Why I Hate Overhearing Conversations ... Misunderstanding Immanent ...
@mythociate (21437)
Oklahoma City, Oklahoma
November 9, 2022 11:35am CST
Disabled due to brain-injury, I never had a full-time income. My roommate is my legal guardian (my 'mom,' yes; but ... that might explain why she ...)
Well, I heard her talking to someone on the phone the other day. And I heard her refer to my bedroom and the computer-room as "extra rooms."
That makes me feel like ... like 'something I'm not,' so I'll try to focus on "why she thinks my bedroom is 'extra'"---first of all, her bedroom is "the master bedroom"; making EVERY bedroom besides that one "extra."
Also, I don't think I'm PAYING for this house (which I think she owns and--if I inherit it from her--it won't be my "holding" (I think that's the terminology ... I'm a dependent; and my sister is my other legal guardian, so the house will be 'mine, in her name' I think).
So should I ask my roommate about "thinking my bedroom is 'extra'"? Or would it be better just to be glad I'm so lucky to have a roommate who lets me stay in her house for FREE?
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@Dreamerby (3049)
• Calcutta, India
9 Nov 22
I mean she is your mom. So you should have open communication with her.
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@DaddyEvil (137145)
• United States
9 Nov 22
Honestly, I'd leave well enough alone. You know your mom loves you and that's really the only thing you NEED to know.
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@mythociate (21437)
• Oklahoma City, Oklahoma
10 Nov 22
Bingo ... I think I just needed to 'think this out' here.
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@mythociate (21437)
• Oklahoma City, Oklahoma
11 Nov 22
@DaddyEvil And I hurt myself with it. Not physically; but--when I feel like I'm being mistreated--I'll passive-aggressively ruminate, "Oh SURE! Go right ahead! I'm nothing special!" Oh, I think I'm doing it "sarcastically"; but my subconscious mind can't tell the difference---it hears me saying all that negative stuff, and kinda goes, "Well, okay ... I guess ..."
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@DaddyEvil (137145)
• United States
11 Nov 22
@mythociate Yeah, I'm glad... Sometimes the first thing that comes to mind will do more damage than intended.
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@mythociate (21437)
• Oklahoma City, Oklahoma
9 Nov 22
Hmm ... maybe not if I phrased it like that (rather than tell her 'how it made me feel,' in which case I fear she'll make me 'keep track of the bills' or something).
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@mythociate (21437)
• Oklahoma City, Oklahoma
16 Nov 22
@kanuck1 Nobody's told me about any problems, so I guess there aren't any 
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@BloggerDi (3113)
• United States
14 Nov 22
If you just can't let it go, I think you should ask for clarification. The stress of not knowing will likely be much worse than your mother's response.
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@mythociate (21437)
• Oklahoma City, Oklahoma
15 Nov 22
I did that about something else. I've forgotten 'what it was'--something about "stopping the dishwasher & loading it 'better than I had loaded it when I started it'"--and she told me what I hadn't been thinking about, and it was clear.
And about the 'calling my room "extra"'---she was probably talking to one of her friends who doesn't know her 40+ year-old son is living with her ... probably easier to stay normal that way.
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