Wedding Blues! - A Worried Mom.

@Kandae11 (57233)

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15 Aug 22

I have not gone to a wedding in years and l am invited to this one , which l am excited to attend, but if her mom is not happy, l don't think l should be.

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Anna

@LadyDuck (502148)

• Italy

15 Aug 22

I would take your suggestion and listen the other side of the story.

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Anna

@LadyDuck (502148)

• Italy

16 Aug 22

@Kandae11 It is a shame, she will regret to have married this man. I am sure he will do the same again.

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@Kandae11 (57233)

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15 Aug 22

I will suggest it to her, but l doubt the daughter will give him up, he has her completely hooked.

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ShannyBananny

@shaggin (74988)

• United States

16 Aug 22

I think I’d feel like the mother and worry about what really happened that this man is divorced twice already. We want the best for our children and this mama has every right to worry. I’d be a head case if my daughter told me she was going to marry the boy she is dating.

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ShannyBananny

@shaggin (74988)

• United States

16 Aug 22

@Kandae11 he would make a horrible husband as he isn’t a good person, he’s unintelligent and ignorant among other things.

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@Kandae11 (57233)

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16 Aug 22

Ha, you don't think he would make a suitable husband?

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@Kandae11 (57233)

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16 Aug 22

@shaggin. Oh my, l hope she is not infatuated by him and realizes that she should move on.

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Yanzalong

@yanzalong (19091)

• Indonesia

15 Aug 22

No, I wouldn't let her do it.

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@Kandae11 (57233)

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15 Aug 22

She might not want to listen to sound advise.

Kharla Jolly

@kobesbuddy (78833)

• East Tawas, Michigan

15 Aug 22

Meddling and manipulating are bad ideas. At 27 years old, she's a grown woman and nobody should poke their nose into her personal business(especially not her mother!) This is why mother-in-laws have a bad name, they have a reputation for meddling in their adult children's life! She needs to mind her own business

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Kharla Jolly

@kobesbuddy (78833)

• East Tawas, Michigan

16 Aug 22

@Kandae11 And when we were young, we made our own mistakes. Her mother has no way of knowing the future, for her daughter. She needs to mind her own business!

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@Kandae11 (57233)

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16 Aug 22

I get what you mean, at 27 she is old enough to know what she wants, but for some mothers their children ' never grow up', they are always their 'babies'. I think this mother just wants the best for her daughter - not thinking the daughter knows what she wants and would prefer to make her own mistakes - if it turns out to be a mistake.

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@Kandae11 (57233)

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16 Aug 22

@kobesbuddy. Ha ha , point taken.

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CarolDM

@CarolDM (203396)

• Nashville, Tennessee

15 Aug 22

I try to avoid drama as you know. At age 27 hopefully she knows true love when she feels it. I would stay out of it. Situations are all different with divorces. I wish her the best. As long as she is happy that is what counts I say.

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@Kandae11 (57233)

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15 Aug 22

Right now l doubt anything would change her mind about marrying him. Apart from the negatives he is very attractive and well off financially.

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@Kandae11 (57233)

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16 Aug 22

@CarolDM That is true. It might just work out.

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CarolDM

@CarolDM (203396)

• Nashville, Tennessee

15 Aug 22

@Kandae11 You never know. They may be married forever. Third time is the charm they say.

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vanny

@vandana7 (102698)

• India

15 Aug 22

I think talking to ex wives is called for. I would talk to them myself. I am inclined to be logical. So I would be able to discern the truth. In any event, I wouldn't trust a guy who would tell me why he divorced his previous wives, in their absence. It is essential that the exes be called over, and the truth be shared across the board. If the relationship has soured, then one of the two has valid reasons to be hurt. What that hurt is about should be known so that the same fate is not repeated.

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vanny

@vandana7 (102698)

• India

15 Aug 22

@Kandae11 Naturally. LOL. She is only 27 and he has enough responsibilities on his shoulders. LOL

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@Kandae11 (57233)

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15 Aug 22

I did not think about that aspect of it. He will paint a very good picture of himself and the ex wives stories have not been heard.

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Always smiling

@allknowing (153544)

• India

16 Aug 22

What is it that this girl has found in that man is interesting to know In this case love is truly blind.

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Always smiling

@allknowing (153544)

• India

16 Aug 22

@Kandae11 Things will change for her once she moves in with him and his children and then she will open her eyes or she has plans to send him on a one way ticket (lol)

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@Kandae11 (57233)

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16 Aug 22

I know he is very good looking and well-off financially, perhaps those assets have blinded her from taking a good look at realities. Like his two teenage children who will be living with them.

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@Kandae11 (57233)

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16 Aug 22

@allknowing l just know she will go ahead with the wedding so l hope it does work out - and 'love conquers all'.

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aubrey

@averygirl72 (38847)

• Philippines

16 Aug 22

It sounds complicated to me but I hope for the best

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@Kandae11 (57233)

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16 Aug 22

I hope she is making the right decision.

aubrey

@averygirl72 (38847)

• Philippines

16 Aug 22

@Kandae11 Yeah I hope it is not a big mistake

OceanTiara

@RebeccasFarm (91299)

• United States

16 Aug 22

Factually, a man that has never been married with no children, can be an absolute abuser and even deadly. So this guy has been married a number of times and has kids and some living with him..I can't say I would be thrilled for my youngest daughter, but then again, I know from my own experience, a single solitary man with no connections ever, can also be deadly. He may be okay, he may not. The daughter just better be ready to leave if she needs to. But isn't that always the way? Talking to exs..maybe they are liars also.

