A disappointment
@GardenGerty (157551)
United States
October 24, 2022 7:50pm CST
Originally Bob thought he would transfer to a nursing home/rehab October 29.
Saturday when I was there we were told he would likely be moved today instead.
He got his hopes up.
He got himself up, and dressed and sat in a chair all day today.
His medical team wants to keep him a day or two more, because his last dose of antibiotics was today.
I understand that. I just wish they had not told him it would likely be today.
No one told him the change of plans. I got it from calling the nursing home.
Why can't people talk to us?
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@HomewardBound (551)
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25 Oct 22
That’s so disappointing that they didn’t let him know as soon as the decision was made! I’m praying for him to be home again soon.
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@GardenGerty (157551)
• United States
26 Oct 22
Thank you for your caring words. He did get transferred today and so will be much closer to home and on the mend.
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@GardenGerty (157551)
• United States
26 Oct 22
He has been feeling very isolated. He got his move today, though.
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@snowy22315 (169955)
• United States
25 Oct 22
Maybe you need to have it put it in his treatment plan,,,PLEASE LET PATIENT AND FAMILY KNOW WHAT IS GOING ON ASAP. Probably won't work, but worth a try.
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@GardenGerty (157551)
• United States
26 Oct 22
He is closer, the transfer went through today. I will be able to easily pop in. That keeps them more on their toes.
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@snowy22315 (169955)
• United States
26 Oct 22
@GardenGerty Good..how are his vitals?
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@RasmaSandra (73407)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
25 Oct 22
That is disappointing and also tiring for Bob I am sure I hope that finally he does get transferred and all will be well, Blessings to you both,
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@GardenGerty (157551)
• United States
26 Oct 22
We did get him transferred today. It has been tiring.
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@RasmaSandra (73407)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
27 Oct 22
@GardenGerty then I wish him all the best, send blessings, and will keep him in my prayers,
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@oahuwriter (26780)
• United States
26 Oct 22
Hmm, communication dismay! Your poor husband. Did he get his hearing aid?
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@GardenGerty (157551)
• United States
26 Oct 22
His new batteries are in and today, after he finally got transferred, I helped him put in new filters so they worked better.
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@oahuwriter (26780)
• United States
27 Oct 22
@GardenGerty
Nice, your husband, finally transferred. All better now?
@GardenGerty (157551)
• United States
26 Oct 22
That is pretty much how I feel. It is inconsiderate and for Bob it was disheartening.
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@CarolDM (203454)
• Nashville, Tennessee
26 Oct 22
@GardenGerty So sorry. As if you two don't have enough to deal with. Always hoping for a better day.
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@koopharper (7477)
• Canada
25 Oct 22
That would be frustrating. Someone should have told him.
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@GardenGerty (157551)
• United States
26 Oct 22
Hi, @koopharper that is true. I am hoping now that he has moved they will treat him better. With him closer I will be there to advocate for him more often. I will try to be nice.
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@koopharper (7477)
• Canada
26 Oct 22
@GardenGerty I don't like being the bad guy but sometimes that's what it takes. Hope things go better.
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@RebeccasFarm (86755)
• United States
25 Oct 22
That is very unprofessional of them sorry to hear it.
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@GardenGerty (157551)
• United States
26 Oct 22
They should not have gotten his hopes up in the first place. I was very disappointed with the lack of communication. I even had to find out by a round about route.
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@RebeccasFarm (86755)
• United States
27 Oct 22
@GardenGerty Yes it is atrocious they are like that Heather so sorry
@GardenGerty (157551)
• United States
26 Oct 22
He felt like in this case the patient came last. It will be better now, we got his transfer done today.
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@LadyDuck (458091)
• Switzerland
26 Oct 22
@GardenGerty I have the feeling that too often the patient comes last. I am glad that he will finally be transferred today.
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@DaddyEvil (137145)
• United States
25 Oct 22
Because the patient isn't important in their plans. I would raise holy heck with the staff and I'd be the first one to know about plan changes or raise holy heck again and again when I was ignored! There was no reason to do that to you or Bob.
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@GardenGerty (157551)
• United States
26 Oct 22
I think there were too many fingers in the pie, so to speak. They need a single person handling it all. You are right. Bob said today that he felt as if he was not important.
