Sam got bullied
@luisga814 (7138)
Quezon City, Philippines
October 22, 2022 12:15pm CST
Hi there. It's already been 1:06am here in the Philippines of Sunday. I'm currently on my lunchtime with my night work shift for my Saturday shift.
Anyway, the purpose of this discussion is to share of what I've did after hearing the voice messages of the groupmates of Sam in one of his group chats.
I've called it as cyber bullying. Two of his classmates threw something personal against Sam and me as a parent can't accept that.
So, I decided to intervene the group chat and informed the group that I'm his father. Told everything what I've wanted to mention to them specifically the tone of their voices against Sam.
It's been a matter protecting my son with their cyber bullying and I'm not sure if there's another bullying when they're in the classroom.
One of them even tried to delete the voice messages and I've resent it to the group telling to them that I've already recorded it and save it. So, if you're not going to stop the bullying in the next few days. Expect that I'll report this to the Principal.
After saying that, those two keeps on saying their apologies. I've accepted their apology but still told to them, I've already recorded the conversation and for future use, I will not tolerate if they still repeat the cyber bullying.
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@luisga814 (7138)
• Quezon City, Philippines
22 Oct 22
@CarolDM Yes. As a father, I have the right to protect my son.
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@CarolDM (203396)
• Nashville, Tennessee
22 Oct 22
@luisga814 Yes you certainly do, but many do not. And I am glad yo hear you are paying attention.
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@luisga814 (7138)
• Quezon City, Philippines
22 Oct 22
@CarolDM At first, it's okay with me that they will not accept the suggestion of Sam. But the worst is having jokes from them with a non-sense tone as I've validated the voice message.
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@kaylachan (84699)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
22 Oct 22
Yup, that's bullying. And, it's wrong.
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@luisga814 (7138)
• Quezon City, Philippines
22 Oct 22
@kaylachan Yes bullying is wrong and if they will tell that to their parents. I'm ready to answer why I've intervene.
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@luisga814 (7138)
• Quezon City, Philippines
23 Oct 22
@kaylachan Yes. Today is Monday already here. Sam already gone to his school. And I have to leave the house later at 1pm to travel to my work at 5pm. And I'm expecting from Sam that he will report to his mother as well as to me in any progress of the bullies.
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@luisga814 (7138)
• Quezon City, Philippines
1 Nov 22
@sol_cee Oh. Hidden dragon. I know how big that hidden dragon will be when your kids got bullied.
@RubyHawk (99367)
• Atlanta, Georgia
22 Oct 22
@luisga814 You’re a good father.
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@luisga814 (7138)
• Quezon City, Philippines
23 Oct 22
@RubyHawk Thanks. I do understand that some of here will not accept of butting into their privacy of their group chats.
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@luisga814 (7138)
• Quezon City, Philippines
22 Oct 22
@RubyHawk As of the moment, I'll take my word to those classmates who did the bullying because they've promised to me that they'll don't do the bullying again specifically to Sam. And if they don't take their promise, I'll take necessary action.
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@porwest (112717)
• United States
25 Oct 22
This is never a good thing and it is good you were able to intervene and maybe even put a stop to it. Bullies only get their way when they can get away with their bullying.
Bullies, by nature, are generally wussies. They just act like they aren't and when they get challenged they fold quite easily.
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@porwest (112717)
• United States
29 Oct 22
@luisga814 Good that is seems you have found some resolution.
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@luisga814 (7138)
• Quezon City, Philippines
30 Oct 22
@porwest Yes. That's my immediate resolution.
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@luisga814 (7138)
• Quezon City, Philippines
27 Oct 22
@porwest Yes. According to Sam, they're not practicing anymore outside the school as per suggestion of my son. However, some of the groupmates are with the side of Sam.
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@MarieCoyle (59107)
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23 Oct 22
It's been a few years now, but I went through that with one of my sons. I couldn't stand it. Talk about kids being mean and vindictive. We were living in a smaller town then, and everyone either knew of everyone's business, or they just made stuff up. I do not miss that.
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@MarieCoyle (59107)
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24 Oct 22
@luisga814
Sadly, a lot of kids are not taught this. They think it makes them look big and important in front of their peers to bully people. I consider myself a patient person, but I have no patience whatsoever with these bullies.
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@luisga814 (7138)
• Quezon City, Philippines
24 Oct 22
@MarieCoyle I've gave yesterday to Sam a little money in order not to be tease by his classmates of having no money. But I've instructed Sam not to be a one -day millionaire. Use the money properly.
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@luisga814 (7138)
• Quezon City, Philippines
24 Oct 22
@MarieCoyle Yes. I agree with that. If you have nothing to say good to your classmates, you should not say anything that makes it bad.
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@luisga814 (7138)
• Quezon City, Philippines
27 Oct 22
@Jenaisle Yes indeed. Thanks for the support.
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@luisga814 (7138)
• Quezon City, Philippines
24 Oct 22
@sjvg1976 Yes. I think, I did the right way as there's only few days that we used to talk to our kids due to busy schedule. At least giving time with attending the problem.
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@josie_ (10033)
• Philippines
23 Oct 22
As a parent, I understand your concern about children being bullied. However, I would allow them to work out their differences given that it is a group chat and teenagers really don't want us butting into their affairs. This will also make your son look weak in his group-mates eyes. Of course, if things escalate and your son asks for your help then that is a different matter.
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@luisga814 (7138)
• Quezon City, Philippines
23 Oct 22
@josie_ I do understand the privacy that you're telling or the issue of butting into their affairs. However, I've already heard of it their voice messages. And I don't want to tolerate this kind of bullying from them. Sam is not asking for help with those bullying acts. I'm just there to help.
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@LindaOHio (222267)
• United States
22 Oct 22
I'm glad you are on top of this. Hope you are having a Happy Diwali.
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@luisga814 (7138)
• Quezon City, Philippines
22 Oct 22
@LindaOHio Although with hesitation that why I've intervene with their group chats, however, I don't want to tolerate with their treatment to Sam.
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