What do you look for in a relationship? / myLot

Calcutta, India

July 11, 2022 12:18am CST

In romantic relationships, some look for friendship, some trust, some validation. I realized that I look for validation. So I chose to love myself and be content with whoever I am. I don't need praises and sugary words in exchange of dependency. I think I have done the right thing for myself. What do you look for in a relationship? Do you think you can live alone?

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Arunima Singh

@arunima25 (93194)

• Bangalore, India

11 Jul 22

I think you did right thing if you are confident about it. I am in my forties now and through experience I would say that the expectations in any relationship changes with time. You have different expectations at different stages. As long as you keep the expectations realistic and minimal, and both individuals put their efforts in making a relationship work, the relationship will thrive. I can live alone but I love to have loved ones around

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Laura

@Laurakemunto (13787)

• Kenya

11 Jul 22

Wow that's so much for this golden insight

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Aparna Sen

@Dreamerby (10111)

• Calcutta, India

11 Jul 22

Yes expectations do ruin relationships. Like in my previous relationship, I expected my boyfriend to call or text me every alternate day. I mean really is it that hard to call or text your loved one once a day?? No one is that busy. Do you think my expectation was unrealistic?

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Arunima Singh

@arunima25 (93194)

• Bangalore, India

12 Jul 22

@Laurakemunto Thank you.

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Sanjeev

@sjvg1976 (42727)

• Delhi, India

12 Jul 22

I value trust more in relationships. I cannot live alone, I need people to talk to. I want to be appreciated for the things I do good.

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Aparna Sen

@Dreamerby (10111)

• Calcutta, India

12 Jul 22

I meant alone in the sense of a romantic relationship

Akaninyene Etuk

@akanetuk (2132)

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16 Jul 22

Trust is one key factor that helps relationship to grow but it should come from both partner and not one sided.

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Aparna Sen

@Dreamerby (10111)

• Calcutta, India

16 Jul 22

@akanetuk Yes. Trust is important. But giving time is also important.

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Arya

@yoalldudes (35030)

• Philippines

11 Jul 22

How old are you? I think you have figured it out; consider yourself wise and lucky.

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Arya

@yoalldudes (35030)

• Philippines

12 Jul 22

@Dreamerby

You are a smart girl. You will do well in life.

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Aparna Sen

@Dreamerby (10111)

• Calcutta, India

11 Jul 22

I am 19 years old

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Akaninyene Etuk

@akanetuk (2132)

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11 Jul 22

I look for companionship, someone to share my experience with after a hard day. Someone to laugh or cry with in good and difficult times.

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Aparna Sen

@Dreamerby (10111)

• Calcutta, India

12 Jul 22

Yes. Hope you get all of that in your partner.

Aparna Sen

@Dreamerby (10111)

• Calcutta, India

23 Jul 22

@Mikedamini The truth is we don't get what we want. Those who want a career-minded and quiet spouse get very jovial and fun-loving sposes and vice-versa.

Michael Sam Rodamini

@Mikedamini (3)

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22 Jul 22

???????? this is also what I want, but really can't find genuine people

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Laura

@Laurakemunto (13787)

• Kenya

11 Jul 22

Man is no island and to enter into a relationship, look for someone who loves you completely not someone to complete you and first of all , love yourself first

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Akaninyene Etuk

@akanetuk (2132)

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12 Jul 22

look for love with your heart and not with your senses.

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Aparna Sen

@Dreamerby (10111)

• Calcutta, India

12 Jul 22

Self love is of paramount importance.