Men Can Be Victims too.

@Kandae11 (57233)

June 3, 2022 9:00am CST

People tend to forget or are unwilling to accept the fact that men can suffer mental and physical abuse by women -- the weaker sex. One good thing about the televised Johnny Depp , Amber Heard court case is that it has reminded the general public that men do suffer abuse from their spouses or girlfriends. Most of it is not reported because of a feeling of shame. I heard about an abused man who went to the police station several times to make a report. However he would leave without saying anything whenever a male officer was there. He waited until a female officer was on duty before making the report. It seems that female officers are more sympathetic to male domestic violence victims. What are your thoughts on this matter? Do you know of any male person who has been abused by girlfriend or spouse? What advice would you give to the victim and abuser. Pixabay image.

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@LadyDuck (502148)

• Italy

3 Jun 22

Some women are horrible and they can be as dangerous as some men are toward their spouses. I would suggest to those men who go to the police and report immediately. Also women can kill.

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@LadyDuck (502148)

• Italy

3 Jun 22

@Kandae11 I understand very well.

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@Kandae11 (57233)

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3 Jun 22

I won't like it to happen to my son - or anyone's son for that matter.

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@CarolDM (203396)

• Nashville, Tennessee

3 Jun 22

I agree that men can be victims. About the Depp - Heard fiasco, it should not have been televised. Kept many from thinking of how bad the country is doing.

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@Kandae11 (57233)

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3 Jun 22

@CarolDM. It happens , when celebrities are involved , because people are star struck.

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@Kandae11 (57233)

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3 Jun 22

I was wondering why it was televised- and to be honest l wasn't paying any attention to it. My son was taken up with the 'show' and related everything to me. Apart from not being a fan of "Pirates of the Caribbean" or "Aquaman". I already know that men can and are being abused. I wrote a discussion on it some years ago on Mylot.

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@CarolDM (203396)

• Nashville, Tennessee

3 Jun 22

@Kandae11 Everything these days is all about drama. And "nothing to see here". Keep your focus on things that don't matter, while the important things are happening somewhere else.

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@DaddyEvil (174208)

• United States

3 Jun 22

A lot more men are abused by their spouse than is reported. People think it's funny when a man is abused by a woman. Why else would it have taken seven years for me to get divorced? It wasn't until I broke down crying in court and told the judge he was helping my wife to abuse me the longer he allowed her to keep taking me back to court. Reporting spousal abuse to the police if you're a man is embarrassing. The police think it's hilarious that a woman can beat up on a man or abuse him mentally. They wouldn't do anything to help me.

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@DaddyEvil (174208)

• United States

3 Jun 22

@Kandae11 My exes friends all thought it was terrible but couldn't do anything to help me. My ex loved to torture me mentally and that doesn't show to the police.

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@Kandae11 (57233)

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3 Jun 22

Seems like police are the same everywhere, they portray this kind of macho approach and refuse to accept that there are some women who are tougher than men - probably an overdose of testosterone somewhere along the line. I am very sorry that happened to you , and l can tell you - any woman who tries any abuse tactics with my son will have me to contend with.

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@Kandae11 (57233)

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3 Jun 22

@DaddyEvil The scars of mental torture can't be seen by anyone. Until those who are not strong mentally may one day explode and people wonder - "Oh where did that come from?" - Mr X or Mrs X seemed so quiet and unassuming.

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@kobesbuddy (78833)

• East Tawas, Michigan

3 Jun 22

God created Man&Woman as equals. Nither one is abused more than the other. This is a falacy, men just don't admit to getting hurt or injured. They pretent to strong and tough, another falacy. Human being learn to be play actors.

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@kobesbuddy (78833)

• East Tawas, Michigan

3 Jun 22

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@aninditasen (18198)

• Raurkela, India

4 Jun 22

Yes, my younger son has been abused by his wife. He stays away from her, but my advice would be to throw such abusive people out of life whether man or woman.

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@Kandae11 (57233)

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5 Jun 22

That would be my advice too. If there is no hope of change, then leave.

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@Kandae11 (57233)

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5 Jun 22

@aninditasen l would encourage him to leave.

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@Nakitakona (59987)

• Philippines

4 Jun 22

There are some couples here in our place thar hubbies are under the mercy of their wives.

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@Kandae11 (57233)

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5 Jun 22

I know of cases where wives are in full control.

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@Nakitakona (59987)

• Philippines

5 Jun 22

@Kandae11 Yes they do exist. Sorry for those hubbies who couldn't assert their rights.

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@crossbones27 (52907)

• Mojave, California

3 Jun 22

What I find sad is they usually good dudes a little to good and was watching this video on Reddit and this was just a stranger but she was tearing his car apart and then started hitting him and homie wanted to hit her back but everyone was like do not hit her back and instead of pulling her off they just recorded it and next thing she started biting him real hard I do not care I would have pushed her to ground as they say here you wanna act like a man we can surely treat you like a man.

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@crossbones27 (52907)

• Mojave, California

3 Jun 22

@Kandae11 Amen and true, thank you for saying that. Because not sure if people can understand basic decent behavior anymore.

