What To Do? Help!
By Sonja Rae
August 6, 2022 11:35am CST
My friend CJ has a birthday coming up on the 12th. Normally it’s very easy for me to buy him a gift. I know him and his likes so well, that it’s not a struggle. But, here is my dilemma… He doesn’t need anything. He has so much. He buys himself what he wants when he wants it. He has more shoes and clothes and watches and cologne, that I can’t see even getting anything like that. I always try to make gifts thoughtful, but I can’t think of anything to do and I feel like I have waited until the last minute this year to even do anything. Help! What do you get for someone who already has everything?
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This is the friend who likes to go fishing with you? Even if he has everything, may be there is something he would like about going fishing. I know nothing about fishing, may be a special hat, why not a portable fishing weighing scale? If there is really nothing he needs and invitation to a restaurant where he loves to eat.
• United States
Make it personal. Use his interests to give you direction. If he has collections or likes sports or has hobbies, find him something special in one of those areas. If he likes cheesecake, make him one. He will appreciate any gift I'm sure but he will love something that's personal. Not like shoes or a generic item of clothing. Something he may not buy for himself but would love getting as a thoughtful gift. Good luck.
@SonjaRae I feel ya! My bestie’s bday is on August 13th and she lives in Portugal and I’m currently in Zambia. She is also getting married in late September so me and hubby have been brainstorming on what to get her. It’s nerve wrecking
• Moses Lake, Washington
This is birthday month for many of my sisters. I bought little pins for two of them but the third one?? She doesn't need anything. Maybe buy her a day at a spa? Buy your buddy an experience or write up a note telling him you will spend a day doing what ever pleases him?
• Rockingham, Australia
Can you make him something? Or make up a gift basket with little bits and pieces so it's personal. I sometimes buy Vince a fancy yachting magazine. He enjoys poring over the magnificent vessels and oohing and aahing. Take him out to dinner, a movie, a picnic.
Hmmm, this is a good one. If he has everything what about giving him an experience? Would he like to do a pottery class (with you) or go to a make your own charcuterie board workshop together? Or plan a day, leave take him to a park, bring along a nice picnic and maybe a grill, or not, and stretch your outing out as long as you can. Don't forget to surprise him with a small cake on that picnic.
• United States
Unfortunately he’s not the picnic kind of person. He definitely would not like a pottery class or anything like that. I’m sure we can plan to go fishing on another day. But for him his birthday is the day that he was born. Since Covid, he doesn’t like to go do anything that requires close quarters or around people. I’m really stuck this year
Someone in the comments had the idea of buying your friend an experience. That sounds like a great idea to me, especially if you know all his likes and dislikes. I'm not sure what your budget is, and experiences can be on the expensive side, but maybe you can come up with an idea for an experience he would enjoy within your budget.