Weird Thoughts At A 'Wake.
By Kandase
@Kandae11 (57233)
November 27, 2022 8:11am CST
They call it a celebration of the deceased person's life - but is it really? Or perhaps just an opportunity to eat, drink and have fun.
Last weekend my brother-in-law was finally laid to rest. The night before the funeral there was the traditional 'Wake held on the premises.
For those who do not know , a Wake is an event happening the night before the funeral, where family members and close friends gather to pay their respects to their loved one. The Wake may take different forms depending on culture , traditions or where you live.
The Wake held for my brother-law was the popular kind held in most Caribbean countries - music, drinks and food.. At least the music played at his wake was mostly gospel.
I imagined myself attending my own Wake and watching family, friends and persons l have never met, drinking, eating and seemingly having fun " celebrating my death".
I won't be happy. Would you?
Have you ever attended a Wake?
Pixabay image.
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@RasmaSandra (97912)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
28 Nov 22
In Latvia, the tradition is to lay the person to rest and then gather at a house or restaurant for food and drink. I think it is nice to sit and discuss the life of the person. When my husband passed my stepdaughter took care of the details and she had his favorite Latvian songs playing. I swear all through that I could feel his presence. For myself, I would like a rock and roll party of all my favorite oldies so I can watch from above and enjoy.
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@RasmaSandra (97912)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
28 Nov 22
@Kandae11 well such loud music might be a bit much but at my husband's wake the music was tastefully played in the background, of course, making me want to cry, but so be it, and even if I had someone threw me a rock and roll party my instructions would be at a normal decibel level. I have never liked music at ear splitting sound,
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@RebeccasFarm (91299)
• United States
30 Nov 22
I had not attended a traditional wake but I have attended an open coffin on several occasions.
It is also a tradition in Ireland to have a very musical wake.
RIP your dear brother in law.
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@RebeccasFarm (91299)
• United States
30 Nov 22
@Kandae11 Oh yes it is
Fiddles and things
I love that photo Kandase
Fiddles and things
I love that photo Kandase
@Marilynda1225 (91013)
• United States
30 Nov 22
Any wake I've ever been to have been somber
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@Marilynda1225 (91013)
• United States
30 Nov 22
@Kandae11 yes I agree. A party atmosphere would probably upset me too
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@spiderdust (14756)
• San Jose, California
27 Nov 22
I've been to a couple of wakes. Some more festive than others, but usually there were people exchanging stories about the one who had passed.
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