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@Kandae11 (57233)

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3 Jun 22

Anything that goes on in public now - could be a fight or a serious car accident - the first thing onlookers do instead of helping to difuse a situation , they pull out their phones and start recording. People have grown cold and social media crazy. I don't care who it is , if someone is being attacked by male or female , he or she has the right to defend themselves.

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@sjvg1976 (42727)

• Delhi, India

3 Jun 22

Yes, men are abused by women. I have not personally met anyone as people feel embarrassed to disclose the same. Even the police won't take it seriously.

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@Kandae11 (57233)

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3 Jun 22

There are many ways a woman can abuse a man without even striking a blow. It is unfair on both sides. That is why both women and men should pay attention to red flags before becoming too deeply involved.

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@RebeccasFarm (91299)

• United States

4 Jun 22

I agree. She was a doozy too that Amber..she was very unbelievable. I am glad Johnny exposed this as it was an important thing to do for his kids too.

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@RebeccasFarm (91299)

• United States

5 Jun 22

@Kandae11 and I do too

@Kandae11 (57233)

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5 Jun 22

Yes, it was. I hope he can recoup some of his lost earnings - canceled contracts etc.

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@jobelbojel (36791)

• Philippines

6 Jun 22

Yeah, I agree with shame. Some men, suffer abuse but remained silent because they don't want people to see them

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@Kandae11 (57233)

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6 Jun 22

I understand how they would feel.

@jstory07 (148701)

• Roseburg, Oregon

5 Jun 22

I only know one women who was abused by a man. I do not know of any men that were abused by a women. Men might keep it a secret.

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@Kandae11 (57233)

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5 Jun 22

Yes they do keep it secret if they can.

@RubyHawk (99367)

• Atlanta, Georgia

4 Jun 22

I don’t know of any man who is abused by his spouse but I know it happens.

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@RubyHawk (99367)

• Atlanta, Georgia

5 Jun 22

@Kandae11 Yes it is and neither should put up with it.

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@Kandae11 (57233)

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5 Jun 22

Abuse is wrong on both sides.

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@db20747 (43419)

• Washington, District Of Columbia

5 Jun 22

Nothing worse than a man begging for a woman not to leave him. Especially one that is abusive. It's hard to believe since a man is supposed to be so macho. I think they take abuse In hopes that she might change.

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@db20747 (43419)

• Washington, District Of Columbia

5 Jun 22

@Kandae11 this is when the desire for love is so strong, that even an abusive person is better than no person. There is the hope that things will get better , but the abusive person sees this as weakness and continues to abuse and it gets worse, to the point the person has no alternative but to leave or suffer severely.

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@Kandae11 (57233)

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5 Jun 22

@db20747 l agree. That is exactly the way it goes down.

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@Kandae11 (57233)

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5 Jun 22

I suppose the same way there are women who stay with abusive men, there are men who will stay with abusive women. It is hard to understand the mindset of some women and men - but that's the way it is.

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@Hannihar (130150)

• Israel

3 Jun 22

@Kandae11 I met a male once that wanted a divorce from his wife but she would not give it to him and I think she mentally abused him. They certainly are victims too and it is sad that they are not believed like females are told that it was their fault and that is not true at all. I am glad that the female officer was sympathetic to the guy that reported it. It is sad that both female or male have to report someone abusing them. People should not treat others so badly. There are too many bullies in this world and they should not exist.

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@Kandae11 (57233)

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3 Jun 22

It is difficult for a male to talk about it to friends and family - and to seek advice.

@Hannihar (130150)

• Israel

6 Jun 22

@Kandae11 Yes, it would be nice if bullies did not exist and people could live their lives in peace and quiet. It is sad how some latch themselves on to someone and will not leave them alone.

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@Kandae11 (57233)

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3 Jun 22

I agree , it would be great if there was less bullying or no bullying at school , in the home, the workplace - everywhere. What a big difference it would make.

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@snowy22315 (208746)

• United States

3 Jun 22

Yes, they certainly can. Most times they are too ashamed to report it too.

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@Kandae11 (57233)

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3 Jun 22

There are some women who are tougher than men.

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@LeaPea2417 (40020)

• Toccoa, Georgia

3 Jun 22

I agree with that.

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@GreatMartin (23670)

• Ft. Lauderdale, Florida

3 Jun 22

I have known more than 1 guy to be abused by his partner---nothing new about that!

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@Kandae11 (57233)

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3 Jun 22

No, nothing new. Some years ago a very famous singer found himself in the same boat.

@Shiva49 (28366)

• Singapore

3 Jun 22

A male officer would tell the victim that he is a sissy while a female officer is more likely to give a patient ear. Apart from physical abuse, I know of cases where men are subjected to belittling that they are nincompoop. Comparing with other men can be damning.

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@Kandae11 (57233)

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3 Jun 22

The male officer would be very unhappy receiving such a report , therefore his reaction might not be nice. He would feel that his gender has been disgraced.

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