I Thought I'd Be Married w/ Children
@PinkFloydFan (1187)
United States
April 2, 2022 3:48pm CST
As a teenager, if you asked me where I'd be in 25 years, or where I would be at 40, I'd probably give the basics. Go to school, college, get a job, get married, have kids. A little later, I started subtracting, things like having kids, but now as I near that milestone this year, I look at it the same way I did when I was a teen; that it was old.
Maybe I was always too much of a rebel, bohemian, anti-group, artistic kinda person who wouldn't have a conventional life, but I've dreamed about some of it because it's easy. You gt to imagine the good, and never have to live the negative sides to it.
Irony = John Lennon writing a song called, "Life Begins At Forty" then losing his life at 40.
Me = About to turn 40, and feel life has been over.
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@FayeHazel (40230)
• United States
4 Apr 22
Hi fellow 40 yr. old. I know what you mean. This is a really odd age. You think about the things you thought were going to happen and you wonder if it's too late for all that. In my case, personally I didn't even want kids - but I find myself thinking things like - if life had gone differently my kids would be grown now. I might even be a grandma now. But I'm also an artistic type... so maybe life is a bit different for us
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@PinkFloydFan (1187)
• United States
4 Apr 22
Hi Faye, nice to meet you, and thanks for your response :)
I've been very, very self-reflective lately.
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@FayeHazel (40230)
• United States
4 Apr 22
@PinkFloydFan Nice meeting you, too :-) Ah yes, this 40 business is a weird one isn't it?
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@PinkFloydFan (1187)
• United States
4 Apr 22
@FayeHazel It's a very "limbo" stage for me... "Now what?"... I don't know if my overactive imagination helps or hurts, though. I'm constantly thinking... In the last 15 months, I lost family (my first, 1st cousin, 32), and my best friend in October, the only person who spoke my language, and I'm not getting over it, and it seems I was left alone, and no one close to me reached out, just to come over, talk, etc... And because I spent my 20s (and early 30s) traveling the world, everyone is scattered, and I was already "alone".
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@thedevilinme (5217)
• Northampton, England
2 Apr 22
Someone told me Im not the marrying type - when I was 14! They were right
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@PinkFloydFan (1187)
• United States
3 Apr 22
Yeah, me neither! I'm not the boyfriend type. I'm the live alone type, but wouldn't mind hanging out once in a while with people I like.. Those with something to say, those who are honest, a sense of humor.
@1creekgirl (44560)
• United States
2 Apr 22
I can understand how you feel. But your life isn't over at 40. We all have to readjust to how life changes as it goes by, but try to look at life with a new perspective and ask God to give you encouragement.
@PinkFloydFan (1187)
• United States
3 Apr 22
I'm a freethinker and have no involvement with religion.
But my kind of life does end at 40.. There aren't things I want to do at 50, and if I didn't get them done by 40, I'm not going to put myself in that situation.
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@1creekgirl (44560)
• United States
3 Apr 22
@PinkFloydFan Just for the record, I have no involvement with "religion" either. I do have a relationship with Jesus Christ and there's a world of difference.
@PinkFloydFan (1187)
• United States
3 Apr 22
@1creekgirl I have nothing to do with any of that stuff... Not interested. No different than Santa Claus to me, another thing I won't talk about.
@franxav (14588)
• India
3 Apr 22
40 and over , no. You're young and you can continue to find new things to do.
@PinkFloydFan (1187)
• United States
3 Apr 22
No, I feel very old.
I'm not interested in new things, and the things I wanted, I didn't get.
