2/22/24 - Update on My Husband
By LindaOH
@LindaOHio (222288)
United States
February 22, 2024 12:38am CST
I had a telephone conference with some of the staff of the rehab facility yesterday. They brought me up-to-date on what is being done with my husband and also answered my questions. Physical therapy weighed my husband...he has lost 30 pounds in 3 weeks. Totally not acceptable. They will be feeding him a pureed diet since he seems to be having trouble swallowing.
I mentioned that he needs therapy for his arm and hand strength since he can't pick up and hold a cup or silverware. He also needs his bed to be raised in the head area as he can't sleep flat on his back. Apparently we are looking at a more long term stay as they mentioned that there is a limit to how many days he can stay before I start paying big $$$. I remember when my FIL was in a nursing home back in 2000. It was $5,000 a month back then.
Thank you for your continued concern, prayers and thoughts. You are all good friends.
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@FourWalls (86575)
• United States
22 Feb 24
Please mention to them that he’s a veteran, and ask if they can get the VA involved.
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@Juliaacv (56195)
• Canada
22 Feb 24
Here the government kicks in for a stay in a nursing home, the rest or retirement homes cost and my mother was paying that exact number back in 2022 when she passed away in the rest home.
I think that this recommendation may get him a better bed and out of the cot that you compared it to.
They should be able to direct you for assistance, they have to aware of this for other residents, it is their job to do that for you.
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@LindaOHio (222288)
• United States
22 Feb 24
I will see if any changes have been made when I visit today.
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@kareng (80243)
• United States
23 Feb 24
@LindaOHio I sure hope you see better care being given!
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@LadyDuck (502190)
• Italy
22 Feb 24
Are they sure that your husband did not suffer a mild stroke and the doctors at the hospital missed to notice this? I see all the symptoms of a stroke here, his hand is not strong, he cannot swallow and he cannot speak clearly. May be he could be helped for a longer time at a rehab if this is the case.
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@LadyDuck (502190)
• Italy
22 Feb 24
@LindaOHio Of course if had not a previous MRI to compare, they cannot be precise.
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@LindaOHio (222288)
• United States
22 Feb 24
They took a CT scan and MRI of his brain and assured me that it wasn't a stroke. He did have a little brain atrophy though.
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@kareng (80243)
• United States
23 Feb 24
Right, and for that kind of money they should get quality care! But they do not. I went round and round with the nursing home my mother was in. Never got reimbursed for her stolen items either. It's a shame they treat their patients this way and have staff that steal from patients.
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@LindaOHio (222288)
• United States
23 Feb 24
You're very welcome. They have sent me paperwork to apply for Medicaid. I don't see how we would qualify; but they are insisting....
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@MommyOfEli2013 (89474)
• Rupert, Idaho
22 Feb 24
I am sorry to hear about all of that....I wish I knew more to say. I never was good at this kind of stuff...so hopefully others will be of more help.
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@LindaOHio (222288)
• United States
22 Feb 24
You do just fine, Courtney. I appreciate your concern.
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@LindaOHio (222288)
• United States
23 Feb 24
@MommyOfEli2013 Sometimes that's what is needed.
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@MommyOfEli2013 (89474)
• Rupert, Idaho
22 Feb 24
@LindaOHio Well I just don't have much to offer in helping others. Yeah I can listen, but that is about it...
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@celticeagle (189792)
• Boise, Idaho
23 Feb 24
Often in my thoughts dear girl. I hope they get it after all that you mentioned. 
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@marguicha (230334)
• Chile
22 Feb 24
Here we can buy or rent hospital beds. In those facilities you mention, people should have them so that they are more comfortable. I hopw everything turns out for the best
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@wolfgirl569 (135583)
• Marion, Ohio
22 Feb 24
I hope they do good now that you have talked to them. It does sound like he will have to be there longer than insurance will cover. The one I had dad in was 6000 a month. It is extremely expensive.
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@wolfgirl569 (135583)
• Marion, Ohio
23 Feb 24
@LindaOHio If he would be there very long they would have the right to take your house after you are both gone. I know they wanted me to start dads paperwork for it because it can take a few months to get done. But I knew we were down to weeks at that time for dad. The home dad was in had someone that could help me with it.
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@LindaOHio (222288)
• United States
23 Feb 24
They want us to apply for Medicaid. I don't see how that's possible.
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@LindaOHio (222288)
• United States
24 Feb 24
@wolfgirl569 They also want me to fill out a paper that puts our assets in trust. This sounds very dangerous to me. I would need a lawyer to look at it.
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@JudyEv (381815)
• Rockingham, Australia
24 Feb 24
@LindaOHio Hopefully there is a number you can ring. If it's not the right place, perhaps they can point you in the right direction.
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@LindaOHio (222288)
• United States
24 Feb 24
@JudyEv I found a number for VA Health Benefits. I will call on Monday.
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@aninditasen (18198)
• Raurkela, India
22 Feb 24
They should be raising the head side portion of his bed without your telling them. He needs some physiotherapy for his hands I think. My prayers for him remains.
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@Beestring (15373)
• Hong Kong
22 Feb 24
I hope they take your concerns seriously.
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@LindaOHio (222288)
• United States
22 Feb 24
I hope so too. I will see today when we go and visit.
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@popciclecold (40215)
• United States
22 Feb 24
Glad you were able to give them some instructions. He has lost a lot of weight.
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@shaggin (74988)
• United States
22 Feb 24
I hope you can get the bills totally covered $5000 a month is horrible! Sad that was how things were when you father in law was in.
They need to be feeding your husband if he isn’t able to do it well himself. That is really bad he has lost 30 pounds. If he was overweight then eating healthy could be why but I really don’t think that sounds like the case here.
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@LindaOHio (222288)
• United States
23 Feb 24
They need to try more things to encourage him to eat.
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@LeaPea2417 (40020)
• Toccoa, Georgia
22 Feb 24
I think it is awful how expensive nursing homes are!
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@RasmaSandra (97912)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
22 Feb 24
Many blessings to you both and keeping him in my prayers.
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