Hard Times.
By rakski
@rakski (156200)
Philippines
February 26, 2023 4:51pm CST
Yesterday, I was able to reconnect with an old friend. Their family is having a tough time the past months. Just like me, my friend is a stay at home mom with three kids. The eldest will be on college soon and the two on high school. But his husband needs to retire soon. My friend told me his husband cannot handle the stress of work and is always sickly. My friend is now looking for a job but being a stay at home mom for such a long time with a very few work experience and that was more than a decade ago, her application is always rejected. My friend told me she wants to apply for work abroad but same thing, she was asked for her work experience.
I really do not how to help her. I am sure it is tough especially that her competition will be younger than her and maybe with different set of skills. I told her maybe she can take some short courses to increase her qualifications.
Any suggestions on what advice to give to my friend? I'm lost also as I am not working as well.
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I know how she feel. I am a full house mom with three kids too and soon my hubby will retired. I am still looking for a job too but still can't find one
@DaddyEvil (174208)
• United States
26 Feb 23
I'm sorry it's so difficult to find work right now. Pretty has the same problem... She's never worked and everyone wants some work history to look at before hiring.
Good luck!
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@DaddyEvil (174208)
• United States
27 Feb 23
@rakski It's always a question asked in the US before someone is willing to hire, so I assumed it would be the same in the Philippines.
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@rakski (156200)
• Philippines
27 Feb 23
@DaddyEvil true and she had none. So there is a big hole there
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@allknowing (153544)
• India
26 Feb 23
She should take up any job that comes her way.
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@kaylachan (84701)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
27 Feb 23
Look into writing a resume that will list all her qualifications. Be honest about what you can do, and if there's a skill you don't think matters, include it. You might be surprised what results you get.
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@yoalldudes (35030)
• Philippines
27 Feb 23
She can try internship to gain experience. In FVA for example. Or bootcamp to job placement.
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@yoalldudes (35030)
• Philippines
27 Feb 23
@rakski I enrolled in FVA the course was online bookkeeping. I wasnt able to get the certificate though because I got bz with my day job. But they do offer internship without pay though. If youre good the client might hire you.
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@much2say (57760)
• Los Angeles, California
27 Feb 23
That is a tough one. I guess it also depends on what she wants to do. I used to be in the graphic design field, but so much has changed since I last worked (it's been 18 years now) . . . even my friends who were able to stay in the field say it's difficult now. Here there are trade schools and classes to help with adult careers . . . some offer job placement. But again, it depends on what she wants to do.
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@much2say (57760)
• Los Angeles, California
27 Feb 23
@rakski Are there places in her area where they have "hiring" signs? Here, a lot of places have such signs in their windows . . . maybe it would be good to talk to the manager/owner in person. I have been told a couple times they hired me because of my personality 
. I do believe a resume/application does not tell everything about a person.
. I do believe a resume/application does not tell everything about a person.1 person likes this
@RebeccasFarm (91299)
• United States
27 Feb 23
This is the problem as you age..and have no experience, no one wants to hir you.
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@merrybelle2021 (1393)
• Philippines
27 Feb 23
Can she sell food? Start with just snacks every afternoon. Or congree. Or breakfast food.
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@rakski (156200)
• Philippines
28 Feb 23
@merrybelle2021 I think she did that but unfortunately for her, her relatives live near them
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@merrybelle2021 (1393)
• Philippines
28 Feb 23
@rakski I guess it depends on their neighborhood if it's allowed or not. I was referring to setting up a table in front of her house and selling to neighbors and people passing by.
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@Treborika (18194)
• Mombasa, Kenya
10 Mar 23
Let her go to the rural areas and Star doing farming. Farming is very profitable in deed
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@rakski (156200)
• Philippines
10 Mar 23
@Treborika because some were born and live in the city
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@GardenGerty (169406)
• United States
27 Feb 23
You have given her the best advice you can as well as providing a listening ear.
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@snowy22315 (208746)
• United States
27 Feb 23
A computer course or two would certainly help
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@JamesHxstatic (29410)
• Eugene, Oregon
26 Feb 23
It is sad that her husband can't support his family. Is he an older man? I worked well past retirement age.
She is in a difficult situation. Are there housekeeping services she could apply to?
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