Why are Common Law Relationships Shunned?
By Arya
@yoalldudes (35040)
Philippines
November 22, 2022 7:33pm CST
I dont want to be under the provisions of absolute community of property and gains. I dont want permanence that is really not permanent rather just an act of cheating or disagreement can make togetherness a living hell. There is no divorce in our country.
At least show some respect. I wonder if we have protection in the workplace. This is causing undue stress to me the disrespect by superiors.
Can't I lead my life the way I want to? I am already 43 and only a few years and aging will be something I will have to deal with. I have raised my daughter into an amazing young adult which I am happy about.
I feel so oppressed with no help anywhere. But I am still soldiering on in life. And I am happy with our new place so that keep me smiling within.
I wish people would mind their own business especially bosses should be more professional and not impose their religious beliefs on their staff which they think are facts rather than just that - beliefs.
She wants me to get married when my partner is not proposing and even cheating on me. Why do I stay with him. We have a daughter that we coparent.
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@arunima25 (85277)
• Bangalore, India
23 Nov 22
I am surprised or rather shocked that how can someone religious force others to be in a relationship that is totally unholy. You are in control of your life and you should make the decisions that go well with your conscience. No one can impose it on you.
I am shocked that there is no divorce there. How do couples get legally separated?
@yoalldudes (35040)
• Philippines
23 Nov 22
There is legal separation but it is very limited. Mostly annulment is easier for the well to do. Annulment has grounds that you must fulfill first not just the casual cessation of agreement like in divorce.
Domestic violence is common here. There had been law passed recently about violence against women. Sometimes the abused is helpless though even to ask for help because of the trauma and economic dependence.
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@arunima25 (85277)
• Bangalore, India
23 Nov 22
@yoalldudes Hmm...that sounds terrible. Even in developed countries where there are laws and protections for the victims of domestic violence, it does prevail and is very common. 
Victims don't seek help for various reasons, social stigma and mindset being one of the main reason.
Victims don't seek help for various reasons, social stigma and mindset being one of the main reason.@yoalldudes (35040)
• Philippines
23 Nov 22
@arunima25 I am witness to men in 40s and 50s in power who used their position to bed pretty women in their 20s to advance in their careers. Perhaps what I'm trying to say is women try to survive as well in this world but we fellow women are the first to judge harshly.
It is because their role model is the Virgin Mary who is pure and chaste. I am more into spirituality in India which is about compassion and non judgmentalism.
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@LadyDuck (458091)
• Switzerland
23 Nov 22
It is against the law here for a Boss to invade our privacy and to impose their religious believes. I imagine you cannot tell to your Boss to mind her business. Cheating is something I could not tolerate. I can tolerate a bad temper, but cheating is not in my books.
@LadyDuck (458091)
• Switzerland
23 Nov 22
@yoalldudes - Divorce is allowed in our country, my husband know that I would have not remained in a relationship with a cheater.
@yoalldudes (35040)
• Philippines
29 Nov 22
@LadyDuck All the more I want to move to the city. But I have debt to settle here (sigh).
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@yoalldudes (35040)
• Philippines
23 Nov 22
I was standing there seething in anger for being violated and at the same time embarassed because I felt like a lowly animal.
I am able to forget the cheating I dont know why. It might be the meds I am taking. I just looked the other way and opened myself to other relationships so that I can be part of life once again.
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@rsa101 (37952)
• Philippines
24 Nov 22
Each of us has the freedom to live the life we desire. Even if it is not the accepted norm in our society, you might select that if you do not feel comfortable getting married. That is the cost you must bear. The route you wanted to take cannot be imposed on society. But compared to many decades before, when discrimination was still quite powerful, things have improved in terms of how people are accepted or tolerated now.
@rsa101 (37952)
• Philippines
26 Nov 22
@yoalldudes Yeah little by little there are changes that happen to accept them as part of society. But its true there are many more things that can be done to accept and integrate them in our culture.
@yoalldudes (35040)
• Philippines
25 Nov 22
Several laws have been passed that to protect certain people. Im happy about that. Women get burned in the pike for that in the past so yes we have gone a long way but have not yet arrived like it is in Western society. Hope you are doing fine frined. Nice to see you again.
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@LindaOHio (156159)
• United States
23 Nov 22
I never heard that there is no divorce in your country. Interesting.
@yoalldudes (35040)
• Philippines
25 Nov 22
Western culture influence us. But religion and conservative culture still abound which is good in some aspect and not so good in others.
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