Marrige, is it becoming old fashion?

@sarah22 (3981)
United States
December 2, 2006 4:53pm CST
I dont think so, but i have seen many couple just living together as and not getting marride. What do you think?
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@reinydawn (11649)
• United States
3 Dec 06
When I got divorced, I swore I'd never get married again. It was a really bad experience for me. We were young and stupid, and didn't grow together but rather apart. Then, many years later I met this guy and we knew we were going to be together forever. We were married a little over a year later and that was about a year and a half ago. I have never been happier. We talked about just living together, but that really didn't "mean" anything to us so we wanted to get married.
@sarah22 (3981)
• United States
3 Dec 06
thats wonderful you found the person that makes you whole. and sorry too have hear your misfortune with the other. your happier now and thats all that matter,best of luck to you
• United States
3 Dec 06
On one of our news stations they did a story on marriage and why they are waiting so long. Young people are choosing to live together first and try it out first before getting married and even having babies first. Then they decide to marry in their 30's that way they know they can make it because of the high divorce rate. I almost wish my daughters would do that because I don't want them to have to go through a divorce. It's just to messy.
@sarah22 (3981)
• United States
3 Dec 06
yes, i have seen that too, but it must still hurt the family when they seperate if they did, the kids and all. i think it would. do you think that not been married and having a family is a garenty that you would stay together?
@mslena75 (562)
• United States
3 Dec 06
I think in a sense marriage is becoming a novelty. People rush too much to take the other steps. But then I also think that people get married too fast without thinking it through, then once they have done so they are not prepared for the amount of work that it can take to make it work once they have taken the plunge. Folks are too quick to run without trying to stick things out. Granted, not situation is meant to be worked through, horrible things like physical abuse or infidelity. But there a lot of negative things that can really only be temporary that a couple can make it through if they try, like financial problems or work stress or certain types of stress that can make things harder, like losses or family issues. I commend people who can make it past a year or two in this day and age. I plan to be the exception. I want my marriage to last, good and bad, rich or poor.
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@sarah22 (3981)
• United States
3 Dec 06
i could not agree with you more. yes, people now days dont think futher than just been married. the responsibility and its harder when you have children.good luck with yours, i too am making mine work, i have been married 8 years this next June.
@Thoroughrob (11748)
• United States
3 Dec 06
I think people are more comfortable just living together. Not that it is right, but it is easier than getting a Divorce if it doesn't work out. Also, I think people do it because you can get more help if you are not married and if you don't have a good job, you can get more help that way.
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@carmat (2850)
• Canada
23 Jan 07
I see less and less people getting married and I think a lot of the reason around where I live (Atlantic Canada) is the fact that for a lot of people once your married you do lose out financially. When we got married (already had 2 children) my family allowance got cut in half because of the household income, I no longer qualified for GsT check, I know from hearing from people even family that that is the main reason that they wont get married...sad but true. People are accepting the hand outs from the government...they can get more that way...
@sunita64 (6470)
• India
8 Dec 06
Well as far as India is concerned percentage of live in couples is very less.sometimes there bond is stronger than any married couple.
@fotychic (318)
• United States
3 Dec 06
I think it is becomming old fashioned to a degree. It is kind of sad, really. I have seen people get married for all of the wrong reasons. One of my friends got married, because by doing so, she got paid more money (It is a military thing). I also have a friend who says she will never get married again, so she lives with her boyfriend and thier daughter, and they don't care to get married. To me, though, marriage means so much more. Marriage is the ultimate commitment to me.