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@DaddyEvil (137145)
• United States
26 Oct 22
@GardenGerty You can MAKE someone responsible for letting you know about changes... Go to the head person there and raise holy heck with them and keep repeating you're holding them responsible if something like that happens again. They will assign someone to make sure you're notified.
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@GardenGerty (157551)
• United States
26 Oct 22
Exactly. I think he was giving up while at the VA hospital. He is transferred now, and I sense a good feeling about his care here on out.
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@sallypup (57858)
• Centralia, Washington
26 Oct 22
@GardenGerty That's good to hear.
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@GardenGerty (157551)
• United States
26 Oct 22
I am fairly convinced the care will be more consistent at the nursing home. He did get transferred today.
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@RubyHawk (99425)
• Atlanta, Georgia
26 Oct 22
@GardenGerty That is good news. I think he’ll do better there too. I really hope so.
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@aninditasen (15740)
• Raurkela, India
25 Oct 22
Some people think we should hide the truth from patients to improve their health. People who are terminally ill cannot be told the truth.
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@GardenGerty (157551)
• United States
26 Oct 22
I feel like no one was taking the responsibility to communicate. Fortunately he is not terminally ill.
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@aninditasen (15740)
• Raurkela, India
26 Oct 22
@GardenGerty Then I think the hospital staff should communicate frankly with you and Bob.
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@LindaOHio (156159)
• United States
25 Oct 22
Poor Bob. I'm sorry that the plans were changed without you two knowing about them.
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@GardenGerty (157551)
• United States
26 Oct 22
It makes things difficult. I could be a lot more help if I knew what plans were, and Bob would be in better spirits.
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@LindaOHio (156159)
• United States
26 Oct 22
@GardenGerty I totally understand.
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@allknowing (130066)
• India
25 Oct 22
Waiting fruitlessly can be the worst situation ever and that too when a person is sick.
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@GardenGerty (157551)
• United States
26 Oct 22
Yes, it has been very hard for him to deal with.
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@kaylachan (57635)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
25 Oct 22
I am so sorry that happened. People can be so irresponsible. We yell at each other to communicate more, but we do the opposite.
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@GardenGerty (157551)
• United States
26 Oct 22
You are right. I try not to be that grouchy family member no one wants to see. I feel confident the nursing home will do better.
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@kaylachan (57635)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
26 Oct 22
@GardenGerty I hope they do.
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@FourWalls (62125)
• United States
25 Oct 22
Couldn’t you just choke them? I don’t mind bureaucracy, just keep me in the freaking loop!
I had a fender bender the last day of September. After I gave my statement to my insurance company, I haven’t heard diddly poo from them. I’ve sent texts, e-mails, and made phone calls but NOTHING. I don’t know if they resolved things with the other party (whom I haven’t heard from, so I’m guessing they did…but you know what they say about “assuming” something) or what! 
I hope he’s patient, although I can certainly understand if he isn’t. 
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@GardenGerty (157551)
• United States
26 Oct 22
Oh, car insurance is a whole nother matter I have been told. They deliberately delay to avoid paying out, so I am told.6363636363636363636363636363636363636363636363636363636363333333333333333333333333333333333333333333333333333333333333333333333333333333333333333333333333333333333333333333333333333333333333 (Bitty just typed to you)
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@FourWalls (62125)
• United States
26 Oct 22
@GardenGerty — thanks, Bitty! I needed to know that!!!
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@JESSY3236 (18923)
• United States
25 Oct 22
Yeah that happened to me, but not in a hospital setting. I had a job coach that told me that we could stop by the movie theater about my application I sent in. I got dressed and then was told we weren't going. Then I was told that they were letting me go if I didn't find a job soon. I went over the job coach's head and wrote a letter to my former VR counselor about the situation. The job coach was supposed to have helped with finding a job later on, but she didn't. She was a lousy job coach.
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@GardenGerty (157551)
• United States
26 Oct 22
It sounds like SHE needed to be coached on how to be a job coach.
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@GardenGerty (157551)
• United States
26 Oct 22
Yes, he said he felt like he came last with them.
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@GardenGerty (157551)
• United States
26 Oct 22
Somehow they need to learn to do better.
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