Gender Please
By Kandase
@Kandae11 (57233)
March 23, 2022 10:43am CST
I recall an embarrassing Mylot moment back in 2017. For a couple of weeks a member and myself commented back and forth on each other's posts, and l was unaware that the person behind the avatar was a male.
I do think that when one is trying to make a cogent point in a discussion it is best to know which gender one is talking to. I also agree that over a period of time one will be able to guess who one is talking to, but in the meantime.....
Of course one can always check the profile page - but then, some members have very brief profiles with no mention of gender.
Have you ever mistook the gender of a member? Do you think we should identify ourselves? How important is it?
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@FourWalls (86568)
• United States
23 Mar 22
I’m a female. You can call me anything you like, just don’t call me late for dinner! 
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@FourWalls (86568)
• United States
23 Mar 22
@Kandae11 — as Helen Reddy sang about the senior females, “I am woman, hear me snore.” 
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@Kandae11 (57233)
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23 Mar 22
@FourWalls l don't know that song. - unless, maybe the title is " I am Woman"
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@MarshaMusselman (38865)
• Midland, Michigan
23 Mar 22
I like to know mostly just as a way to get to know the person better. There are several members here that I mistook their genders and eventually they mentioned a husband or wife giving me a better clue.
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@DaddyEvil (174208)
• United States
23 Mar 22
Sometimes, I can't figure out if I'm talking with a man or a woman on myLot.. When that happens, I take a guess... a lot of the time, I've guessed correctly. 
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@DaddyEvil (174208)
• United States
23 Mar 22
@Kandae11 Nah! If they were worried about it, then they'd have a name that shows their gender or they'd straight up tell us. *shrug* Did you have any trouble figuring out my gender? 
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@Kandae11 (57233)
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23 Mar 22
@DaddyEvil Oh no", your avatar is reasonably obvious - as well as your comments.
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@Marilynda1225 (91013)
• United States
23 Mar 22
I mistook a female I had been talking to for ages as a male.
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@Marilynda1225 (91013)
• United States
23 Mar 22
@Kandae11 most of the time I can figure out the gender, whether the person is married, divorced, younger, older, where they live, etc. But there are some that are often confusing even after talking to them for a long time. I just go with it and enjoy the chat
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@Kandae11 (57233)
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23 Mar 22
@Marilynda1225. Yes indeed, we are here to learn, earn and have fun.
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@dgobucks226 (37621)
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25 Mar 22
I have. Of course, in today's world gender is just an old fashioned word that is now obsolete, as it's been replaced by the PC term gender neutral 
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@much2say (57760)
• Los Angeles, California
23 Mar 22
In most cases I can figure out "gender" by the things they say in their posts/comments. I guess mine is not visually obvious, but if anyone knows me, they know I've mentioned being a mom or something to the nature that I'm female. There have been times when others called me bro or dude here - but they never stuck around long enough to even get to know me.
- but they never stuck around long enough to even get to know me.1 person likes this
but I haven't seen that happen lately. I guess the newbies come in spurts 
@jobelbojel (36791)
• Philippines
23 Mar 22
Yes, I thought that someone I am talking is a woman. Until I saw the comment from the user that stated "My wife" oh, He is a guy.
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@porwest (112717)
• United States
23 Mar 22
I have run into this a few times myself, and it can get interesting to say the least if you don't pick up on it right away. I do think it is helpful for people to know, but not exactly how one would go about it necessarily. Even my own name would not necessarily suggest male (Porwest), but certainly Jim Bauer does.
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@GardenGerty (169406)
• United States
24 Mar 22
It could be important, but it is also personal choice whether or not to reveal details. Yes, I have been gender confused about other members in the past and tried really hard to keep things neutral.
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@sulynsi (2669)
• Canada
24 Mar 22
When you think about it, as a public forum, the poster is not the only person that may be reading your message.
Using general language, remembering you are in 'public', speak as you would in front of a mixed audience. Avoid getting too personal - and if you want, in time, to have more of a 'tete a tete', it will give you enough time to know an individual better and thereby avoid blunders.
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@RebeccasFarm (91299)
• United States
24 Mar 22
To me, it depends on the discussion topic, whether or not it needs to be known what gender we are conversing with.
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@1creekgirl (44560)
• United States
25 Mar 22
I don't recon it's vital, but I do like to know a myLotter's gender.
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