Wandering Eyes / myLot

April 21, 2022 10:16am CST

How would you feel when on a date with your special someone in a restaurant, he or she stares at other persons? Some may be bold enough to pause in mid- sentence while staring , or actually turn in his chair to have a better look. Others who are not that bold will do it in a sneaky manner, you won't suspect a thing - but they're watching all right. What does that do to your self esteem? Would you continue to date that person? Pixabay image

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Hilda

@Hildasalom (953)

• Nairobi, Kenya

21 Apr 22

I will really feel bad but I you should tell her or him, maybe it is not what you think. Maybe they are just staring because that lery looks familiar. First tell your partner and see how she reacts and she will stop or continue doing that.

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Kandase

@Kandae11 (57233)

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21 Apr 22

Depends on if it is someone he or she knows.

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Kandase

@Kandae11 (57233)

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21 Apr 22

@Hildasalom True. If l am out on a date l would prefer to have my date's full attention.

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Hilda

@Hildasalom (953)

• Nairobi, Kenya

21 Apr 22

@Kandae11 You just have to talk with your partner and try to correct what can be corrected.

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Suryati20

@sinari (4995)

• Indonesia

21 Apr 22

I'll try to see how my date looks at someone. If what he's staring at is normal, then I don't have a problem. Who knew what he was staring at was an acquaintance, or an old friend. But if she stares with wide-eyed pupils or with flirtatious eyes, then I'll be offended. And maybe I won't go out with my date anymore.

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Kandase

@Kandae11 (57233)

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21 Apr 22

If he is making eye contact and she looks flirtatious, that would make it a problem.

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Suryati20

@sinari (4995)

• Indonesia

21 Apr 22

@Kandae11 Yes, I totally agree with you on that. If your date looks at a woman who is around your seat with a flirtatious look, it means he is not a good man for you, because he does not respect you. So I think you need to reconsider not continuing your date with this guy.

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Kandase

@Kandae11 (57233)

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21 Apr 22

@sinari. I agree, most definitely.

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snowy

@snowy22315 (208746)

• United States

21 Apr 22

I would try to find out why they are looking, and see if it continues. I wouldn't put up with someone who did that on a regular basis though.

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Kandase

@Kandae11 (57233)

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21 Apr 22

I would feel as if he is still looking for his ideal person.

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Judy Evans

@JudyEv (381760)

• Rockingham, Australia

22 Apr 22

I probably wouldn't continue to date them but it's a hypothetical question for me. I think my dating days are long gone.

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Judy Evans

@JudyEv (381760)

• Rockingham, Australia

22 Apr 22

@Kandae11 No, not really. I guess I didn't really go out a lot.

Kandase

@Kandae11 (57233)

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22 Apr 22

Did you experience any such behavior during your dating days?

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Dena Miller

@Dena91 (17029)

• United States

22 Apr 22

Everyone looks, men and women. Would I stop dating someone who looks at others? Depends on how far the looking goes. If it is just that, no. But if they begin talking/flirting then no more dating.

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Kandase

@Kandae11 (57233)

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22 Apr 22

Yes women do it as well. If flirting follows the looking, then one should definitely ' put one's foot down'.

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Danna B.

@db20747 (43419)

• Washington, District Of Columbia

21 Apr 22

I once left a guy on a date who was looking at other women. I was Pippin mad. Me and him remained good friends later on. But that made me mad as heck!!

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Kandase

@Kandae11 (57233)

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21 Apr 22

He could at least contain himself when he is with someone, but then it is best to know upfront that he is that type.

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OceanTiara

@RebeccasFarm (91299)

• United States

22 Apr 22

I think it is the height of ignorance to stare anyway, so why would someone do that..ignorance.

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OceanTiara

@RebeccasFarm (91299)

• United States

23 Apr 22

@Kandae11 Yes

Kandase

@Kandae11 (57233)

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22 Apr 22

I think staring on the whole is kind of rude. A subtle glance won't be that bad.

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Judy Story

@jstory07 (148701)

• Roseburg, Oregon

22 Apr 22

I would not go on another date with that man at all. They can go to the restaurant by themselves.

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Kandase

@Kandae11 (57233)

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22 Apr 22

I won't like it either. I would get the impression he is bored or looking for someone else.

Anna

@LadyDuck (502148)

• Italy

22 Apr 22

Should I notice this in a restaurant, I would stand up, quit the place and never see that person again. I experience such behavior with my ex boyfriend, our relationship did not last. He looked at other girls while we were walking in the streets. Of course it happens that my husband looks at a particularly attractive girl, but it's very different, I do the same when I notice a particularly attractive guy.

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Kandase

@Kandae11 (57233)

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22 Apr 22

It can be very annoying . To be honest my ego would be very deflated as it is my feeling that if we are out on a date l should have his full attention. He is free to stare at other girls, but not in my company.

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Anna

@LadyDuck (502148)

• Italy

22 Apr 22

@Kandae11 I am married from 50 years and I do not get upset if my husband looks at a pretty girl while we are walking together. I do not pretend that he never looks at other women. I would have not accepted if he did when we were dating and he was with me.

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Kandase

@Kandae11 (57233)

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22 Apr 22

@LadyDuck Especially not if it happens to be the first or second date.

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