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OceanTiara

@RebeccasFarm (91299)

• United States

16 Aug 22

@Kandae11 Now of course she knew you were there, now look at that.

@Kandae11 (57233)

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16 Aug 22

I know what you mean. I thought my ex was free and single. So imagine my surprise one evening on our third date - we were exiting a movie theater and a young woman with two kids confronted us. I never found out how she knew we would be there. The rest is a long story. At least this man is upfront.

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@DaddyEvil (174208)

• United States

15 Aug 22

I would suggest speaking to the exes... Nothing is ever just the fault of one person in a failed marriage. There are always two sides to the story and she's only gotten his side... I'd also suggest that the mom push for them to sign a pre-nup in her daughter's favor as insurance that it will be a "forever" marriage. If he loves her, he won't hesitate to sign it.

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@DaddyEvil (174208)

• United States

15 Aug 22

@Kandae11 From the sounds of that guy, she shouldn't trust him. You could put the point across that the pre-nup is just a way to protect their interests, nothing but that. (But, since he's been married before, I bet he won't sign one and will probably drop her if anyone suggests signing one.)

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@Kandae11 (57233)

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16 Aug 22

@DaddyEvil l know some women are afraid to suggest it.

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@Kandae11 (57233)

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15 Aug 22

The pre-nup is a very good idea. However there are some couples who feel that requesting a pre-nup would make one feel that there is no trust in each other.

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Ruby Hawk

@RubyHawk (99367)

• Atlanta, Georgia

15 Aug 22

I keep finding what are supposed to be new discussions that I’ve read and commented on that doesn’t have my comment. What is happening?

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Ruby Hawk

@RubyHawk (99367)

• Atlanta, Georgia

16 Aug 22

@Kandae11 I saw that later. I hope it’s fixed now. We lost several hours of comments yesterday.

@Kandae11 (57233)

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16 Aug 22

It has been happening on this post too, comments have been disappearing, l thought the admin mentioned on this morning's post that the problem was fixed.

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Anindita Sengupta

@aninditasen (18198)

• Raurkela, India

16 Aug 22

I would never want that. Her daughter's thinking is straight and a little immature but the man she is marrying is marrying for convenience.

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Anindita Sengupta

@aninditasen (18198)

• Raurkela, India

17 Aug 22

@Kandae11 Yes, it is, but a young woman has some hopes and aspiration related to her first marriage which she will realize later.

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@Kandae11 (57233)

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16 Aug 22

Could be he wants a wife and a mother for the two children he has living with him.

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Natalie2631

@Natalie3126 (123)

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16 Aug 22

Im worried to be honest

the man failed twice, it seem something was up with the man or the ex wives, or maybe they didnt match... but living with 5 child with no bond and have to learn one by one characther is such a big deal... hope the girl doing well

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@Kandae11 (57233)

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16 Aug 22

A marriage is serious business, and it complicates matters when marrying someone with a past like his. Anyway, l hope it works out.

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@Kandae11 (57233)

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16 Aug 22

@Natalie3126 Not nice.

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Natalie2631

@Natalie3126 (123)

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16 Aug 22

@Kandae11 i hope it works out too, imagine married to him and then think you were falling in love when the relationship was not a match, ouch! And then have to be the third ex wives

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Sanjeev

@sjvg1976 (42727)

• Delhi, India

17 Aug 22

NO is the answer. I won't like a girl to marry a person who has been divorced twice.

Anne Marie Guyer

@LeaPea2417 (40020)

• Toccoa, Georgia

16 Aug 22

I would not be happy about that at all especially with kids in the picture. Yes, she needs to talk to the ex wives as soon as possible.

RasmaSandra

@RasmaSandra (97912)

• Daytona Beach, Florida

16 Aug 22

It is very hard to trust a man like that, And the age difference might be he is just looking for someone to have fun with, I do not know what to suggest but I think she should look into his background more and perhaps at least see if she can speak to one of the wives,

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@Kandae11 (57233)

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16 Aug 22

My thoughts exactly. Do some investigating. Some women are usually blinded by love.

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Vicki, #1 Creek Girl

@1creekgirl (44560)

• United States

15 Aug 22

I would really worry if that were the case with my daughter. But I don't know if talking to the exes is a good idea or not.

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@Kandae11 (57233)

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16 Aug 22

If he is the one causing the problems, the exes might want get to find out for herself.

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PsalmOneCares

@everwonderwhy (7355)

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17 Aug 22

@Kandae11 Yes, you've given your friend a wise and reasonable advice for her and her soon-to-be-tied-in-marriage to ask the man's two ex-wives. Or better yet, the daughter should consider her future life with this twice-married man with five children. He could also be paying alimony or child-support to the exes. It would be a nightmare to marry into an ongoing 'debt' that she has to help pay for the rest of her life. She should also consider looking after HIS kids when it's his turn to have the kids on weekends or weekdays while he's at work.

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