Is this true love?
By Jenaisle
@Jenaisle (16568)
Philippines
August 9, 2022 11:07am CST
A friend of mine has been married for 40 years now, and I envied her for this. eternal and true love: Her married years blessed her with 4 wonderful kids who have now families of their own.
However, my friend revealed lately that it took her courage, a lot of understanding, and forgiveness for their marriage to last that long. I have learned that her hubby has cheated on her 3 times within the span of their marriage, but she always forgave him and understood him.
There were times, she wanted to divorce him and just leave, but she couldn't do it because she loves him and the kids so much that she couldn't imagine life without them.
I was thinking, perhaps if it were me, I wouldn't have withstood it. I would have breakup with my husband right away.
So, I concluded, she must have really loved him for staying with him despite all his defects.
Do you think this is true love or was she just being a fool?
Would you have done the same thing?
What are your thoughts on this?
Image is mine
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6 responses
@Greencindere (674)
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9 Aug 22
It’s a very personal decision. As I have not walked in her shoes I can’t comment. Each couple is different and the expectations are different. As long as the people in the relationship are happy and fulfilled I’m happy for them.
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@GreatMartin (23670)
• Ft. Lauderdale, Florida
10 Aug 22
But are they 'happy and fulfilled? We have no idea--people stay together for many reasons--not always the right ones.
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@Greencindere (674)
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10 Aug 22
@GreatMartin that’s very true we can’t ever actually know.
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@toniganzon (77064)
• Philippines
10 Aug 22
Once is enough, twice if two much. I don't think I could stay in such marriage if that's the case. There are people though who want to save the marriage and just don't want to give up on it.
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@RebeccasFarm (91299)
• United States
12 Aug 22
If he is good to her otherwise, and not abusive to her or the children, I may understand her thinking on it to forgive him.
For me when I was a young woman, I had to leave him, as he was the same way.
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@RebeccasFarm (91299)
• United States
13 Aug 22
@Jenaisle Yes a pity, but good that he has the good ways.
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@GreatMartin (23670)
• Ft. Lauderdale, Florida
10 Aug 22
She didn't necessarily love him--she had many reasons to stay with him starting with 4 kids. Now that they are grown maybe she is afraid of being lonely, not being able to financially live on her own, etc., One never knows why some people stay together and others don't.
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@1creekgirl (44560)
• United States
9 Aug 22
Every marriage is so different. What's right for one might not work for another couple.
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