My young neighbor is making bad decisions

@NJChicaa (115921)
United States
June 28, 2022 4:34pm CST
She has been living paycheck to paycheck for as long as she has been living in the apartment next to mine. I have helped her by lending her my vacuum and some cleaning products. I give her leftovers. I let her go "shopping" in my fridge, freezer, and cabinets. I don't give her money but I am happy to help her out by sharing what I have. I even gave her a Yankee candle once because she said that she really wanted one. I am always happy to share what I have with others--anyone--whether they are in financial need or not. Anyway my neighbor quit her job a couple of weeks ago. I thought she was just transferring to another location but apparently that was not the case. It made absolutely no sense to me because she was already just scraping by and had no savings. Now she still has bills, no income, and now no health insurance. Her roommate decided to move back in with her parents when the lease is over (I think in a few days). She was debating trying to get a new roommate or moving into her aunt's basement. She told me a couple of days ago that she is packing up boxes so I guess she is going for the basement. I don't know if her aunt is going to charge her rent or not. Either way she still is going to have to get a job to pay for food, gas, clothes, her weed, etc. She just texted me asking if I had any meat which means that her fridge is empty and she has no money to buy anything. I told her that I do. I have ground beef in the freezer and center-cut boneless pork chops in the fridge. She is welcome to whatever she wants. I am trying to clear out the freezer. I'm finding stuff in there that I had totally forgotten that I had. Sooooo I expect that she will roll in here shortly to find something or dinner. Like I said I am happy to help. She was a student of mine a few years ago and we always had a positive teacher/student relationship. I just worry about what will happen going forward when she is no longer living here and doesn't have my little bits of assistance.
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@solidcodes (1690)
• Philippines
28 Jun 22
The weed is the reason that lead her to a bad decision.
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@NJChicaa (115921)
• United States
28 Jun 22
The weed isn't the issue. I just don't understand why she quit a job with medical benefits before securing another one.
@JimBo452020 (42629)
• United Kingdom
28 Jun 22
Why does weed get the blame for everything Have you ever tried it,?
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• Philippines
29 Jun 22
@JimBo452020 It affects the brain.
@kaylachan (57383)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
28 Jun 22
I can't help but agree with you. Most young people do tend to make bad decisions, because they haven't experienced the harsh realities of life. It's also hard when they do for the first time. But, I know you're doing your best to help her. I wish her the best.
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@NJChicaa (115921)
• United States
28 Jun 22
I do as well. She knows I'll be here for her if she needs help with stuff like food or whatever.
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@kaylachan (57383)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
29 Jun 22
@NJChicaa Knowing she has the help she needs will make all the difference.
@much2say (53926)
• Los Angeles, California
29 Jun 22
You are generous to help her, but yah, she needs to get her act together and figure life out if she wants to truly live independently.
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@wolfgirl569 (94806)
• Marion, Ohio
29 Jun 22
I think she will still visit at times.
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@RasmaSandra (73241)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
29 Jun 22
Sounds like she never really grew up and has no idea how to take care of herself, I sure hope with time that changes, Maybe moving into her aunt's basement is the best idea as long as the aunt can help her get along and show her the way
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@Beestring (13275)
• Hong Kong
29 Jun 22
It's very kind of you to help her. But I think she needs to find a job and learn how to live independently.
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@LeaPea2417 (36399)
• Toccoa, Georgia
29 Jun 22
That's very sad. Hopefully where she is moving will have a Salvation Army/ Soup Kitchen nearby.
@Juliaacv (48272)
• Canada
28 Jun 22
Someone should tell her to look before she leaps. I hope that she doesn't get to be too pesky borrowing from you.
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@marlina (154166)
• Canada
28 Jun 22
She has to grow up sometimes.
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@Plethos (13560)
• United States
28 Jun 22
it seems that she hasnt learned to be responsible. the only thing that may help her is tough love. as long as she has someone helping her, she wont be self sufficient. sometimes some people need to hit rock bottom to learn . good luck to her.
@aninditasen (15719)
• Raurkela, India
29 Jun 22
Why don't you advise her to find a new job since she was your student?
@LindaOHio (155562)
• United States
29 Jun 22
Losing medical benefits is a big deal. I can't believe that she is so irresponsible.
@JimBo452020 (42629)
• United Kingdom
28 Jun 22
Maybe she should go on the game and earn her keep. She will most likely be forced into it.
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