Can we have a vote?
By Amber
@AmbiePam (119690)
United States
May 24, 2026 10:43am CST
Ok, for those who read my last discussion about those people who were hired to clean my apartment, and ended up throwing my $400 refrigerated medication away (even though it was clearly marked and in medicine bottles)…my dad has asked me not to say anything about it. He tried to act like it was no big deal, but finally asked that we not talk about it since it upsets him so much.
They will not be able to pay me back. They were overjoyed to get to be paid to clean my apartment because they are poor (yes, they have jobs but hers is only part time).
Odds are if I say something to them they’ll go apologize to my dad, and he’ll know I said something. Anger will ensue. However, this is a huge deal to me. I think they need to know.
I should see them next week at church. What do you think? Thank them for cleaning my apartment, but ask them why they threw my medicine away?
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@Juliaacv (55984)
• Canada
1h
I have to ask, are you certain that they threw out the medications, or did they take them?
I wanted to ask you that yesterday, but I didn't want to be too forward.
Can you find a way to discuss this with Diana?
If she can be neutral towards the feelings of your Dad, could she offer an acceptable solution?
She does know you both so well, and that is how I came to think of her.
You have a week to figure it out, and perhaps ask for her advice on the matter.
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@AmbiePam (119690)
• United States
34m
I don’t think the medicine would have benefited them so I assume they just threw it away. It’s possible they just took it, but my money is on they just tossed it. I’ll bring it up to Diana, but I think she’ll just echo what my dad said. And you know, maybe that’s the right answer. Maybe she can say something in addition that will make me feel better about this.
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@LooeyVille (61)
• United States
2h
Oh that's a tough one. Pardon me for this question: was the medicine expired? I guess I don't understand why they were cleaning out your refrigerator in the first place. Do you think your dad gave them instructions to throw away anything that looked unnecessary?
Like you said, you're not a slob, so why does your dad keep intervening and "cleaning" your house and throwing away your belongings? Do they feel that you're a hoarder?
I think that if you need the medication replaced you should ask your dad to pay for it. Saying anything to the couple will just cause problems.
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@AmbiePam (119690)
• United States
2h
No, it wasn’t expired, it held 3 weeks (out of 4) weeks left of medication.
No, they don’t think I’m a hoarder. I don’t have enough things to come near being a hoarder. Housing is coming to do an inspection Wednesday, and he thought he was doing something nice for me. I hadn’t cleaned out my refrigerator in awhile so he asked them to. I did have things to review in one big box, put neatly away in a closet, and they threw those things away too. They did fix my toilet without being asked. My dad was going to do it, and they actually ended up doing it.
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@MarieCoyle (58437)
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Just now
@AmbiePam
Who in the world gets into people's closets when they clean??? And that was so wrong, I'm sorry but they probably didn't toss your items to review--I imagine they went right out the door with them. That may sound mean of me, but it just seems likely. You NEED a camera on your door, to see who goes in and out and what they are doing...I am a pretty mellow person. But this would have made me very upset. You are handling it way better than I could have...not to mention the $400 medicine disappearing.
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@LooeyVille (61)
• United States
2h
@AmbiePam he really does mean well, but …it’s never okay for somebody to throw away somebody’s stuff without that person’s permission
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@snowy22315 (207959)
• United States
2h
I think it is entirely up to you what you say and don't say, but if it was up to me I wouldn't be able to resist saying something, even if it is just to warn them against this should they get to clean again. What a couple of idiots! I think if your dad is mad at anybody, it should be himself and the cleaners.This is a serious deal.
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@sallypup (69032)
• Centralia, Washington
2h
What a mess. I'm sorry all the way round, including your Dad's anger. You don't sound like you can handle a 400 dollar loss and those meds are essential for your physical health. To me, it sounds like you need to have a painful conversation with the well meaning cleaning folks. Hugs. Danged if you and danged if you don't.
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@MarieCoyle (58437)
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Just now
This IS a big deal. No one has any business touching anyone else's medications, ever. And of course there is the chance that they just took it with them, not tossed it. It would bother me either way, if they took it for themselves, or if it ended up in the trash and someone else took it. The fact that it was far from empty and had YOUR name on it is a big deal. Most people I know do not throw medications away, and for sure not with their name on the bottle!! They take them to an authorized place to get rid of them.
Your Dad doesn't want to talk about it, but it happened. What if they do it again? And WHY did they do it? You have the right to question this, and it was not only foolish on their part, it was an invasion of privacy. I am just so, so sorry this happened. 
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