Match making
@allknowing (153544)
India
June 8, 2023 9:25pm CST
Marriages are made in heaven they say but I was responsoible for three (lol)
In India marriages are mostly arranged. Mine was not arranged but he came he saw he conquered (lol)
I have succeeded in arranging three marriages in my family one nephew and two nieces. A friend of mine had seen my niece and she suggested that I arrange a meeting with her friend at her place and it worked.
Another was when my neighbour suggested that my niece meets his cousin and it worked.
My nephew met this girl who my friend had suggested She was a professional match maker. Being my friend she did not charge.
All are successful marriages.
Have you arranged any marriages and was yours love, arranged or proposed?
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@AmbiePam (120585)
• United States
9 Jun 23
It wasn't "arranged", but my Aunt Pam thought she knew the perfect person for her brother-in-law, my dad. That person was my mother. After she introduced them, the rest was history. My Aunt Pam also set up my sister with her husband.
Similarly, my mom also set up two couples who ended up getting married. That's not arranged, but I was pretty impressed by their knack in setting people up successfully. Because my Aunt Pam also set up two other couples who are married. She's like a matchmaker who doesn't charge money.
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@allknowing (153544)
• India
9 Jun 23
So let me call it setting up and not 'arranged' if you say so (lol)
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@AmbiePam (120585)
• United States
9 Jun 23
@allknowing I didn't want to culturally appropriate your meaning of arranged. In America, we're told not to assume other people's traditions as our own. Probably silly, but I didn't want to assume it was the same thing.
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@allknowing (153544)
• India
9 Jun 23
@AmbiePam Almost the same thing. An arrangement is made for the girl and boy to meet and the rest is history. It does not work all the time. One of my nieces was rejected by many although she was pretty but she was skinny. But finally a guy liked her and they are very happy with each other.
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@allknowing (153544)
• India
9 Jun 23
My 'arrangements' met with success but my sisters did not She arranged for my nephew with our father's brother's grand daughter and it did not work They are divorced.
@allknowing (153544)
• India
9 Jun 23
One of my nieces who is settled in Australia always gets me loads full of chocolates and her husband expresses his gratitude in words to me.
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@LadyDuck (502207)
• Italy
9 Jun 23
@allknowing I do not want to be involved in a marriage arrangement. I think that this is something very personal. I would have been furious should someone had tried to convince me to marry a man just because they knew the family or they knew the boy and he was a serious one. None of their business.
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@RasmaSandra (97908)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
9 Jun 23
For me, it was that my first marriage did not work out and for the second one I met my soul mate and we fell in love. I am now done with the love part just asking the Lord to see me through the rest of my life,
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@allknowing (153544)
• India
9 Jun 23
The one that did not work out was it arranged?
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@allknowing (153544)
• India
11 Jun 23
@RasmaSandra That was too much of an age gap. Your mother should not have.
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@RasmaSandra (97908)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
10 Jun 23
@allknowing nope making a long story short my mom was making me crazy she wanted me to marry a Latvian so I did but a man who was 20 years older than I was. My soul mate and I matched perfectly just like my parents with 6 years apart,
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@allknowing (153544)
• India
9 Jun 23
I think most of you fall in love and get married
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@allknowing (153544)
• India
10 Jun 23
@RubyHawk And love found that way should last forever.
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@RubyHawk (99367)
• Atlanta, Georgia
10 Jun 23
@allknowing True, that’s the way to find your love.
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@aninditasen (18198)
• Raurkela, India
9 Jun 23
I had tried to arrange by sister's marriage but it didn't work. My aunt arranged her marriage with someone else to who she is married now. Mine is a arranged marriage.
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@allknowing (153544)
• India
9 Jun 23
I think arranged marriages are more successful as there are no expectations from each other.
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@aninditasen (18198)
• Raurkela, India
10 Jun 23
@allknowing Not always. My neice's( husband's brother's daughter) was an arranged marriage but the boys family kept on torturing her after marriage for more dowry. She had to get a divorce. Of course she remarried 2021 which was also an arranged marriage.
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@allknowing (153544)
• India
9 Jun 23
Many are like you. They do not want to g anywhere near it
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@Fleura (34935)
• United Kingdom
9 Jun 23
People here tend to be against the idea of arranged marriages but they confuse the idea with people being forced to marry someone their parents (or whoever) have chosen for them. Introducing people to suitable prospects is always a good idea.
I can't say I've arranged any marriages really but I did enable two friends to meet and encouraged him to get in touch with her again... they have now been married about 25 years, have two grown up children and have recently taken early retirement and gone off sailing around the world!
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@allknowing (153544)
• India
9 Jun 23
Same here. I have just introduced them but have also sung the praises of the one I was interested in (lol)
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@allknowing (153544)
• India
9 Jun 23
Decision is made by the couple They are just introduced.
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