My Wife Gets Angry
By Jim Bauer
@porwest (112717)
United States
December 12, 2022 7:51pm CST
If I go out with the guys and have a little too much to drink? The wife gets angry. But we're guys. That's what we do. We go out. We have a few beers and sometimes a few beers too many.
We shoot pool, we throw darts, we take cheap shots and yuck it up.
That's what guys do.
We have testosterone and we want to be manly, and we have fun challenging each other. We enjoy the competition of outdrinking the other guy.
We are men. Perhaps boys in grown up bodies. But still men.
But my wife gets angry. "Don't you get to a point that you realize you should just stop???
No. Because we are men, and that is what men do.
While in one sense I get angry that she gets angry if I have a good time and cut loose every once in a while, I also still find it endearing.
She would not get angry if she did not love me. She would not get angry if she did not care about me. She would not get angry if she did not care about my health and well being.
Still, I cannot help but remind her that boys will be boys and men will be men, and sometimes we cannot and will not have the same maternal mentalities that a woman has.
A woman likes to shop and that recharges her batteries. A man likes to take a drink or two and that recharges his batteries.
At the end of the day it irritates me that my wife gets angry. At the same time I am relieved that she does get angry. Because the minute she doesn't?
It is a sign that I am no longer an important part of her world.
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13 responses
@NJChicaa (127116)
• United States
13 Dec 22
What terrible generalizations and stereotypes you have made. Not all men drink/drink too much to relax. Not all women shop for fun or relaxation.
You sound like that Nick Adams cartoonish character on Twitter who loves to brag about being an "alpha male". For him that means eating wings at Hooters. 
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@RubyHawk (99367)
• Atlanta, Georgia
13 Dec 22
Oh, no. All men don’t behave like adolescents. Boys grow up to be responsible adults. They spent their time with wife and family. They take their wives for a drink and a movie, maybe with another couple. The leave their past life behind and behave like adults.
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@porwest (112717)
• United States
15 Dec 22
Who said I acted like an adolescent? I mean, unless that is code for having fun, something most women poo-poo, instead of being wives, they want to be mothers to their husbands. 
I take my wife for a drink and a movie too. Sometimes even with other people. But sometimes I also want to cut loose and not be responsible and just have a good time with no one pulling at me one way or the other.
As for being an adult, I have to be that 99.9% of the time. I don't think there is anything wrong with not being one the remaining balance of my time. lol
I take my wife for a drink and a movie too. Sometimes even with other people. But sometimes I also want to cut loose and not be responsible and just have a good time with no one pulling at me one way or the other.
As for being an adult, I have to be that 99.9% of the time. I don't think there is anything wrong with not being one the remaining balance of my time. lol1 person likes this
@GardenGerty (169406)
• United States
13 Dec 22
Lots of generalizations there, but at least you know that she still cares.
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@porwest (112717)
• United States
14 Dec 22
Perhaps there are generalizations, but there are also many truths. Being a guy, I have spoken to many guys. And because many of these guys I have spoken to have wives, I know of many wives. lol
There is more of a common thread here than many people would care to admit.
@allknowing (153544)
• India
13 Dec 22
May be if she puts you on her lap and mollycoddles you that may work better rather than getting angry
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@allknowing (153544)
• India
14 Dec 22
@porwest This is the meaning - picked from the Net
"treat (someone) in an indulgent or overprotective way".
@lovebuglena (52144)
• Staten Island, New York
13 Dec 22
@porwest Or maybe she doesn't want to deal with you when you are drunk.
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@porwest (112717)
• United States
27 Sep
@lovebuglena Tough t*tties. lol Just because I got married doesn't mean I had to give up having some fun once in a while.
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@LindaOHio (222222)
• United States
13 Dec 22
My concern is: who does the driving? I would be livid if my husband went out drinking and then got behind the wheel of a car. Yes, she loves you and worries about you.
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@moffittjc (128824)
• Gainesville, Florida
13 Dec 22
Tell the wife she gets a night to go out drinking with the girls. And then you can get angry at her for drinking too much!
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@moffittjc (128824)
• Gainesville, Florida
15 Dec 22
@porwest Maybe you should give her a list! Haha
It’s funny, because in my relationship my gf never gives me a list of things to do. It’s the opposite…I always give her the honey-do list.
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@porwest (112717)
• United States
27 Sep
@moffittjc I think I did try to give her a list once. I had to lock up the knives in the house and go to bed with one eye open. lol
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@sathviksouvik (23233)
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14 Dec 22
in my case I am blessed because my wife drinks with me
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@BearArtistLady (6029)
• United States
13 Dec 22
My question is: Do you thank her for being so concerned and getting angry? She sounds like me when I care about someone so deeply.
Women like to shop, but if you look around, they also take care of the children. They take jobs where caring is important. Yes, I realize that we also are stepping out of the mold and doing harder jobs that were men's jobs, but even in those jobs they still show the natural instinct of caring. Also, women love to have romance in their lives, things like a romantic dinner for two unexpectedly would help a lot. Or how about a bouquet of flowers for no reason. You are so important to her, and loved so much, that she is going to get angry and worry about you on those occasions.
@MarieCoyle (59107)
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13 Dec 22
I think maybe I look at this somewhat differently.
Some people think when they are married, that's it. If you go out at all, you go together or you just don't go. I have other thoughts on this--I love time with the girls. I am not a big shopper, but to meet with a girlfriend for coffee or lunch or just to visit, yes, I suppose two or more grown women could go to a bar if they wanted to. I have noticed over the years that when women go out, the conversations are often about spouses, jobs, and children and other family. When men go out, they like to gab about sports and cars and of course, women.
Married men going out together ''on the town?'' well, it can work sometimes. I wouldn't advise driving after a few drinks with the boys, arrange for a ride or grab an Uber or something. Most importantly, if guys do this, they need to be sure they are OK with their women doing it as well- going out with their friends and doing the girl talk thing. Fair is fair, Jim!!
