Grandpa will finally get a headstone
By Lena Kovadlo
@lovebuglena (52144)
Staten Island, New York
November 2, 2022 10:38am CST
My paternal grandpa's grave has been without a headstone since he passed away in February of 2016. I never understood why my father never did it. First it seemed like he couldn't find a picture to put on it. But then I don't know. Regardless of the reason, it was not a good thing to do. It's not like he couldn't afford it.
Now that my dad is gone and we are doing a headstone for him we have decided to do a headstone for my grandpa as well. It is the right thing to do and long overdue.
Have to start looking for a suitable picture for both headstones. From what I have heard Jews are not really supposed to put pictures on headstones but today people do that. There are cemeteries though that don't allow that. Ours does, so I want to have a picture on both of them.
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@lovebuglena (52144)
• Staten Island, New York
3 Nov 22
I noticed that people from the former Soviet Union—Belarus, Russia, Ukraine, Moldova, etc.—seem to all have photos on their headstones where I live. If cemetery allows that of course.
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@JudyEv (381760)
• Rockingham, Australia
4 Nov 22
@lovebuglena Those of Anglo-Saxon lineage don't seem to bother nearly as much.
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@lovebuglena (52144)
• Staten Island, New York
3 Nov 22
It sure will. It will no longer bother me or my mom.
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@RebeccasFarm (91299)
• United States
2 Nov 22
Oh good Lena, it will be nice to have the photos on them too. RIP
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@lovebuglena (52144)
• Staten Island, New York
3 Nov 22
It will. Have to find good photos to use. I hope we have some that will work. Will have to search for them at my mom’s house.
@RasmaSandra (97912)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
3 Nov 22
At least it will be peace of mind to get it done,
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@moffittjc (128824)
• Gainesville, Florida
3 Nov 22
That’s nice you are doing that, and I think the right thing to do.
I have always enjoyed walking through cemeteries and reading headstones. It’s like studying history, but on a more personal, local level. But it saddens me when you walk by gravesites that have no headstones.
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@moffittjc (128824)
• Gainesville, Florida
4 Nov 22
@lovebuglena I’ve never seen photos on a headstone before. Is that a common thing in Jewish cemeteries?
@lovebuglena (52144)
• Staten Island, New York
3 Nov 22
Not all Jewish cemeteries allow photos on headstones.
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@lovebuglena (52144)
• Staten Island, New York
4 Nov 22
@moffittjc I’ve seen many headstones where a person’s photo is on the headstone. But mainly it’s from people that are from the former Soviet Union.
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@LindaOHio (222232)
• United States
2 Nov 22
I'm glad that both your grandfather and father will now have a headstone.
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@lovebuglena (52144)
• Staten Island, New York
3 Nov 22
Grandpa’s is long overdue.
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@lovebuglena (52144)
• Staten Island, New York
2 Nov 22
It was bothering me for years that grandpa didn't have one all this time. I wish I knew why my dad didn't want to do it.
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@popciclecold (40215)
• United States
3 Nov 22
@lovebuglena Good yoy are doing it now.
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@LadyDuck (502187)
• Italy
3 Nov 22
@lovebuglena I am sure you are right, may be the cemetery where my father in law is buried is very strict about the rules.
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@lovebuglena (52144)
• Staten Island, New York
3 Nov 22
Maybe depends on how conservative the cemetery is. If that’s the correct word to use. People from the former Soviet Union have pictures on their headstones usually.
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