There are Just Some Men
By Arya
@yoalldudes (35040)
Philippines
February 1, 2023 12:20am CST
I dont know why throughout my life I was never given a man who is truly responsible, who has a strong sense of responsibility especially financially.
Problem with me is the huge premium I put on good looks who turn out feel entitled to be provided for, the ones I have met at least.
I had 20 years record with my current partner and getting separated from turn out not to be an easy task. I'm just so attached to him, the memories, the qualities I like about him.
His cheating has taught me a good lesson, to be independent. I am still a work in process. Seems there is not too much for someone like me who is close to the sunset of my life, but Im doing fine.
I need to put a period to those two decades. But will I be able to find a source of income if I quit my well paying day job? Hopefully.
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13 responses
@DaddyEvil (137145)
• United States
1 Feb 23
Good luck! It's hard to find a job when you're getting older. Most employers don't want old people. They want young people they can teach to do the job the way they want.
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@yoalldudes (35040)
• Philippines
1 Feb 23
Yes that is a challenge err hurdle lol.
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@andriaperry (116860)
• Anniston, Alabama
1 Feb 23
However, older people will work, we don't have our minds in the phone with gaming thumbs 
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@yoalldudes (35040)
• Philippines
1 Feb 23
Yes there are men who are responsible then why didnt the Universe gave me one LOL.
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@ifa225 (14364)
• Indonesia
1 Feb 23
@yoalldudes I still look for any opportunity that I can do even I am not that young anymore
@yoalldudes (35040)
• Philippines
1 Feb 23
Being independent will secure our future. Good thing to learn early on.
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@yoalldudes (35040)
• Philippines
1 Feb 23
@ifa225 That is a good attitude. I believe I can still be an accounting manager if I want to. But I dont like the 4o hour workweek. So Im trying to get an online part time work.
@andriaperry (116860)
• Anniston, Alabama
1 Feb 23
Don't quit till you have another job. I just ended a relationship and went to work at 57, got a job right away. You can do it.
@andriaperry (116860)
• Anniston, Alabama
1 Feb 23
@yoalldudes when you're ready, the world will be waiting for you.
@yoalldudes (35040)
• Philippines
1 Feb 23
I am hoping to have a few months mini retirement before getting back on the treadmill.
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@porwest (78761)
• United States
1 Feb 23
Make sure before you quit the well paying day job you have a new well paying day job lined up. Unless you have a lot of money to fall back on, not doing that will only set you back and you may never be able to catch up and get ahead.
As for looks? They are overrated. If looks mattered, the folks in Hollywood would never divorce, but many of them are on their fifth and sixth marriages.
@porwest (78761)
• United States
2 Feb 23
@yoalldudes I wish all the best for you and hope it works out. Starting a business is very hard to do and it takes a long time to become profitable, IF the business ever succeeds, and most startups don't. That's not to discourage you. Just to offer up some harsh realities to keep in mind as you head down your new path.
That being said, it can also be said that many of the world's billionaires did it exactly this way. Just threw in the towel and went all in.
@yoalldudes (35040)
• Philippines
3 Feb 23
@porwest I agree with you totally that is why I am not making hasty actions. Still in my day job.
Will make calculated risks although in reality life is uncertain.
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@yoalldudes (35040)
• Philippines
1 Feb 23
This year I am buying gold jewelry instead of adding more to my stock market portfolio. There have been talks of war and this diversification is hurting my retirement goals.
I dont plan on getting another high paying job, just some source of income either a small business or part time freelance job.
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@merrybelle2021 (1389)
• Philippines
1 Feb 23
I'm sure you're aware there are many much older members than you here so I don't think you're "close to the sunset of your life."
Sorry, I don't understand why you have to quit your "well-paying day job" just because you're separating from your partner.
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@yoalldudes (35040)
• Philippines
1 Feb 23
I am just sick of the gossip. Cant take anymore.
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@yoalldudes (35040)
• Philippines
4 Feb 23
@merrybelle2021 Not policies, just cultural and religious biases.
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@merrybelle2021 (1389)
• Philippines
4 Feb 23
@yoalldudes Is the gossip related to your marital status? Do you have policies that you're violating because of your marital status?
@rsa101 (37952)
• Philippines
1 Feb 23
It's disappointing to realize that your marriage is failing. But I believe that's enough to convince you to stick around for your daughter and vow never to make the same mistake again. You absolutely do not regret giving your daughter that. Just concentrate on her. I can also see that your in-laws care about you, which is a good sign that they regard you as a member of the family.
@rsa101 (37952)
• Philippines
2 Feb 23
@yoalldudes It only goes to show how long I've been hanging around here, and as it happens, I've read your stories and taken part in them as well. I believe that being a good mother to your daughter is sufficient in and of itself. Continuing to be a single mother is probably not a bad thing if there are no dependable guys nearby who meet your requirements.
@yoalldudes (35040)
• Philippines
1 Feb 23
You have been following how my life story unfold through my post. Thank you for your concern and wise advice.
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@averygirl72 (37716)
• Philippines
1 Feb 23
Do you still look for another man in your life? I see we all have struggles of all sorts. Hope you got a stable job to support your family
@averygirl72 (37716)
• Philippines
1 Feb 23
@yoalldudes Yes it can bring stress and depression but I hope not anxiety. I need diversions too to not feel stress and depressed
@yoalldudes (35040)
• Philippines
1 Feb 23
For now, I sometimes think of other things other than relationships. It stresses me out and depresses me. I try to focus on other things.
@RebeccasFarm (86757)
• United States
1 Feb 23
Money is always the issue with this separation. Good luck to you.
@yoalldudes (35040)
• Philippines
1 Feb 23
You are already the second person who warned me about that. Im already 43 so getting a new job wont be a walk in the park.
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@LindaOHio (156082)
• United States
1 Feb 23
Good luck. It sounds like you have quite a bit to handle.
