Did you ever know someone who never was happy?
@GardenGerty (169406)
United States
January 28, 2025 6:35am CST
That was my mother, almost to a T. She was curious, and inquisitive, and loved learning new things, etc. However simple things that she should have been happy about, she did nothing but criticize.
Seeing the post by @kareng reminded me of a happy memory about my kids, but it also reminded me that my mother never had a happy word to say about my younger sister's wedding and I will agree that there were things that were not great about it, BUT there were also a lot of wonderful things that could have brought a smile to her face.
I do not want to ever be like that. It must have been miserable.
20 people like this
19 responses
@GardenGerty (169406)
• United States
29 Jan 25
Her negativity is why she was not included in many things.
4 people like this
@shaggin (74988)
• United States
29 Jan 25
Unfortunately my mother is like this and so I was like that too until someone pointed it out to me. I tried hard to be different after realizing that guy was right. My sister and her kids loved with my mom and dad their whole lives and I noticed that same negativity rubbed off on my oldest niece too.
4 people like this
@GardenGerty (169406)
• United States
30 Jan 25
@shaggin It is a big burden to bear to be "right" or "perfect" all the time and feel wronged if things do not go your way.
1 person likes this
@GardenGerty (169406)
• United States
29 Jan 25
Actually that is pretty true of my mom's family. And they were all so much "better" than everyone.
3 people like this
@shaggin (74988)
• United States
30 Jan 25
@GardenGerty that’s sad I’m sorry. I’m glad you aren’t like them.
4 people like this
@FourWalls (86575)
• United States
28 Jan 25
Yes, and being around them was miserable. I’m thankful that I don’t have that problem.
4 people like this
@GardenGerty (169406)
• United States
30 Jan 25
@FourWalls what a cool thing to remember about your mother. There were some cool things about mine, but the wedding thing and my younger sister's marriage was a mess.
1 person likes this
@FourWalls (86575)
• United States
30 Jan 25
@GardenGerty — my mother was always joyful even when she wasn’t “happy.” My dad, on the other hand, couldn’t be pleased. Guess he wasn’t happy.
3 people like this
@wolfgirl569 (135583)
• Marion, Ohio
28 Jan 25
I have a cousin like that. She can find something to complain about always
4 people like this
@Marilynda1225 (91013)
• United States
28 Jan 25
Offhand I can't say I know anyone who was never happy. I agree that it must be miserable though to never find anything to make you smile.
4 people like this
@GardenGerty (169406)
• United States
29 Jan 25
I am glad you do not have anyone like this to look to.
4 people like this
@Marilynda1225 (91013)
• United States
30 Jan 25
@GardenGerty meanwhile I thought about this and my ex mother in law wasn't a very happy person. Its been years since she's passed away so she really isn't someone I think about very often.
4 people like this
@GardenGerty (169406)
• United States
30 Jan 25
@Marilynda1225 Yeah, this memory about my Mom snuck up on me when reading the other post.
@JordanLader (7386)
• Sparta, Tennessee
28 Jan 25
Sounds like my mom and then she argues with me when I say something about it. She didn't say she was proud of me when I joined the Fire Department until my husband's mother did.
4 people like this
@GardenGerty (169406)
• United States
29 Jan 25
That is really too bad. You can be proud of yourself for doing that, though.
3 people like this
@celticeagle (189793)
• Boise, Idaho
29 Jan 25
That's a shame. I've known several of these types down through the years. I even had one on here for a while. She'd come make a negative comment in one of my posts and then move on. I tried to put up with her until it started bugging others so I blocked her. These types are unhappy themselves and putting it off on others. Sorry to hear your mom was that way.
3 people like this
@GardenGerty (169406)
• United States
29 Jan 25
We have to try hard not to fall into the same patterns that are around us.
2 people like this
@celticeagle (189793)
• Boise, Idaho
31 Jan 25
@GardenGerty ......Yes, I try to keep my corner of the world as tranquil and positive as possible.The kids are taught morals and how to treat others.
@marguicha (230334)
• Chile
28 Jan 25
I´m sorry for her. But maybe she was happy inside even if she did not show it. My mom was not a very happy person either. But my father made up for it all.
3 people like this
@GardenGerty (169406)
• United States
29 Jan 25
She probably had her moments, but those special occasions should not be something to just be mad about.
3 people like this
@GardenGerty (169406)
• United States
29 Jan 25
She was very blunt and self centered.
4 people like this
@pahak627 (5347)
• Philippines
30 Jan 25
@GardenGerty Luckily, there are only a few people with that character.
1 person likes this
@RasmaSandra (97912)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
28 Jan 25
I always try to find at lest one good thing about each of my days and then thank the Lord for it,
3 people like this
@GardenGerty (169406)
• United States
29 Jan 25
That makes for much better moments.
3 people like this
@GardenGerty (169406)
• United States
29 Jan 25
Lucky it is only one. To have to live around them must be miserable.
3 people like this
@GardenGerty (169406)
• United States
30 Jan 25
@JudyEv He does not strike me as grumpy, although being partially deaf contributes to that.
1 person likes this
@JudyEv (381760)
• Rockingham, Australia
30 Jan 25
@GardenGerty It's funny how personality traits show up. In the different brass bands we played in, there was always one grumpy old man, partly deaf, and he always played the trumpet. 
If we were still in bands, Vince would probably be that old man although he is not often grumpy.
If we were still in bands, Vince would probably be that old man although he is not often grumpy. 3 people like this
@andriaperry (118793)
• Anniston, Alabama
28 Jan 25
Yes I beo know one. The witch in the old neighborhood.
3 people like this
@GardenGerty (169406)
• United States
29 Jan 25
I hope in this case that you do not find your person.
3 people like this
@Ronrybs (21504)
• London, England
30 Jan 25
@GardenGerty They might be waiting around the next corner tomorrow!
1 person likes this
@GardenGerty (169406)
• United States
29 Jan 25
Yes, a positive mindset can improve the situation.
2 people like this
@GardenGerty (169406)
• United States
29 Jan 25
Jealousy and grudges never helped any of us.
2 people like this
@GardenGerty (169406)
• United States
30 Jan 25
@kareng I always felt as if a grudge were a heavy thing to carry.
1 person likes this
@GardenGerty (169406)
• United States
29 Jan 25
And actually my husband had an aunt that was worse. We joked about it a bit.
4 people like this
@DaddyEvil (174208)
• United States
28 Jan 25
I've known a couple of people like that. I avoid them as much as possible.
3 people like this
@GardenGerty (169406)
• United States
29 Jan 25
Better for your mental health for sure.
3 people like this
@GardenGerty (169406)
• United States
29 Jan 25
I am really sorry to hear that, but you seem to try to find lots of joy around you.
2 people like this
@BACONSTRIPSXXX (18025)
• Torrington, Connecticut
30 Jan 25
@GardenGerty Of course!, I have my wife and children who keep me sane and complete lol
2 people like this
@GardenGerty (169406)
• United States
29 Jan 25
I am glad to say I have known people like that as well.
3 people like this
