The Silent Treatment.

@Kandae11 (57233)

July 5, 2023 10:01am CST

If you have annoyed your partner in some way would you prefer getting the silent treatment from him or her or a loud venting of feelings.? Depending on how serious it is, loud venting could sometimes lead to violence. While keeping silent is not only very uncomfortable ( when you both live in the same house) it also does not solve the problem. Now, suppose it is your partner who has done something to upset you, would you vent your feelings vocally or completely shut him out? Which would be the best way to handle the situation? Have you ever been on the receiving end of the silent treatment? Pixabay image.

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@Marilynda1225 (91013)

• United States

5 Jul 23

My ex Mother in Law was famous for the silent treatment. When she was mad she would stop talking to everyone and no one knew who she was mad at. It used to bother me way back when I was married but thinking about it now I probably just wouldn't have given it as much attention as I did back then. Part of me thinks she did it for attention as we all would get involved in the drama trying to figure out who she was mad at or what she was mad at.

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@Marilynda1225 (91013)

• United States

5 Jul 23

@Kandae11 the silent treatment is so uncomfortable. I was never one to be silent when I was mad. I spoke my mind (probably a bit louder than I needed to

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@Kandae11 (57233)

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5 Jul 23

I can well imagine how uncomfortable that must have been for everyone. That happened when l was growing up, my father won't have anything to say to my mother for days at a time.

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@Kandae11 (57233)

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5 Jul 23

@Marilynda1225 l am the type to speek out too. Can't keep it bottled up inside

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Valerie J. Routhieaux

@just4him (323168)

• Green Bay, Wisconsin

5 Jul 23

Yes, I've been on the receiving end of the silent treatment. I'm usually vocal.

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Valerie J. Routhieaux

@just4him (323168)

• Green Bay, Wisconsin

5 Jul 23

@Kandae11 That's the best way.

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@Kandae11 (57233)

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5 Jul 23

I too prefer to say what's bothering me in an effort to solve the problem.

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@AmbiePam (120533)

• United States

5 Jul 23

If those were my only two choices, I would go for the silent treatment to avoid words that cannot be unsaid. Certainly, I wouldn't expect insults, but to me, it's better to keep it in your head until you calm down. I am fine with being ignored for awhile if those are my two choices.

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@Kandae11 (57233)

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5 Jul 23

If there is no chance of having a civil convérsation to resolve the issue, perhaps ignoring each other would be the next best thing. Both will have time to calm down and think about the problem.

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@shaggin (74988)

• United States

5 Jul 23

I usually am not one to yell. I tend to bottle things up. My husband yells and says he bottles things and then blows up. What is he holding back then all the time when he’s yelling

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@Kandae11 (57233)

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5 Jul 23

He isn't bottling it up, he is letting it out.

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@LadyDuck (502148)

• Italy

6 Jul 23

Better to avoid words when you feel hurt, but the silent treatment must not last for long time.

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@LadyDuck (502148)

• Italy

7 Jul 23

@Kandae11 My grandmother always told me to never to to sleep angry.

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@Kandae11 (57233)

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6 Jul 23

No it shouldn't. The issue whatever it is will have to be resolved some time.

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@db20747 (43419)

• Washington, District Of Columbia

6 Jul 23

Depends on the situation. If arguments occur all the time silence is better. But eventually the issue is going to have to be addressed.

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@Kandae11 (57233)

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6 Jul 23

Can't be silent night over and over again the issue will have to be faced and addressed.

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@pitstop (15551)

• Australia

5 Jul 23

We stay silent for a bit, but then kiss and make up over a movie on TV.

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@much2say (57760)

• Los Angeles, California

6 Jul 23

I'd rather be talking things out in a civil way. A heated argument can sometimes happen, but I wouldn't want a loud, rude type of venting. I am not for silent treatments at all . . . my dad would do that and we'd all be walking on eggshells in our own home for sometimes a week.

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@much2say (57760)

• Los Angeles, California

11 Jul 23

@Kandae11 Sorry to hear you went through the same thing. My dad wouldn't say anything, but he'd be stomping, slamming doors, or drive crazy when we were all in the car. Not with words, but he'd let it be known he was angry.

@Kandae11 (57233)

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11 Jul 23

Same thing happened in my home , until my parents divorced.

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Arthur Chappell

@arthurchappell (44941)

• Preston, England

16 Jul 23

I have had that, my sister has kept it up for a decade on me, and it really can feel horrble facing a wall of silence.

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@Kandae11 (57233)

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16 Jul 23

I know. I have experienced it too- but for shorter periods.

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@cherigucchi (15934)

• Philippines

5 Jul 23

I am more of a silent type of person whenever I am real angry.

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@Kandae11 (57233)

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5 Jul 23

They say it's best to count to 10 before saying or doing something you might regret later.

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@cherigucchi (15934)

• Philippines

5 Jul 23

@Kandae11 I do agree on that. Harsh words said could never be taken back.

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@RebeccasFarm (91299)

• United States

2 Aug 23

I am the one who goes silent but that is only because I do not like to argue. I hate loud people..they disturb me.

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@Kandae11 (57233)

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2 Aug 23

We can talk, but quietly.

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@Tampa_girl7 (54714)

• United States

14 Jul 23

In my marriage we just talk things out. We have always tried to resolve things before we go to sleep. Tomorrow is not promised and it would be awful to have our last time together spent being upset.

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@Kandae11 (57233)

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14 Jul 23

That is very sound reasoning. It makes no sense lying in bed, trying to sleep and angry with each other.

@misunderstood_zombie (8765)

• United States

6 Jul 23

I think I like the silent treatment better than loud fighting, though sometimes it happened in my marriage.

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@Kandae11 (57233)

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6 Jul 23

Sometimes the silent treatment is the way some people withdraw into themselves to think over things, or it could be anger at something the other person has done. It could also come after a big argument and both persons involved do not speak to each other for a day or longer.

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@misunderstood_zombie (8765)

• United States

6 Jul 23

@Kandae11 This is true, hopefully it would not last too long.

@Butterfingers (66603)

• India

5 Jul 23

Silent treatment for obvious reasons

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@Kandae11 (57233)

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5 Jul 23

I suppose it is best at first to make sure everyone is calm, but what caused the disagreement csnnot be ignored, it should be talked out.

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@Butterfingers (66603)

• India

5 Jul 23

@Kandae11 I have to agree with this

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@snowy22315 (208746)

• United States

6 Jul 23

The silent treatment is a form of abuse. I think letting someone know why you are upset is the thing to do, but being calm about it is important.

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@Kandae11 (57233)

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11 Jul 23

Very true.

@jstory07 (148701)

• Roseburg, Oregon

6 Jul 23

No that has never happened to me and I have never done that to anyone.

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@Kandae11 (57233)

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11 Jul 23

That is very good.

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@nela13 (59367)

• Portugal

11 Jul 23

I use the silence treatment but now I am trying to change, talk and get to understand each other is better.

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@Kandae11 (57233)

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12 Jul 23

Yes it is best to talk it over and try to solve the problem.

@peachpurple (13961)

• Malaysia

8 Jul 23

I vote for silent treatment because my hubby would not know what i am thinking. However he would yell, shout, curse and swear and threaten me when he iss mad. And he hurls vulgar words too

@Kandae11 (57233)

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11 Jul 23

In that case l would prefer if he gave me the silent treatment. The best thing would be to try and stay calm until the anger has cooled a bit - then talk it over rationally. However, most of the time that does not happen.