’ve never been a parent to look forward to their kids moving out. I’m dreading it. I’m going to be worried about her constantly.

@jstory07 I’ll have a 15, 16 and 1 year old by that point so I won’t feel completely alone but more so then when she is living here. Although she rarely comes out of her room except to eat or shower etc.

@shaggin That is normal to worry. When kids leave home you feel all alone.

@Marshamusselman her boyfriend drives so when I don’t want her to go with him she just runs out of the house. She has refused to come home many times at night until I show up at the house to get her or threaten to call the cops when it’s past midnight. He has an earring disorder so now suddenly she’s saying she has one. He doesn’t do his homework so now she’s skipping homework after having a 99.1 gpa all through high school. She only has until June until she graduates I wish so much she hadn’t met him until at least she graduated. Everything has gone downhill since she met him. She’s been just awful her attitude. It’s very depressing. She told me as soon as she’s 18 she’s moving out and won’t have much contact with me. My guess is she will come around when she needs something only. She will have to learn to stand on her own two feet she wont be able to act spoiled any longer when shes on her own. As much as I do for her it will be a huge wake up call I think. She’ll have to walk to work if she gets a job in town since she wont take time away from her boyfriend to learn to drive. I hope she will stay here until she graduates at least . She turns 18 about a month before.

@shaggin I will pray that she stays.

@sol_cee she’s just been extremely defiant and nasty since she started dating this guy she’s with.

@dgobucks226 I really hope that once she moves out on her own she sees that I wasn’t as bad she she thought and that living here really wasn’t so bad. I hate knowing she won’t be loving here much longer. It’s upsetting. I will be worried about her. I really hope I don’t have to be old and die before she comes to her senses. I do think being a teen and wanting to be an adult and having to follow the rules of the parents is tough. She really has had it easy here I just wouldn’t allow her to spend the night at her boyfriends house and for that it has caused so many issues.

@shaggin Well, I think that is a reasonable request since she still lives at home. As time passes and she matures more, she will be grateful she had a mom who worries about her and cares.

@mildredtabitha at this point nope there’s no getting her to listen and changing her mind from the absurd way she thinks. I just hope when she is older she will mature and look bad on things differently.

@mildredtabitha she will be 18 in May

@shaggin how old is she now?

@JimBo452020 I forgot to mention at the end of the last post that I got her an appointment at a different doctors office who will hopefully take her depression more seriously and give her a medication that will work better then what she has been taking. I am so stressed all the time worrying about her. She plans to move out when she is 18 which is in May. I hope that she changes her mind though. She can come and go as she pleases once she’s 18 but until then I want her home each night not staying at her boyfriends house and that has caused many fights over the past few months.

@shaggin oh god I really got that wrong. She needs a lot of support and help it sounds like. It must stress you out. It would stress me out

@shaggin She will be 18 soon. Hope it all works out.

@1creekgirl that’s so very true. I can only hope that she will come around before that. I can’t stand the thought of her moving out but after she does maybe she will appreciate how good she had it here.

@JudyEv she will be an adult in 4 months then she can do what she wants without my say I just hope she makes better choices.

@shaggin Teen years are really tough for parents. I hope she comes to her senses. That was a pretty awful thing your mother said to you.