After love marriage also why the people are approaching for divorce.

India
December 8, 2006 3:08pm CST
I have seen lot of cases even love marriage people are approaching for divorce.
4 responses
@ruby1459 (2602)
• United States
8 Dec 06
I have got divorced even though we've got married after love. It because my ex abused me by physically and mentally right after our marriage that I have never seen him done it to me before.I see no reasons to stay with this man even though it was a love marriage case.
• India
8 Dec 06
Madam why can't you guess before marriage.
@mansha (6301)
• India
8 Dec 06
She I think couldn't see it because vctims of abuse often feel that they must have done something to provoke the other person and since she loved him genuinely she tried to prove to him that she loves by staying married to him.That man was fool to not to trust her and subject her to abusive behavior.Men are smart enough to conceal their real selves during courtship and once they have trhe women were they want her to be they victimise her.Why am I explaining this to you-you also are a man after all.
• India
8 Dec 06
I do be good husband to my future wife. have a nice day.
@ramya186 (949)
• India
9 Dec 06
i think they r not adustant each othere properly and i think here no true love in the world around 20% only it is true love ....so only after marriage they r going for these type of dissusion
• India
9 Dec 06
They can understand both before marriage. have a nice day.
@mythmoh (3986)
• United States
8 Dec 06
i believe when they are in love they will express only their plus and no minus at all.but after marriage one has to see the other's minus also and hence a big disappointment and leading to drastic step in their life-divorce.Lack of understanding,infactuation and ego clash are the main reasons for divorce.
• India
9 Dec 06
Thanks for your response.
@mansha (6301)
• India
8 Dec 06
Marriage-love or arranged requires commitment and adjustment from both partners,if either one fails to do so couple do head for divorce. youknow a person as a lover before marriage does not mean you know the person well.Both of the partners in love come out of their respective homes groomed and well dressed-spend the day talking about irrelevant issues-spend money of their parents (if not earning) or their own earnings on titbits and go back.Once you start living with the person you learn about all the obnoxious habits he/she has.How poorly equiped she as a wife is and how tired you get once you come back from work or how rude your parents have been and still you have to adjust.I know of two cases where people married against their parents wishes and the other person was total mismatch.They are not happy but carrying on-no scene of divorce yet as its been only a year.In first case a boy married a girl thirteen years younger to him-boy till then had no stable job and had tendency to switch jobs frequently or remain jobless -girl was from affluent family.Though love marriage buit Boy reciieved quite a lot from girl's house.Girl refuses to keep any links to boty's family and she had made it clear before marriage.Can you see why boy married the girl? Next scenario a girl married a boy who works 24/7 and belongs to a poor conservative family-girl comes from a rich family with modern outlook.she is now forced to wear a veil even inside house as per the custom of boys house has to use public toilets as the boys father iws a mere vegetable vendor.she has not taken a single thing from her parents as a sign of protest.How long can this last?can you tell me ?
• India
8 Dec 06
Due to jobs also sometime it happening but adjustment is very important and also understanding. have a nice day.