Breaks My Heart
By J.N.R Dutton
@jnrdutton (3447)
United States
October 20, 2023 4:04am CST
Something is weighing on my heart right now, and that's my wife's difficulties with her grandparents illnesses. She Loves her grandparents, I know she does, but she's exhausted,as she's expressed in her own posts.
I totally understand how things can feel overwhelming and people can feel helpless when a Loved one is ill. When it's multiple Loved ones, that's just adding insult to injury.
I'm sure many here know her grandfather especially has been chronically ill a long time. Her grandmother is struggling with ailments on TOP of that.
One blow after another, it seems, but I have to believe there's a silver lining somewhere. Life can't keep beating her and her family down.
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@LindaOHio (222288)
• United States
20 Oct 23
I hope things improve. I wish her grandparents could get more help.
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@jnrdutton (3447)
• United States
20 Oct 23
They are going to both be on hospice, but I was told even they won't give round the clock care, unfortunately.
I'd hope they'd go into an assisted living place and we could visit there (not an actual nursing home,many of those places are nightmares.) @LindaOHio
I know how they are though, they'd refuse. They (understandably) wouldn't want to leave what they are familiar and comfortable with behind.
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@LindaOHio (222288)
• United States
20 Oct 23
@jnrdutton I can totally understand them wanting to stay in their home. I don't know what the answer is.
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@jnrdutton (3447)
• United States
20 Oct 23
@LindaOHio I have fervent hope that something will be worked out that's reasonable. Just not sure how long that might take.
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@jnrdutton (3447)
• United States
20 Oct 23
I do know that everything is temporary. I'm comforted in a way by the words of the late Brandon Lee, his famous line from his last film. It goes, "It can't rain all the time". Eventually SOMETHING has got to give, I just know everyone is just worn down like the eraser of a #2 pencil. @dya80dya
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@RebeccasFarm (91299)
• United States
20 Oct 23
Yes I understand you perfectly.
It seems so unfair as one thing after the other beats a person down.
And this nonsensical saying of the thing people say..everything happens for a reason..no..it doesnt shut up that is what I say to that.
Suffering is not good and there is no reason for it.
Also people say..this too shall pass..NONSENSE..those sayings are delusional.
But on another note, Courtney is lucky to have such a caring partner as you.
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@RasmaSandra (97912)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
20 Oct 23
I keep the grandparents in my prayers and I know that the Lord will watch over them. Many blessings to your wife. Maybe this can provide some ideas
https://www.bing.com/search?q=senior+care+at+home&FORM=INCOH2&PC=1VIV&PTAG=ICO-c9d0fc87
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@MarieCoyle (59107)
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20 Oct 23
Hi, Mr. Dutton. Nice to meet you.
Unfortunately, it may reach the point with the grandparents, at least the grandfather, that it is out of their hands. If his grown children have to work, there isn't going to be enough family to care for him at home. No one wants to leave their home, even at the end of life. But sometimes there just isn't a clear path for family members to care for them full time. It's hard. I've walked that walk. I have an adult son that has to have some care, and I am not exactly well enough to do it. I manage somehow. There are days when I wonder if I am going to make it through, but I do. People say, just take one day at a time. Some days, I just strive for one hour at a time. It's good that you are supportive for Courtney and her family.
Hopefully, some type of plan can be found for them. End of life care is just often very hard.
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@popciclecold (40215)
• United States
20 Oct 23
A lot of to deal with,. Hope she can get some help. This is very hard.
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@Rashnag (30597)
• Surat, India
22 Oct 23
I can understand the pain. I never got to see my grandparents but I had seen my father being ill and suffered. I understand the helpless situation. Time will heal everything, you keep loving and supporting her
@zhangxueying (3362)
• China
20 Oct 23
Most of us are at home, taken care of by our children, or have caregivers take care of us at home or in the hospital
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