Would it better to heal conflicts over time instead resolving them quickly?
By Anish Asokan
@RevivedWarrior (3853)
India
November 25, 2024 9:51am CST
Today I had the chance to witness an ending of hostility after 20 long years! Two of my neighbours buried their differences and are much better now. What was interesting, they fought over something trivial but ended up not interacting at all for 20 long years. Their families were not interacting over this time. Perhaps, time provided the distance and perspective to cool their heads and bring sense to them. Initially, it could have been the ego which prevented the patch up or perhaps there was deeper resentment. However, it was good to see the reunion.
At same I also have a colleague who is naïve but brash the way he deals with other. He also clashes with one or other. Interestingly, he would take the first step in resolving and would always advocate on resolving conflicts quickly. According to him, risk of losing a relationship is more if not addressed immediately.
Looking both scenarios, I wonder which approach works better. Would it better to heal conflicts over time instead resolving them quickly?
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@freelancermariagrace (29342)
• Philippines
26 Nov 24
Resolving a conflict depends on its severity. Sometimes, it is better to address the issue when both parties have healed.
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@freelancermariagrace (29342)
• Philippines
28 Nov 24
@RevivedWarrior Indeed. No worries, Anish :)
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@RevivedWarrior (3853)
• India
26 Nov 24
The severity of the issue definitely needs to be considered. Thanks for sharing!
@luisadannointed (11842)
• Philippines
29 Nov 24
If you can resolve it quickly why not, no one wants to be in grudges with anyone and its not a lovely feeling. But sometimes there are conflicts that needs time to heal specially if conflicts are because of lies and the one who spread lies doesn't want to be caught... and many more reasons...
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@RevivedWarrior (3853)
• India
29 Nov 24
If conflicts can be resolved quickly we should. And we definitely need time to heal especially if the wound in the mind is severe. Thanks for sharing!
@allknowing (153544)
• India
26 Nov 24
Time is a diffuser but twenty years is a long time.
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@RevivedWarrior (3853)
• India
26 Nov 24
Well, time is a healer for some conflicts but this one took long time. Thanks for sharing!
@dgobucks226 (37621)
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26 Nov 24
If possible, resolving them quickly would be most beneficial. The longer one waits the harder it becomes as both parties become angrier over their hurt feelings and in believing their position was justified.
Sometimes however, you are right, feuds may take time to heal. When one party realizes harboring these feelings is counterproductive, can affect their emotional state, and cause you to be bitter and unhappy forever.
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@RevivedWarrior (3853)
• India
27 Nov 24
It is definitely better to resolve a conflict at earliest. Once th inertia sets in , it would be tough to resolev things. Thanks for sharing!
@aureategloom (11025)
• Bosnia And Herzegovina
25 Nov 24
depends on the reason for conflict. not everything can be solved quickly. sometimes people hurt each other and they need some time to heal and to be able to talk things out 
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@RevivedWarrior (3853)
• India
26 Nov 24
Thats very true- reason for conflict is a very important factor to be considered. Thanks for sharing!
